To ask how long you were together before you got married?

[MeSanniesareBrannies]

How long were you in a relationship before you got engaged/married? I was with DP for almost three years when we got engaged, when we get married, we’ll have been together almost four. Speaking to acquaintances (not close friends) it seems like that’s unusual and we’ve been hasty. A work colleague was particularly taken aback and informed me that ‘short engagements are a recipe for disaster’. I thought this was a bit bizarre!

I’m unworried about my relationship, but I’m intrigued…what’s everyone else’s norm?

We’re early 30’s professionals in London, postgrad education, good jobs, good pay, no prior marriages or kids. I think that for our demographic 3-5 years is pretty standard, but happy to be told I’m wrong.

Married just under 2 years after we got together and celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary this year. Still happy - most of the time 😂

Engaged a couple of weeks after we met, married just under a year after we met, and we've now been together 11 years and we had our first DC 5 years into our marriage. My parents met and married within 3 months of meeting and had a long and happy marriage.

Started aged 12 - married aged 29 after getting through uni together (different uni's about 20 miles apart) buying a house and living together for 5 years...spontaneously decided to marry - we hadn't felt the need to - life was fine - but we decided we wanted to start a family and be married for that - proposal to marriage was 6 weeks - first DD arrived 18 months later - we're 60 now. Everyone is different - IMHO you have to work at relationships on some level "every single day" to make them work - they don't just work because you have been together for ages - the relationship changes over time and you have to accept and allow for that.

Engaged after 6 months
Married after 18 months
Been together 23 years this year.

We’re early 30’s professionals in London, postgrad education, good jobs, good pay, no prior marriages or kids. I think that for our demographic 3-5 years is pretty standard, but happy to be told I’m wrong.

Totally standard for your demo/set based on me andy friendship group

Me and DP have been together for 12 years. Engaged after about 18 months. I was pregnant with DS1. Not married or have any plans to get married any time soon.

Together 2011, engaged 2012 (aged 22), married 2018, 1st DC 2019 - only thing we took our time with was getting married as wanted to elope but took years to build up the courage and eventually did it! X

Same demographic married by 32yrs old after 18mths engaged married just over 26mths after meeting. Wanted to plan for family before 35 yrs old doesn’t leave a lot of time if you want marriage before children.

Engaged after 3.5 years and married two years later.

We had a longer engagement as my DH wanted to buy a house before a wedding (I agreed to that as house prices only go up) but before buying a house together I wanted to be engaged. So it all worked out in the end!

Been together 11 years on Friday (5.5 married) and have a wonderful 2 year old DD.

Marriage has had its ups and downs but who doesn't?

Engaged after 2 years, married after a 9 month engagement. We wanted to get the wedding part over with, couldn’t handle years of planning. But our main motivation was having two remaining grandparents in their 90’s, we really wanted them to be around for it and I love seeing them in the pictures.

We got married 5 months after meeting. From the first date we saw each other every day even if just meeting for breakfast or lunch (DH worked shifts at the time).

We have been very happily married for 42 years and still very much in love,

Although we got married very quickly I find it odd that so many couples wait so long. One of our nieces has been going out with her boyfriend for 8 years and they are not even engaged although they talk about marriage, children etc. Another niece went out with her boyfriend for 6 years before getting engaged and then waited another 7 years before getting married.

It certainly wasn't because they needed to save as they both have very well paying jobs.

Engaged at three months.
Married at ten months.
Been married 25 years.

We actually knew we’d be getting married and were made for each other after about two weeks. We held off as long as we could. When you know, you know.

Engaged after 17 months. Married after 2 years 8 months. Baby arrived 1 year 3 months after that. We had been friends for 2 years before we finally got together.

About 18 months

(Moved in after 4 months, engaged just short of a year)

Together for 5 engaged for 2 been married 7 years now. Mid 30s.

I think if you meet your partner later on then you don't necessarily have time for long engagements and I also think you're a bit more sure of what you want from a relationship!

We were married after seven years and had children two and five years later. We've been together almost 27 years now!

6 weeks. Married 43 years

Engaged : 6 months
Married : 18 months
We've only been married 9 years but seems fine so far 😂

8years together before we tied the knot. We’ve been together 16 years now 😬

Met at 25. Engaged after 3 years and married 3 years after that.

What you're doing is completely normal and not rushed at all.

Engaged after 8 years and Married after 9 and a half years, we were 16 at the start of the relationship though.

Married after 4 years, but pregnant after 1 😜 All relationships are different - you're the only one who knows what's working for you

Engaged after 8 months. Got married 4.5 years after getting engaged, was postponed 2 years because we had a baby then bought a house. Been married 12 years.

Dated for 17 months, engaged for another 14 months then got married. Been happily married for 16 years.

Together 2 yrs when married..engaged 2 month before..
Once decided just got on with it...it was the marriage that was the point ..
engagement doesn't really count for anything never quite understood the fuss....
Married 20 years... amongst friends I don't know any that had long engagements -either stayed unmarried or 6months ish but again were all in 30s so just wanted to get on with it..as were independent adults
Most had flats/houses/lived together so the long period of saving up for setting up house wasn't a thing....