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OH and I just cannot sleep in the same bed comfortably and I can't take any more disrupted nights. We have a regular Ikea double, with a divan with drawers underneath and we share one King size duvet.

We are both very light sleepers, apparently I now snore (due to failed IVF weight gain I think), he tosses and turns all night and often prods me awake if I'm snoring. We both wear ear plugs, I wear a sleep eye mask. I've spent the past two nights on the sofa freezing, desperately trying to get some sleep.

So, what are other couples doing? I'm thinking King size bed? Two single beds/mattresses pushed together? Zip and link mattresses? Two single duvets Scandi style? OH won't consider separate beds or separate rooms (not that we have a spare room) which I get, but I need a solution!! The solution is not getting rid of OH, before that gets suggested Please share your amazing bed set up - sleep situations, TIA xx

Oh, just to add, the reason we went from two singles to one king mattress was that we found when you have sex on two singles you end up in the dip and pushing the mattresses slowly off each side of the bed. So, just a thought!

Two duvets and a memory foam mattress. DH can get up, roll over etc and my side of the mattress doesn't move and I don't sense it. Memory foam mattress changed our lives!

@girljulian

Oh, just to add, the reason we went from two singles to one king mattress was that we found when you have sex on two singles you end up in the dip and pushing the mattresses slowly off each side of the bed. So, just a thought!

Agreed!

I have a king with a super king duvet, if I had room in my bedroom I would have a super king bed and use two double duvets.

Definitely superking. I absolutely love ours, we cannot sleep together in a double at all! Go into a bed shop and have a look, you can get ones which zip lock together in the middle, and each side can be a different softness if you have different preferences.

DH and I have always slept in separate rooms (even when we didn't have enough bedrooms). He snores and I'm the world's lightest sleeper so it's a no brainer for me. I can't understand how other couples can stand having their space invaded every single night...

We have a 6ft zip together bed .separate single duvets .I think this is a good solution TBH. When we shared a duvet one person would be hogging it all nite (Defo not me of course!) I think better than separate rooms

Superking. I don't understand how 2 people can ever sleep comfortably in a standard double, they're tiny!

Super king with a good quality mattress so that you can't feel the other person move and separate duvets. Heaven!

Oh and we both lost weight so neither of us snores any more!

@Luredbyapomegranate realllllly struggling

We sleep in separate rooms. We both prefer it!

@uredbyapomegranate devils armpit!!!!!

We had a zip and link. It was a dead comfy bed but with divan bases. Every time DH moved on the other bed I found myself bouncing up and down as the movement somehow seemed to transfer across. I tried unzipping them but only thing that worked was having a gap between them as twins. I’d make sure you test them out if you can and maybe firmer mattresses and bases would help.

@girljulian ha! I was wondering about that!

@Nanalisa60 another vote for two doubt duvets! thank you x

Separate rooms all the way here. Twin bed is doable but snoring bothers me and I need to wee in the night which wakes dh and then he can’t get back to sleep which keeps me awake too.

Latex king size mattress.

@coconuthead I need to work on losing the IVF weight

@JS87 I wondered about this, I think we need to go and try some beds in John Lewis or something and bounce around on them a bit.

@reluctantbrit Ah yes, I think in Germany and Scandi countries this is a good solution. I'm curious, with two mattresses do you use one sheet on both or separate sheets on each? Silly question possibly...

As well as a super king I’d get the Nectar mattress. Excellent.

Our first step was a memory foam mattress (double) which stopped me getting bounced around when DH turned over. When that mattress eventually needed replacing, we got a hybrid mattress which I absolutely love, still no bouncing but a bit firmer. However I also insisted on a king size and it's great, I sleep so much better. DH tends to sleep in the middle of whatever bed we are in so at least I have more room now in the small portion of bed I'm allowed!

We have a double bed and a single bed pushed together (which presumably amounts to something similar to a king-size, just with a double and a single mattress?) and 2 double duvets. We introduced the single bed (between the double bed and the wall) when we had a co-sleeping baby in a one room apartment. These days the kids are in their own beds, in a different room, but there is no way we're getting rid of the extra bed, I have no idea how we managed without it!

Super king plus we each have our own double duvets!! I also wear ear plugs!

@LaTomatina

We have a double bed and a single bed pushed together (which presumably amounts to something similar to a king-size, just with a double and a single mattress?) and 2 double duvets. We introduced the single bed (between the double bed and the wall) when we had a co-sleeping baby in a one room apartment. These days the kids are in their own beds, in a different room, but there is no way we're getting rid of the extra bed, I have no idea how we managed without it!

But does someone not end up on the single alone? Isn't there a ridge that means it's uncomfortable to sleep across part of the double and the single?