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We can see our neighbour’s bathroom - WWYD?

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rumbuba · 24/01/2022 20:49

We live on a street of terraced houses. Opposite us is a house split into flats.
Upstairs flat has a bathroom at the front, with terribly frosted glass and no blinds, but what looks like a curtain to one side.
I think their shower is right at the window because you can often, clearly, see bodies.

My kids bedroom is the one that faces their flat.
They happily shout out / giggle when there’s a “naked bum” at the window and I remind them that it’s a shower and the privacy glass isn’t great so just ignore / not nice to stare etc. Not a big deal.

However, for the second time, I have had to distract a kid from the naked person opposite a lot more hastily because the naked person is enjoying their own company rather a lot.

I’ve discussed this with my husband and my neighbours and here’s what we’ve come up with:

1.	Post a note through their door to ask if they could pull the curtain when they use the shower as the frosted glass is not effective (my idea)
2.	Post a note but with a haiku (neighbour 1’s idea, my husband’s words “Personal pleasure // Bathroom curtain left open // Neighbour eyeballs scorched”
3.	Put a sign up on our window “if you can read this, we can see you” (my husband’s idea)
4.	Next time, take a photo and post it in as blackmail (neighbour 2)
5.	Take a photo and project it onto the outside of their house (also neighbour 2)
6.	Do nothing, say nothing, don’t make eye contact, don’t let my kids look out of the window.

So, AIBU to go with #1? Should we go for something else?
Any ideas not on the list that we should consider?

OP posts:
Ugzbugz · 24/01/2022 22:12

Who wanks in front of any window, frosted or not.

Sounds like he knows exactly what he's doing Hmm

BitterTits · 24/01/2022 22:14

@BeckyWithTheGoodHair010101

Is it close enough to pick up your wifi signal? If so change your wifi to: WeCanSeeYouWankingInTheShower
Love this Grin
Yogipineapple123 · 24/01/2022 22:14

@jimmyhill

Why be so subtle about it?

"The glass in your bathroom window is not as frosted as it should be. Our children can see you wanking in the shower. If this happens again we will call the police and you will end up on the sex offenders register."

This, but as a haiku
StoatMilk · 24/01/2022 22:14

Stop looking 🤷🏻‍♀️

Rewritethestars1 · 24/01/2022 22:14

MN really is a weird and wonderful place. Screams while cutting cakes, wails in the Sistine Chapel, penis beakers and now wanking haiku. The rabbit hole just gets deeper and deeper.

SantaClawsServiette · 24/01/2022 22:14

Haiku. Or even a sonnet?

FurbleSocks · 24/01/2022 22:15

@Ugzbugz

Who wanks in front of any window, frosted or not.

Sounds like he knows exactly what he's doing Hmm

Loads of men wank in the shower I learnt from MN
ChampagneLassie · 24/01/2022 22:15

I never understand why people have such consternation over such things. Do option 1, ASAP. Everything else is werid.

MangosteenSoda · 24/01/2022 22:21

A house across from me has this. Thankfully not the shower wanking, but I can see them sitting on the loo then getting up, wiping, washing hands.

I just assume they don’t care because surely everyone knows that frosted glass is not opaque enough. I might start composing poetry now Grin

Haiku all the way. It’s a no brainer.

Flobbertybillop · 24/01/2022 22:22

@PAFMO

So you're gossiping about these people with your neighbours who are also your friends...it's still unpleasant and childish.
You’re joking right? You wouldn’t discuss this with a friend? It’s ok to ask advice on mumsnet but not your mate?
perimenofertility · 24/01/2022 22:27

Terrible frosted glass
We can see your arse
We also see you wanking
For that we are not thanking
Our eyeballs are hurting
Please draw your curtain

Emmelina · 24/01/2022 22:28

Haiku!

CleoUK · 24/01/2022 22:31

We have knocked on the door and told our neighbors (on to the opposite side of the road) that we could see into their bathroom when the lights are on. They have sorted their frosted window the same day 😉
We know them well so it was easier to knock then write a note.
Go with option 1

thinking123 · 24/01/2022 22:34

We have this with a neighbour to the back of our house. They cut down some trees and now it's all on view. I want to
Put a note through but they would know it was us, due to the angle of the houses it could only be us. They are so nice and I can't bring myself to say anything. I just avert my eyes.

Besswess88 · 24/01/2022 22:36

I have had this for 16 years 🤣🤣 watched him receive a BJ whilst having a family BBQ 🤣🤣🤣

Ellie56 · 24/01/2022 22:37

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

I think a limmerick would be more effective than a Haiku

There once was a neighbour who thought she
Could shower in complete priv - a -cy
The frosting was shot
And the whole street got
A view of her washing her pussy

Grin Grin
Fink · 24/01/2022 22:40

While a haiku is pretty, I think a more direct note would do the job more effectively. A haiku just doesn't have enough syllables to unequivocally mean one thing to someone who's not already in on the message in these circumstances. If I got a random haiku through my door, I'd probably bin it and think it was from some weirdo, if I got a note saying 'dear neighbour, the frosted glass in your bathroom isn't very effective and we can see you showering. Also, we have seen you masturbating twice', I would be in no doubt as to what it meant.

WhiteJellycat · 24/01/2022 22:40

@jimmyhill

Why be so subtle about it?

"The glass in your bathroom window is not as frosted as it should be. Our children can see you wanking in the shower. If this happens again we will call the police and you will end up on the sex offenders register."

This but without the last sentence. So many people do this I dont get it. The back of our house over looks a car park and behind that a school. Only we have a blind and it's always down. You can see everything but in a blurry outline. As said by pp people know and they dont care. I can see my mums neighbour when I pulled the curtains shut. But undoubtedly someone will be doing more than glancing.

Put the note through. they either be mortified or replace the glass without frosting 😂

OneTC · 24/01/2022 22:43

Is it close enough to pick up your wifi signal? If so change your wifi to: WeCanSeeYouWankingInTheShower

😀

GatoradeMeBitch · 24/01/2022 22:46

You could get really good frosted glass in your kid’s bedroom.

That won't stop them putting on a free sex show for all other overlooking neighbours though.

ViceLikeBlip · 24/01/2022 22:47

The people on here who want you to get frosted glass for your kids' bedroom 🤣🤣🤣

Whatsyourfavouritescarymovie · 24/01/2022 22:48

I'd go 4 or 5

Smokybacontayto · 24/01/2022 22:50

Your frosted glass
Shows us your ass
Our kids may laugh
To see you in the bath
But it's rather more dodge
When you play with your todge

Grin
choosername1234 · 24/01/2022 22:50

I would suspect he knows he can be seen and that is why he does it

Ugzbugz · 24/01/2022 22:52

Oh I know they wank In the shower but why in front of a window! Think he likes being watched Confused

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