Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….

[DontWantTheRivalry]

I’m in such a quandary.

Me, DH and DS (aged 7) tested positive last week.

DH was ill for a few days but was back at work on Day 7 after two negative LFTs.

I’m on Day 7 and my line is now starting to fade. I’ve been asymptomatic throughout.

DS is on Day 6, he has also been completely asymptomatic but his LFT is still positive.

My quandary is this…

DS and DH have got tickets to go to an event tomorrow that DS been looking forward to for about 6 months and this morning (after his latest LFT) we had to break the news to him that he wouldn’t be able to go and he was absolutely devastated. He started crying and it broke my heart.

He asked me if he could still go if he promised not to eat all day so he didn’t have to open his mouth and I just wanted to cry

Everything is a 1000 times worse because he’s absolutely fine, he’s not ill at all and it seems so unfair on him. This event is something that means a lot to him and his dad and I’m genuinely gutted that the positive LFT means he can’t go.

However, my problem is that my DH has just phoned me and said that he wants to take our son anyway as the event is outdoors and DH said he doesn’t want to DS to miss out on something that means a lot to him when he’s perfectly well. DH said that if we repeat the LFT in the morning and it’s faint then he’s going to take DS on the trip.

I feel so torn. I know it’s awful because I really do know that if he’s LFT positive he shouldn’t go, but as a mother of a distraught little boy it’s so hard to be the bad guy.

Do I need to put a stop to this?

Or would it be ok to just hand control over to DH and say “I don’t agree with what you’re doing but I physically can’t stop you taking him.”

I hate Covid.

I don’t know what to do or what to say to DH.

@Dguu6u can you show me the part where it says 24 hrs as 8 thought this but now can't see if for looking , thinking i must be really dim

I hope he has a lovely time!

@DontWantTheRivalry did you not have an email linking you to that advice as i did when da test registered and mine

I had text message from track and trace telling me clearly all in our house had to daily test for 7 days , not sure what age they make that from though

I had a text message shortly after my phone call but it was only detailing my isolation information, when my day 10 was, when I could start testing but there was no mention of my children.

During the phone call I told them I had been in close contact with three colleagues, my dad and my FIL in the 48 hours leading up to my LFT, but T&T didn’t ask for their names or contact details so I don’t actually know why they bothered asking the question?!

@Blondeshavemorefun

He may be testing neg now in the evening but it’s 2 neg 24hr apart

So he can go out Tom 830/9pm if tests neg again then..

24hrs after 1st test

Not 10/12hrs

Lmfao

Unless the event is after 20.30h tomorrow this doesn’t matter - you are legally obliged to keep him in isolation as he can still spread Covid. You need to do a second test after 24h and if that’s negative, he can end isolation

So let me get this straight… at 20.15pm he can spread covid, but at 20.31 he can’t?

@Ahhhhhbisto

Oh bless him. I'd let him go. My DS was still testing positive on day 11 when isolation had ended so what's the difference?

Viral load.

My grandmother was still testing positive on day 16 and she works in a hospital. In order to return to work they did a cyclar test or something and if the number was under 30 she was still infectious. She was at 26, so still infectious.

Most other people aren't infectious on day 16.

So let me get this straight… at 20.15pm he can spread covid, but at 20.31 he can’t?

It's all so stupid at this point. I hope you let him go, OP.

So let me get this straight… at 20.15pm he can spread covid, but at 20.31 he can’t?

Well obviously. At 20.30 and 59 seconds he will become covid safe.

I couldn't see anything about 24 hours, people make stuff up as they go along, it says 2 separate days but that could be now and tomorrow morning

@User7698365 no i can't see it either but have heard it mentioned but maybe that was on here I can't remember now or maybe its on guidance i was sent i will look

@Delatron

Oh bore off all those ‘you must wait until precisely 20.05pm to be released’ do you have any idea how stupid you sound?

Do you realise how thick you sound? There’s a reason for this - it’s to stop people like OP testing a few hours apart hoping for a negative result, then ending isolation too early while still being contagious. That’s the bit you don’t seem to get - there is plenty of data on risks of being contagious after certain days and after two tests. If you go out early, chances are you are still contagious.

@DontWantTheRivalry I did all mine online As did ds then my dh got email s did i , not spoken to track and trace though

@User7698365

I couldn't see anything about 24 hours, people make stuff up as they go along, it says 2 separate days but that could be now and tomorrow morning

Under the heading ‘background’

www.gov.uk/government/news/self-isolation-for-those-with-covid-19-can-end-after-five-full-days-following-two-negative-lfd-tests

@User7698365 it's stated on the UK gov site that the tests need to be 24 hours apart www.gov.uk/government/news/self-isolation-for-those-with-covid-19-can-end-after-five-full-days-following-two-negative-lfd-tests

Maybe it was on the original guidance for 7 days, the one that came out just before Christmas but it has changed since then to 5 full days from 7 so they probably tinkered a bit with it

@Dguu6u no i can't see it just says consecutive

@Wheelz46 where on your link

@Dguu6u

Right so you suddenly stop being contagious once the clock strikes 8pm... Ridiculous claim. It’s as though all common sense and critical thinking has gone out of the window here.

We must all follow the arbitrary rules that make no sense. I think we know who the ones lacking intelligence are...

Make sure you do another in the morning and don’t just rely on one negative test when you’ve had two positive ones today.

Unless the event is after 20.30h tomorrow this doesn’t matter - you are legally obliged to keep him in isolation as he can still spread Covid. You need to do a second test after 24h and if that’s negative, he can end isolation

Save your breath. OP was always going to let him go anyway. Safe in the knowledge MN said she could.
I call bullshite on the sudden negative test anyway. Easy enough to fake.

Sorry but i still can't see the 24 hrs between tests or on what i was sent but have heard it but maybe on here I guess 119 should know
Anyway i have this dilemma ds18 tested negative first time today , day 9 if he tests tomorrow negative day 10.
Would you think it allowed he plays in a team contact sport, outside ?
Guidance is wishy washy
He done full 10 days as of midnight tomorrow anyway
He will do tests 10 days apart as likely when he will get up anyway

Yep I would let him go !

* 24 hrs apart not 10 days

Pretty sure the guidance says even if two consecutive days are negative, should still limit contacts and take precautions. Not sure a massive football match fits that. The OP was always going to let her son go though, 33 pages of absolute irrelevance in that respect.