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Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….

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DontWantTheRivalry · 28/01/2022 12:39

I’m in such a quandary.

Me, DH and DS (aged 7) tested positive last week.

DH was ill for a few days but was back at work on Day 7 after two negative LFTs.

I’m on Day 7 and my line is now starting to fade. I’ve been asymptomatic throughout.

DS is on Day 6, he has also been completely asymptomatic but his LFT is still positive.

My quandary is this…

DS and DH have got tickets to go to an event tomorrow that DS been looking forward to for about 6 months and this morning (after his latest LFT) we had to break the news to him that he wouldn’t be able to go and he was absolutely devastated. He started crying and it broke my heart.

He asked me if he could still go if he promised not to eat all day so he didn’t have to open his mouth and I just wanted to cry Sad

Everything is a 1000 times worse because he’s absolutely fine, he’s not ill at all and it seems so unfair on him. This event is something that means a lot to him and his dad and I’m genuinely gutted that the positive LFT means he can’t go.

However, my problem is that my DH has just phoned me and said that he wants to take our son anyway as the event is outdoors and DH said he doesn’t want to DS to miss out on something that means a lot to him when he’s perfectly well. DH said that if we repeat the LFT in the morning and it’s faint then he’s going to take DS on the trip.

I feel so torn. I know it’s awful because I really do know that if he’s LFT positive he shouldn’t go, but as a mother of a distraught little boy it’s so hard to be the bad guy.

Do I need to put a stop to this?

Or would it be ok to just hand control over to DH and say “I don’t agree with what you’re doing but I physically can’t stop you taking him.”

I hate Covid.

I don’t know what to do or what to say to DH.

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Finallygotme · 28/01/2022 20:00

@Yesmate

I am genuinely baffled by some of the responses on this thread. That faint line is still a positive result. We had the same here today and my DS (8) is having to forgo a football match tomorrow. He still has covid and is still infectious. He has bit had one symptom, that doesn’t make him less infectious. Whether there will be people there that have it and don’t know is irrelevant, your son has it and you do know. It’s not a fun decision to make and it’s shit for the kids but a faint ok e is still a positive result. Also, this might have been covered but the day you take the test day zero.
But lots of people still test positive on day 10, what do you suggest they do?
KeepingAnOpenMind · 28/01/2022 20:01

Don’t be a covid cultist.
Let him enjoy his childhood. This is all utterly ridiculous.

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DontWantTheRivalry · 28/01/2022 20:03

I’m embarrassed that a significant proportion of our society thinks it’s ok to carry on denying children life and learning experiences when they are fit and healthy on the off chance that they’ll pass on a mild illness to people who could choose not to go to a crowded football match.

See, when I read this I think you’re absolutely right and it’s ridiculous to not let him go.

I can hear him downstairs singing his favourite football chants.

I really hope his LFT is negative tomorrow.

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takeasadsongandmakeitbetter · 28/01/2022 20:03

I would also let him go

LyricalBlowToTheJaw · 28/01/2022 20:04

I’m embarrassed that a significant proportion of our society thinks it’s ok to carry on denying children life and learning experiences when they are fit and healthy on the off chance that they’ll pass on a mild illness to people who could choose not to go to a crowded football match.

This.

Wheelz46 · 28/01/2022 20:07

I thought you had to have 2 have 2 negative tests 24 hours apart for isolation to end before day 10?

Anna10309 · 28/01/2022 20:07

Gosh poor ds! I really feel for you. Fingers crossed its a negative.

over2021 · 28/01/2022 20:08

Another vote for letting him go

AngeloMysterioso · 28/01/2022 20:09

I’m embarrassed that a significant proportion of our society thinks it’s ok to carry on denying children life and learning experiences when they are fit and healthy on the off chance that they’ll pass on a mild illness to people who could choose not to go to a crowded football match.

Abso-fucking-lutely.

saraclara · 28/01/2022 20:11

@LyricalBlowToTheJaw

I’m embarrassed that a significant proportion of our society thinks it’s ok to carry on denying children life and learning experiences when they are fit and healthy on the off chance that they’ll pass on a mild illness to people who could choose not to go to a crowded football match.

This.

Absolutely.

If anyone is at massive risk from Covid, they will not be attending a football match at the very point when people have been told they don't need to wear masks.

Please tell your boy that his test is negative, even if there's the faintest of lines.

Blondeshavemorefun · 28/01/2022 20:13

@Wheelz46

I thought you had to have 2 have 2 negative tests 24 hours apart for isolation to end before day 10?
You do

So even if op ds tests neg Tom, he’s not allowed out till Sunday as long as 2nd is neg as well

PintOfBovril · 28/01/2022 20:14

I'd let him go. Please let him go.

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DontWantTheRivalry · 28/01/2022 20:19

We’ve just done his test and it’s looking promising…

Just waiting for the full 20 minutes to be up.

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Girliefriendlikespuppies · 28/01/2022 20:19

Your poor son, it wouldnt even occur to me to test an asymptomatic child.

Poor kids, they have suffered so much for illness that doesn't affect them.

Let him go.

EarringsandLipstick · 28/01/2022 20:20

@PintOfBovril

I'd let him go. Please let him go.
I agree. Please let him go. I know these are the rules in England. Another poster provided Irish ones (where I am) and he'd be allowed to go by those.

My point being the specific rules are arbitrary. There's no scientific basis specifically behind those Day 7 / two negative antigen test rules.

Yesmate · 28/01/2022 20:21

@Finallygotme I suggest they follow the rules. They may be changing yes, they haven’t yet. The rules are for everyone, yes some people (Boris I’m looking at you) don’t follow them but then we are outraged. We can’t make our own up.

LethargicActress · 28/01/2022 20:23

See, when I read this I think you’re absolutely right and it’s ridiculous to not let him go.

On this, I and the posters that agree really are right, and it is ridiculous.

I work with kids and it breaks my heart how distorted their little lives have become, especially when I read about excited little boys like yours missing out on something they can never get back.

The risk of any actual harm from your sons masked and symptomless covid is minuscule, in comparison to something he’ll either remember with happiness or sadness for the rest of his life. Sorry if that sounds dramatic but I think children have done more than enough already to contribute to the cause.

Yesmate · 28/01/2022 20:23

@LethargicActress I agree with the sentiment and I wish we could all just rub free but we aren’t there yet. The risk isn’t necessarily to those at the football match. They catch it. They may then pass it on to a vulnerable child that hasn’t been able to be vaccinated yet. That’s the risk.

Delatron · 28/01/2022 20:24

The rules are indeed arbitrary and vary from country to country and will be different again here very soon.

How strange that everyone is so obsessed with ‘the rules’

Benjispruce5 · 28/01/2022 20:25

@Girliefriendlikespuppies but it does affect children. We’ve had several off school with it for a few weeks. They now test negative but are not well enough to return as they’ve got chest infections etc. There are children in hospital with Omicron.

Yesmate · 28/01/2022 20:26

@LethargicActress run free. I don’t want anyone rubbing me particularly 😂

Benjispruce5 · 28/01/2022 20:26

Even if most children get it mildly, they pass it on to others. How long is it going to take to get that message through?

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DontWantTheRivalry · 28/01/2022 20:26

Your poor son, it wouldnt even occur to me to test an asymptomatic child.

Well I didn’t for the first three days following his dad’s positive results for the same reason as you, and it’s only after this thread did I realise I should have been.

We have only tested our 4 year old three times over the last 8 days. We tested him for three days straight after our eldest son got his positive, but as they were all negative we just stopped (thread has now made me see the error of my ways though).

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Delatron · 28/01/2022 20:27

This sums it up basically

DiddyHeck · 28/01/2022 20:29

@Belladonna12

Well quite. God, it's shocking how people are so clueless...

Why is it "shocking" that someone is clueless about football matches? Not everyone is interested in football.

It's not. I was quoting a PP.
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