We can see our neighbour’s bathroom - WWYD?

[rumbuba]

We live on a street of terraced houses. Opposite us is a house split into flats.
Upstairs flat has a bathroom at the front, with terribly frosted glass and no blinds, but what looks like a curtain to one side.
I think their shower is right at the window because you can often, clearly, see bodies.

My kids bedroom is the one that faces their flat.
They happily shout out / giggle when there’s a “naked bum” at the window and I remind them that it’s a shower and the privacy glass isn’t great so just ignore / not nice to stare etc. Not a big deal.

However, for the second time, I have had to distract a kid from the naked person opposite a lot more hastily because the naked person is enjoying their own company rather a lot.

I’ve discussed this with my husband and my neighbours and here’s what we’ve come up with:

1.	Post a note through their door to ask if they could pull the curtain when they use the shower as the frosted glass is not effective (my idea)
2.	Post a note but with a haiku (neighbour 1’s idea, my husband’s words “Personal pleasure // Bathroom curtain left open // Neighbour eyeballs scorched”
3.	Put a sign up on our window “if you can read this, we can see you” (my husband’s idea)
4.	Next time, take a photo and post it in as blackmail (neighbour 2)
5.	Take a photo and project it onto the outside of their house (also neighbour 2)
6.	Do nothing, say nothing, don’t make eye contact, don’t let my kids look out of the window.

So, AIBU to go with #1? Should we go for something else?
Any ideas not on the list that we should consider?

@UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea you are a genius and also possibly James May

We had this with our neighbours over the back. Showering was one thing but there was a lot of obvious self pleasure going on and my kids were a bit horrified. They shouldn’t have to not look out their window because our neighbour is an avid wanker. It wouldn’t hurt for him to put up a blind. I do wonder if he maybe enjoys it.

We put a note through his door but nothing changed so we changed our Wi-Fi name to “dear neighbour read sexual offences act 2003 section 12” - blinds went up 4 weeks later.

They probably don't even know you can see them.
Please just go and tell them.. in a jokey way... it'll be funny in a few months

@choosername1234

I would suspect he knows he can be seen and that is why he does it

I genuinely don't think the people that live there know they can be seen showering and what-not when their light isn't on. A guy that lived there a few years before did it too (my kids were smaller / non existent so it wasn't as much if an issue).

I'm inclined to agree with a previous poster's theory about the privacy glass in the window is installed the wrong way around.

I don't see what's funny about your children watching someone wanking tbh. He could be doing it knowing he's being seen, which is a sexual offence and a gateway crime. I'm surprised your DH is so calm about it.

@LapinR0se

I would either get a blind or frosted glass on your window. They’re probably wondering why you haven’t done that yet

Why would they wonder why OP hasn’t frosted her children’s window? That would be really weird. Can you imagine selling the house down the line and having to explain you frosted a bedroom window to block out a wanking neighbour?

@jimmyhill

Why be so subtle about it?

"The glass in your bathroom window is not as frosted as it should be. Our children can see you wanking in the shower. If this happens again we will call the police and you will end up on the sex offenders register."

Good grief. The poor neighbours think their frosted glass is working, hardly sex offenders register territory

You have to do the Haiku one 🤣

I cannot do this one! Too embarrassing!
I would put frosted plastic covers on the children's window.
I spotted someone getting ready in their bathroom, clearly naked, clearly a woman, by a really busy road, in front of a school while driving to work the other day!

1 and 2

Something like this. Stills lets enough light in. I got blue flowers in my bathroom one, surrounded by white lead.

Definitely tell them! I had my skirt tucked into my my baby carrier as I strolled around our village is got quite a way from my car before a lady not only told me but untucked my skirt for me , we laughed and then laughed again when I went into the book shop where she was working , honestly they will probably just Thank you and laugh , honestly is the best policy !x

There once was an overlooked shower
With a window that lacked modest power
The neighbors made fun
When they saw a flashed bum
But the masturbation made them quite dour

@daisiesblue

Option 7 Mariachi band

When you light your room with fluorescents And don't use blinds to hide your presence In full view you milk out your essence Here's to your bout of commonsense.

Chorus: taka taka ta (as suits rhythm)

Bunch of other verses.

Haiku obvs

@jimmyhill

Why be so subtle about it?

"The glass in your bathroom window is not as frosted as it should be. Our children can see you wanking in the shower. If this happens again we will call the police and you will end up on the sex offenders register."

🤣🤣🤣🤣

I like the Dr Seuss-Type Limerick..

When the weather outside is chilly
The people inside feel silly
You turn on the light
And the kids to the right
Can see you rubbing your willy

@perimenofertility genius

I would definitely tell them.

@Justilou1

I like the Dr Seuss-Type Limerick..

When the weather outside is chilly
The people inside feel silly
You turn on the light
And the kids to the right
Can see you rubbing your willy

Winner

Can't you just get your DC to go outside each time, stand and point at neighbour's window and shout at the top of their voices, "ugh Mum, that man is wanking again". Perhaps you and your neighbours could go all join the kids and start banging saucepans in "clap for the wanker" night.

My over the road neighbour came over and told my husband she could see me in our en suite and thought I'd like to know. Only the once but she thought I should be made aware immediately

I was most surprised when he told me this because we have double frosted windows. So I waited until it was dark and went over the road to see what I could see with my husband in there. Answer? Well, a vague shape but that was it! And the only possible way to see me is for her to be on her landing or in her spare room - not like she's getting a show each night as she's trying to watch the or anything

We've lived here 3 years so she really did come over after happening to catch me in there once.

I can't put a blind up for various reasons and like I said, I've checked for myself.

However having said all that, I'm embarrassed and although it was 6 weeks ago now, I've avoided that neighbour ever since without too much hassle

I'm hoping to avoid her for the rest of my life tbh

@BeckyWithTheGoodHair010101

Is it close enough to pick up your wifi signal? If so change your wifi to: WeCanSeeYouWankingInTheShower

I see people recommending this for various things, but don't most people connect automatically? It could take me YEARS to notice.

Anonymous note though it'll be fairly obvious who would be able to see into the window.

@Justilou1

I like the Dr Seuss-Type Limerick..

When the weather outside is chilly
The people inside feel silly
You turn on the light
And the kids to the right
Can see you rubbing your willy

🤣