School "lost" my vulnerable ADHD/ODD son today!

[3Daddy31982]

Head was nice to me. That in itself isn't normal. She said XXXX played a game with us today. I was a bit lost. Turns out they'd lost him for quite some time. He'd hidden in cupboard. Other child told us they'd been out shouting his name. Class children were also searching for him!

He has ehcp and meant to have a one to one. I've previously not been happy with TAs not watching him.

He also came out in huge sobbing tears.

When he'd calmed down he told us noone found him. He didn't want to go to assembly and they'd said he had to. He said he was on his own! Which he must have been if they didn't know where he was.

Gut feeling is he isn't safe at this school. Felt that way since Sept when my Dad went to pick third child up and saw him solo and unwatched.

@Hankunamatata

If child has dual diagnosis of asd. NAS are amazing they talked me through my appeal and got me extra hours

Has the child got ASD?

My son had full time 1:1 when he was in mainstream school - he moved to special school aged 7- so it is possible to get it. He did start off on less but his unsafe behaviour ( hurting himself and other people when distressed) meant that when we pushed it the LA were forced into increasing it. Hiding if not accompanied by very disruptive/aggressive/ self injurious behaviour will be difficult to prove need for more support because it isn't in itself unsafe. My son was also non verbal, not toilet trained and didn't understand instructions but it was only the challenging behaviour the LA were bothered about.

The school did not ‘lose’ your child. He ran off and hid. The number of paedophiles living in the area is irrelevant information as he was in school. 1:1 support does not mean there is an adult glued to his side that is an unrealistic view of what it’s like in a mainstream classroom. Your child decided he didn’t want to go to assembly so took himself off and hid. Staff realised this looked for him and found it. Not sure what you have to complain about as they took appropriate action.

@embod

The school did not ‘lose’ your child. He ran off and hid. The number of paedophiles living in the area is irrelevant information as he was in school. 1:1 support does not mean there is an adult glued to his side that is an unrealistic view of what it’s like in a mainstream classroom. Your child decided he didn’t want to go to assembly so took himself off and hid. Staff realised this looked for him and found it. Not sure what you have to complain about as they took appropriate action.

This is accurate!

I see that there are a lot of people on this thread with certain expectations of children in mainstream. In my county with its inclusion a child only gets special school in early years and ks1 if they have profound and multiple learning difficulties. A child who Is non verbal, doesn't understand speech, needs watching all the time and basically functioning at less than 2 years old wouldn't be given a place and may not be given full time 1:1 either.

@Catsnake “ In my county with its inclusion a child only gets”

that, is what’s known as “blanket policy” and is unlawful.

"that, is what’s known as “blanket policy” and is unlawful."

If a parent is prepared to challenge type of school, threaten tribunal etc they may get a special school place but that isn't the first place they are given by the LA unless they have multiple profound needs including physical and medical.
My point is that some posters seem to think all children with severe needs are in special school and all children in mainstream are capable of certain things when the reality is they are not. There were 3 non verbal severely developmentally delayed children needing constant supervision in my son's class in mainstream.

Oh I quite agree Catsnake. Infact in my LA, no one gets so much as a fiddle toy without tribunal.

I think you can make a safeguarding complaint to offsted for something like this. Not acceptable! There is a reason for 1:1 ehcp

Xxxx states he was left alone in the classroom. They went to assembly without him. He got bored and his in cupboard.

@TipperHendry...are we both in a NW UK county?

He was in his own classroom. He never ran anywhere. They left a vulnerable child alone in an empty classroom. 2 adults trusted to look after him. 2 adults who should have known better.

I've paid £1800 for reports to get to this point. Parents in need? Who are they?

Fwiw I've no intention of keeping either my 6 yo or 4 yo at this school

Parents in Need are a charity that can sometimes help fund report/assessments.

I will have a look. Thank you. 😊

You must do what makes it safe for him, but withdrawing his presence is not the same as withdrawing him from school. I’d write to school, LA, governors and ewo explaining what has happened at that you can’t return him to school until it is safe. Request tutors at home and direct payments for activities/respite/enrichment and sit back and let them, get on with it. This shit has been going on for years and is dreadful. If you ask for services they will find a cheaper solution.