What does MN have against money poems?

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Reading another post this morning where OP mentioned a wedding invite had a money poem in it. I don’t think it’s unreasonable, given that now days many couples live together and have kids before they wed. I totally get that they maybe don’t want to make a wedding list at a store , and don’t want to end up with 5 toasters and 6 kettles etc. It’s hard to think of a gift for a couple who already have a home and everything in it... it’s much easier to give them £10, £20, whatever you can afford surely than buy something they probably already have? Personally I think it’s a nice polite way of saying this, IF you want to get them a gift. So what’s the reason that a lot of us on here think it’s the worst thing you can do? I honestly don’t understand ...
YABU it’s rude and cheeky
YANBU it makes perfect sense to me

@Yerroblemom1923

We just sent out invites. Those that wanted to give us a present asked us what we wanted and we said we didn't need gifts/ money. I like the "your presence is enough" idea and leave it at that. If a couple can afford the cost of a wedding at £10,000+ or whatever they cost these days they're not short of cash. I couldn't tell you now who did/didn't give a gift/money/vouchers (some will always insist). It's not what weddings are about and the idea that they have to give you something because you've spent all that money on food, drink, venue etc is horrible.

You say that … that but I still remember the couple who were the wealthiest of all our friends who bought us a fitted sheet as a wedding gift 19 years ago

@aristotlesdeathray

It's very twee

That's the issue

If you want money, ask for money, don't wrap it up in some weird little poem you've googled

I agree with this.

My sister and her husband wrote please please no gifts. Your company on our special day is the gift. Which I really believe is true.

I think asking for cash is awful.

@DustyDood

Putting it in a poem is a bit less grabby, it’s fun and friendly and no pressure. Ours said:

We thank you all family and friends for attending our wedding,
But we don’t need any bedding.
DH is over the moon to be a groom,
But we don’t need a broom!
DW is delighted on this day to be bride,
But we don’t need pans for food that is boiled or fried.
So here’s what we’re asking from you,
Some pennies but only a few.
For our honeymoon beckons
And here’s what we reckon,
Your dosh will help make it posh so thank you.

We did still get one toaster and a loo brush.

You must be joking. Surely you did actually send this? It's about the worst I've seen. 😳

I can't believe anyone would think that was less grabby.

@stuntbubbles

Perhaps the only acceptable wedding invitation poem then is:

Since we are British
Please don’t give me dishes
In fact don’t even attend
You drive me round the bend
Fuck you

I love this 😂😂😂

@stuntbubbles

Perhaps the only acceptable wedding invitation poem then is:

Since we are British
Please don’t give me dishes
In fact don’t even attend
You drive me round the bend
Fuck you

I'd probably happily attend the wedding if I received this. And I'd bring a card with cash.

I keep re-reading this poem & laughing. The 'fuck you' at the end really makes it!

No I like:
DW is delighted on this day to be bride,
But we don’t need pans for food that is boiled or fried.

The juxtaposition of imagery is so very whimsical

"It really does my head in
getting an invite to a weddin'
Don't want to cause a rift
if I get you a dodgy gift,
Hope you don't think I'm funny,
when I do not give you money.
You're sadly out of luck
You cheeky, grabby fuck.

I particularly hate being asked to pay for someone’s honeymoon. We paid for our own. Not prepared to pay for someone else’s!

Particularly nauseating was a grabby insert in a wedding invitation with an itemised list of ‘honeymoon experiences’ you could buy for the newlyweds including a ‘couple’s massage’. Bleugh.

You must be joking. Surely you did actually send this? It's about the worst I've seen

So glad it's not just me who thought that, EarringsaandLipstick, especially the bit
"So here’s what we’re asking from you
Some pennies but only a few"

As if ...

We asked for money towards our honeymoon. I'd say at about 90% of the weddings I’ve been to, the invitation has stated something along the lines of, "we don't expect a gift, but if you would like to contribute to our honeymoon fund then it would be massively appreciated." No one I know has an issue with this.

The poems are shit, badly-written and cringy, like the ones on those big cards you can get in Clinton's.

Bad verse is very déclassé.

Some pennies but only a few.

Pennies. 🤮 This is fucking awful.

I bet more than a few guests were tempted to send you three pennies. Pay for your own holiday.

I think asking for any gift with an invitation is rude tbh.

@DustyDood

Putting it in a poem is a bit less grabby, it’s fun and friendly and no pressure. Ours said:

We thank you all family and friends for attending our wedding,
But we don’t need any bedding.
DH is over the moon to be a groom,
But we don’t need a broom!
DW is delighted on this day to be bride,
But we don’t need pans for food that is boiled or fried.
So here’s what we’re asking from you,
Some pennies but only a few.
For our honeymoon beckons
And here’s what we reckon,
Your dosh will help make it posh so thank you.

We did still get one toaster and a loo brush.

You actually sent this? Like, in real life?

I particularly hate being asked to pay for someone’s honeymoon.

Why though?

The last 5/6 weddings I've been to have (politely) requested honeymoon donations. I've been delighted to do that because I know they'll value the experience much more than stuff. I just don't get the objection.

always wondered what was meant by ‘no boxed gifts’ but this is from a cultural perspective. i actually thought it meant just come to our do and no gift is necessary

We didn't ask for anything. If people said they wanted to buy us a gift we said money would be helpful please. Some people gave us gifts that were personal, some money and some gift cards.

@itssquidstella

We asked for money towards our honeymoon. I'd say at about 90% of the weddings I’ve been to, the invitation has stated something along the lines of, "we don't expect a gift, but if you would like to contribute to our honeymoon fund then it would be massively appreciated." No one I know has an issue with this.

The poems are shit, badly-written and cringy, like the ones on those big cards you can get in Clinton's.

Bad verse is very déclassé.

Good God. How many society weddings have you attended, Hyacinth?

No boxed gifts means take the toaster out of the box before you wrap it up. That is what I would do if I received such an order on a wedding invitation.

Me too Viviennemary.

It is just snobbery.

I think deliberately being a twat about a request for money is far more rude. These are people you supposedly care about enough to go to their wedding.

These are people you supposedly care about enough to go to their wedding.

I know right? What kind of person would respond to that request by making a snide, arsey point? Not to mention the waste involved in buying something they don't need or want. Really strange.