Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….

[DontWantTheRivalry]

I’m in such a quandary.

Me, DH and DS (aged 7) tested positive last week.

DH was ill for a few days but was back at work on Day 7 after two negative LFTs.

I’m on Day 7 and my line is now starting to fade. I’ve been asymptomatic throughout.

DS is on Day 6, he has also been completely asymptomatic but his LFT is still positive.

My quandary is this…

DS and DH have got tickets to go to an event tomorrow that DS been looking forward to for about 6 months and this morning (after his latest LFT) we had to break the news to him that he wouldn’t be able to go and he was absolutely devastated. He started crying and it broke my heart.

He asked me if he could still go if he promised not to eat all day so he didn’t have to open his mouth and I just wanted to cry

Everything is a 1000 times worse because he’s absolutely fine, he’s not ill at all and it seems so unfair on him. This event is something that means a lot to him and his dad and I’m genuinely gutted that the positive LFT means he can’t go.

However, my problem is that my DH has just phoned me and said that he wants to take our son anyway as the event is outdoors and DH said he doesn’t want to DS to miss out on something that means a lot to him when he’s perfectly well. DH said that if we repeat the LFT in the morning and it’s faint then he’s going to take DS on the trip.

I feel so torn. I know it’s awful because I really do know that if he’s LFT positive he shouldn’t go, but as a mother of a distraught little boy it’s so hard to be the bad guy.

Do I need to put a stop to this?

Or would it be ok to just hand control over to DH and say “I don’t agree with what you’re doing but I physically can’t stop you taking him.”

I hate Covid.

I don’t know what to do or what to say to DH.

Awesome OP, delighted for him

Yay!!! This is such great news!!!!

Your DD sounds so lovely btw 😊

@jupitermars1345

OK, maybe flu? Oh wait, there’s a vaccine for that.

There is one for covid as well?

Yeah I knew I’d have to spell it out. The flu vaccine protects against the most common strains of the flu, If you’re exposed to one of those, you’ll not catch or spread it. Unlike Covid. And Covid is more contagious and more deadly

DS*

and more deadly

This variant of Covid is not. At all.

Oh negative was it? How convenient.

He may be testing neg now in the evening but it’s 2 neg 24hr apart

So he can go out Tom 830/9pm if tests neg again then..

24hrs after 1st test

Not 10/12hrs

That is good news OP

Let him go!

Just curious on this - in Ireland every close contact gets a text alert (to parents if it's a child) and they specify who needs to restrict movements of not, and when you need to test. All close contacts test. Is that not something that happens in England?

I had a 50 minute phone call with T&T on the day I logged my positive LFT and although they asked for my children’s details they didn’t say anything about them needing to be tested every day.

@girlabouthome

Let him go!

Bismillah! We will not let you go!

@Blondeshavemorefun

He may be testing neg now in the evening but it’s 2 neg 24hr apart

So he can go out Tom 830/9pm if tests neg again then..

24hrs after 1st test

Not 10/12hrs

🙄

Can you not see how ridiculous this sounds?

There isn't a magic moment that Covid is all gone.

He is not going to putting anyone at risk at 9am tomorrow, compared to 9pm

@DontWantTheRivalry

Just curious on this - in Ireland every close contact gets a text alert (to parents if it's a child) and they specify who needs to restrict movements of not, and when you need to test. All close contacts test. Is that not something that happens in England?

I had a 50 minute phone call with T&T on the day I logged my positive LFT and although they asked for my children’s details they didn’t say anything about them needing to be tested every day.

That's interesting OP. And confusing!

I would let him go. We are probably all asymptomatically carry and pass on various viruses all year round without knowing about it and anyone CEV or living with someone CEV would not risk being in a huge crowd.

If you do let him go, you need to tell him that the test is negative. Don't let him think that the rules don't apply to him - you'll raise a horror if you do that.

@Blondeshavemorefun Sorry, hadnt realised you were the covid police. It is a negative test and he is 'asymptomatic'. Of course he should go and have a great day with his dad.

Bismillah! We will not let you go!

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@DontWantTheRivalry

This is definitely negative now!!!

Unless the event is after 20.30h tomorrow this doesn’t matter - you are legally obliged to keep him in isolation as he can still spread Covid. You need to do a second test after 24h and if that’s negative, he can end isolation.

I’m pleased he will get to go. He must be so excited, bless him.

And I can’t wait for this madness of testing and isolating healthy children to stop!

@EarringsandLipstick i had text message from track and trace telling me clearly all in our house had to daily test for 7 days , not sure what age they make that from though

I’m not the covid police but the rules are 2 neg of 24hrs apart

I didn’t make the rules

Sadly if op had taken more notice she would have been testing ds from the day dh had a positive test so he would have been on day 10 by now

Oh bore off all those ‘you must wait until precisely 20.05pm to be released’ do you have any idea how stupid you sound?

I'd let him go.

Let him go with a mask. There will be plenty of people there who are positive who haven't even bothered testing.

@Blondeshavemorefun see i read that on here 2 24 hr apart but I couldn't see it on the guidance am I looking in the wrong place?
My ds done test 11.30 am and he is due to play sport tomorrow if negative again
We plan to test at 11:30 as I read 24hrs apart as well but quick look at the guidance and I couldn't see?
Its also mentions limiting contact when coming out early either you can come out or not
Im now wondering should ds play contact sport game tomorrow even if negative ( which will be 2 in 24 hrs) and on day 10 ? Guidance can be contradictive

@Delatron

Oh bore off all those ‘you must wait until precisely 20.05pm to be released’ do you have any idea how stupid you sound?

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