Tosser is right.
Absolutely advise her OP NOT to lie to the army in any shape or form.
He is a con man.
He doesn't care if he drags her down into his pit.
All he cares about is himself and keeping his gig going, like any addict.
OP, if you could go to some GA meetings with your daughter to support her, it would be fantastic.
My friend went with her sister and the reality of the lives of some of those women in their 60/70's are so chilling.
No heating, no food in the house.
Jobs lost through stealing.
Unemployment.
Constant promises to change.
Constant lies.
The unbearable loneliness.
Lying to family for years.
The exhaustion of keeping up appearances.
IMO it is worse than alcoholism.
My friends sister had a lovely home but the final round of debts caught up with him via 8 credit cards with a 120,000 of debt.
They sold the house, he paid his debts and went into 6 weeks of treatment.
He appears to be clean since.
She has her own small home now and has peace but she feels so robbed.
Raising children with that stress is a huge sadness.
She feels robbed of their childhood.
Alway working so hard, watching money because she could never depend on him despite his good job.
He lives in a small two bed apartment and has focused on earning his children's respect back, they were very very upset.
They have enormous respect for their mum.
One very shallow note is how the stress aged her sister.
Despite being younger, looking very like each other, my friend being 8 years older, looks years younger.
When she went to GA, she remarked upon the hard lives etched on the faces of the lovely women that told their stories.
Keep posting OP.
You need support too.
I would be devastated if either of my precious girls ended up with a gambling addict.
The thing is it is so easily hidden, though flags are becoming easier to spot as people become more aware and educated.
