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Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….

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DontWantTheRivalry · 28/01/2022 12:39

I’m in such a quandary.

Me, DH and DS (aged 7) tested positive last week.

DH was ill for a few days but was back at work on Day 7 after two negative LFTs.

I’m on Day 7 and my line is now starting to fade. I’ve been asymptomatic throughout.

DS is on Day 6, he has also been completely asymptomatic but his LFT is still positive.

My quandary is this…

DS and DH have got tickets to go to an event tomorrow that DS been looking forward to for about 6 months and this morning (after his latest LFT) we had to break the news to him that he wouldn’t be able to go and he was absolutely devastated. He started crying and it broke my heart.

He asked me if he could still go if he promised not to eat all day so he didn’t have to open his mouth and I just wanted to cry Sad

Everything is a 1000 times worse because he’s absolutely fine, he’s not ill at all and it seems so unfair on him. This event is something that means a lot to him and his dad and I’m genuinely gutted that the positive LFT means he can’t go.

However, my problem is that my DH has just phoned me and said that he wants to take our son anyway as the event is outdoors and DH said he doesn’t want to DS to miss out on something that means a lot to him when he’s perfectly well. DH said that if we repeat the LFT in the morning and it’s faint then he’s going to take DS on the trip.

I feel so torn. I know it’s awful because I really do know that if he’s LFT positive he shouldn’t go, but as a mother of a distraught little boy it’s so hard to be the bad guy.

Do I need to put a stop to this?

Or would it be ok to just hand control over to DH and say “I don’t agree with what you’re doing but I physically can’t stop you taking him.”

I hate Covid.

I don’t know what to do or what to say to DH.

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Flynnqwer · 28/01/2022 19:33

Let the lad go. He'd be on day 10 anyway if he'd tested the same day as his dad, the test is fading, tomorrow will be his day 8 - he's well past the most contagious days even with a faded lateral flow, it's an outdoor event and no one CEV is going to go to a crowded event.

Honestly, I think you're being ridiculous if you don't let him go. The risk of him passing it to anyone at this point is negligible.

HoneyFlowers · 28/01/2022 19:34

The rules are there for a reason... To protect others we do not know. When I go out I trust others are following the rules to protect me.

worriedatthemoment · 28/01/2022 19:34

Could you do another LFt now and then one tomorrow see what they say
Im on day 5 done a lft and clear but ive never actually tested positive on a LFt only a pcr so knew that would be the case
Ds is only just got first clear LFT on day 9 and praying for one tomorrow as he has a sport event

Original poster
DontWantTheRivalry · 28/01/2022 19:36

Thanks everyone for your continued thoughts.

DS is jumping around the living room asking to be tested again as he’s so excited by how much his line had faded this afternoon that he wants to see if it’s faded even more.

I’m also hoping mine is negative tomorrow as I’m going stir crazy being stuck in the house - especially with two children who are suffocating each other.

I’ve told him he can be tested before bed and he’s just acting hyper now Grin

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worriedatthemoment · 28/01/2022 19:38

@DropYourSword but coughs can last for 3 week ?

TenoringBehind · 28/01/2022 19:39

I’d let him go

Cherryblossoms85 · 28/01/2022 19:39

Just test him in the morning. Sounds like there'll be no line so I'd probably take that as good enough.

CrocodilesCry · 28/01/2022 19:41
Confused I’m embarrassed for you that you think it’s ok to let him go.
nixon1976 · 28/01/2022 19:42

Let him go!

grapewine · 28/01/2022 19:46

I'd let him go with a mask on. But I hope he has a negative test tomorrow, and then he'd definitely be going. Poor kid.

Yesmate · 28/01/2022 19:46

I am genuinely baffled by some of the responses on this thread. That faint line is still a positive result. We had the same here today and my DS (8) is having to forgo a football match tomorrow. He still has covid and is still infectious. He has bit had one symptom, that doesn’t make him less infectious. Whether there will be people there that have it and don’t know is irrelevant, your son has it and you do know. It’s not a fun decision to make and it’s shit for the kids but a faint ok e is still a positive result. Also, this might have been covered but the day you take the test day zero.

MichelleScarn · 28/01/2022 19:47

@CrocodilesCry

Confused I’m embarrassed for you that you think it’s ok to let him go.
Why would you be embarrassed if op lets him go if he had a negative test? 🤔
worriedatthemoment · 28/01/2022 19:48

@Thirtytimesround but people can cone out earlier now if they have tested negative 2 days after day 5 or whatever , so many are leaving isolation sooner than the 10 days now

Yesmate · 28/01/2022 19:48

OP, you said you hope you are negative tomorrow so you can go out. You were still positive today. You also need two negative tests.

chaosrabbitland · 28/01/2022 19:50

@CrocodilesCry

Confused I’m embarrassed for you that you think it’s ok to let him go.
im embarrassed for you that you think its not ok for him to , soon we wont have to isolate anymore anyway , get a grip
worriedatthemoment · 28/01/2022 19:52

@Belladonna12 most special matches would be if lower league team with plenty of space you would just go to a match another week
Every game i have been to i have been close to people and I have been to hundreds
My son goes fo our local lower league team and hes still close to people

DishwashDogsDickens · 28/01/2022 19:52

I would tell him he was negative tonight and tomrrow and let him go

You are weighing it up and making an informed choice about reduced risk , outdoors, nearly day10

But you don’t want to confuse him about your boundaries whilst you make one exception

It’s fine

TheKeatingFive · 28/01/2022 19:52

I'd let him go with a mask on. But I hope he has a negative test tomorrow, and then he'd definitely be going. Poor kid.

This

DishwashDogsDickens · 28/01/2022 19:53

But don’t share buses/ trams ( instead, Drive ) and say you still prefer to keep masks on when indoors as you have vulnerable relatives

Hope he has fun

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 28/01/2022 19:54

Day 7 and an outdoor event I would let him go.

AncrenneWisse · 28/01/2022 19:54

Asymptomatic kid, one week on with a fading line to an outdoor event? Let the kid go. There will probably be a lot of other asymptomatic people who didn’t have the bad luck to be tested... so they don’t even know.

Look, this thing is very, very infectious and almost certainly even very careful people will be exposed to it eventually, if they haven’t been already.

It isn’t, on the whole, making anyone vaccinated even very ill, let alone killing them, so don’t be guilt tripped. Tell his father (and your child) to stay away (a long way away) from other children, who may not be vaccinated, in the highly unlikely even that some other parent has taken an extremely vulnerable unvaccinated child to this event.

The adults all know the risks and have all had the opportunity to get vaxxed. Given the prevalence of this virus, how contagious it is, and how likely it seems that some people they are mixing with will have it without knowing, these adults will have (or should have) already factored their own risks and decided the event was worth it to them.

Your child can’t make this judgment, but you can make it for him. If he still feels fine, let him go (whatever his morning test says) .

And don’t feel bad about it at all.

Original poster
DontWantTheRivalry · 28/01/2022 19:55

OP, you said you hope you are negative tomorrow so you can go out. You were still positive today. You also need two negative tests.

I didn’t say I wanted to go out tomorrow, I just said I hope I’m negative as I’m going stir crazy and if I at least get my first negative it means I’m one day closer to being able to leave the house.

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LyricalBlowToTheJaw · 28/01/2022 19:57

Not a chance would my kid be missing this.

CallMeK · 28/01/2022 19:58

I'd 100% let him go!

LethargicActress · 28/01/2022 19:59

@CrocodilesCry

Confused I’m embarrassed for you that you think it’s ok to let him go.
I’m embarrassed that a significant proportion of our society thinks it’s ok to carry on denying children life and learning experiences when they are fit and healthy on the off chance that they’ll pass on a mild illness to people who could choose not to go to a crowded football match.