Who should provide snacks?

[FinestChicken]

Ex collecting dc for his weekend. The arrangement is we take turns in doing the journey so one time I will take them both ways, the next time he will. He sees them one weekend a month (his choice - he was offered more)

When I do the journey I deliver them to and collect them from his door. When he does I have to drop them to and collect them from the station because he doesn't drive and won't collect them from school or their club. It's annoying but I don't mind because it's easier for the children. Also I will not have him come to or near my house due to past abuse.

He is demanding that I provide them with snacks and drinks for the journey to his house. He thinks this is reasonable because I have the children most of the time so I get the child benefit etc for them. He doesn't work and has to pay for the journey to get them and bring them back. He has apparently asked 3 different people who all think it's reasonable for me to provide food for the journey and not him.

AIBU to think he's a dick?
WIBU to send the dc with no snacks?

I don't want the dc to suffer, but I also want to maintain proper boundaries because ex is a 'give and inch and he'll take a mile' kind of a guy.

God he's a twat isn't he.

To be honest it's a drink & snack, the fact this even made it to mumsnet is a concern.

@Jtb5790

To be honest it's a drink & snack, the fact this even made it to mumsnet is a concern.

Take that up with Dickhead Dad.

The children's mother is doing all the parenting here.

He should provide the snack, he only bloody sees them one weekend a month! Posters who are telling you to because you are the mother are exactly why men get away with being shit. They live with you almost all of the time, you feed and clothe them the least he could do is feed ilhis own children. Id give water and fruit, if they need anything else it is on him to buy it. Hopefully they will realise that he is an arse and not want much to do with him in the future.

@Jtb5790

To be honest it's a drink & snack, the fact this even made it to mumsnet is a concern.

If you were navigating post divorce with a deadbeat father who pays 25p per week per child and sees them once a month maybe your concerns would change.

And lots of trivia makes it to mumsnet (not that this is). People posting about their husbands not putting the butter in the fridge level of stuff - do you reply to them saying it is a concern it made it to Mumsnet?

@Jtb5790

To be honest it's a drink & snack, the fact this even made it to mumsnet is a concern.

Read the thread, it's not the snack itself it's the underlying control and emotional abuse. As a MN user you must be aware of that.

@Jtb5790

To be honest it's a drink & snack, the fact this even made it to mumsnet is a concern.

What specific concern do you have about this thread existing on mumsnet, @Jtb5790?

@Jtb5790

To be honest it's a drink & snack, the fact this even made it to mumsnet is a concern.

It's not though is it. Its the principle.