We can see our neighbour’s bathroom - WWYD?

[rumbuba]

We live on a street of terraced houses. Opposite us is a house split into flats.
Upstairs flat has a bathroom at the front, with terribly frosted glass and no blinds, but what looks like a curtain to one side.
I think their shower is right at the window because you can often, clearly, see bodies.

My kids bedroom is the one that faces their flat.
They happily shout out / giggle when there’s a “naked bum” at the window and I remind them that it’s a shower and the privacy glass isn’t great so just ignore / not nice to stare etc. Not a big deal.

However, for the second time, I have had to distract a kid from the naked person opposite a lot more hastily because the naked person is enjoying their own company rather a lot.

I’ve discussed this with my husband and my neighbours and here’s what we’ve come up with:

1. Post a note through their door to ask if they could pull the curtain when they use the shower as the frosted glass is not effective (my idea)
2. Post a note but with a haiku (neighbour 1’s idea, my husband’s words “Personal pleasure // Bathroom curtain left open // Neighbour eyeballs scorched”
3. Put a sign up on our window “if you can read this, we can see you” (my husband’s idea)
4. Next time, take a photo and post it in as blackmail (neighbour 2)
5. Take a photo and project it onto the outside of their house (also neighbour 2)
6. Do nothing, say nothing, don’t make eye contact, don’t let my kids look out of the window.

So, AIBU to go with #1? Should we go for something else?
Any ideas not on the list that we should consider?

[PinkWaferBiscuit]

Why haven't you already been round to tell them that their frosted glass isn't doing its job. Surely the kindest thing to do would have been to tell them ASAP and spare them the embarrassment?

[DoTheMerengue]

You could get really good frosted glass in your kid’s bedroom.

[PAFMO]

You sound like you (and your kids) spend a hell of a lot of time waiting for the poor neighbours to use their bathroom.

[Annabelll]

Haiku. 100%.

[Electriq]

Number one is really the only reasonable solution or a tap on the door to let them know, embarrassing, but what is currently happening is much more embarrassing all round, it should not have gone on this long.

[reallyworriedjobhunter]

Number 1! But keep the note anonymous.

[PAFMO]

Jesus, I missed the bit where you're gossiping about them with the other neighbours.
Aren't you all just hilarious.

[TyrionsNextWife]

Option 1 isn’t the funniest, but would probably be most effective

[FangsForTheMemory]

Definitely the haiku. also, take a photo from your window and post THAT through their door.

[SignOnTheWindow]

Haiku. Definitely!

[PinkWaferBiscuit]

@reallyworriedjobhunter

Number 1! But keep the note anonymous.

Why keep it anonymous. Honestly just be a bloody grown up and go and tell them. The OP seems to have had no problems discussing the issue with all her other neighbours so I'm not sure why actually telling the ones who need to be told should be some grand task which requires notes anonymous or otherwise.

[TheHoptimist]

We dont have any frosting or curtains in 1 of our bathrooms
Look away if you dont want to see (only 1 flat can see in-maybe 2 but I also doesnt have any frosting)

We know but dont care. Its a big room with naked people for less than 10 minutes a day

[rumbuba]

@PAFMO

Jesus, I missed the bit where you're gossiping about them with the other neighbours.
Aren't you all just hilarious.

I should mention neighbours 1&2 are a couple and our friends.

[EmmaH2022]

1 is fine

[ilovemybeachhut]

Let them know it's a problem with a note, there is no need to embarrass anyone.

[PAFMO]

So you're gossiping about these people with your neighbours who are also your friends...it's still unpleasant and childish.

[LapinR0se]

I would either get a blind or frosted glass on your window. They’re probably wondering why you haven’t done that yet

[Ellavoday]

Haiku, deffo.

For the long term, maybe plan some fast growing bamboo at the back of your garden?

[jimmyhill]

Why be so subtle about it?

"The glass in your bathroom window is not as frosted as it should be. Our children can see you wanking in the shower. If this happens again we will call the police and you will end up on the sex offenders register."

[heyitsthistle]

Haaaaaiku !

[mightytights4]

Take a photo and post it in this thread.

Guarantee the daily fail will pick up the story. Hopefully the neighbour will see it there. Job done.

[WhyYesYABU]

I would like a drink with neighbour 2, but did also particularly enjoy the haiku.

[rumbuba]

@Ellavoday

Haiku, deffo.

For the long term, maybe plan some fast growing bamboo at the back of your garden?

Sorry if it wasn't clear, this flat is across the street, not over the back.

[StarsAreWishes]

Option 4

(And I think some posters don’t really get that you intended the options to be lighthearted)

[Hugasauras]

I think 1 is probably the most sensible, but I do love a haiku!

But someone wanking in view of people needs to be stopped any way possible really.