Would this offend you?

[FishGoBloop]

NC because this is outing

Say you went to a sibling's wedding where the bride had handmade all the favours and they were various little felt animals.

The bride gave you a cow, your OH a horse, and your

@TatianaBis

I’m just here for the owl noises.

A woo woo. A wee wee?

What with piglet and a donkey, it's all getting a bit 100 Acre Woods here, were it not for the interloping cow…

You sound lovely. She sounds stupid.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

I gave at least 8 people pigs in crochet granny blankets that I had made, as part of their Christmas presents, and no-one thought I was calling them a pig! I also knitted a dragon for dh, without him feeling insulted.

I think your guest was being unbelievably touchy, @FishGoBloop, and your wedding favours sound really cute and thoughtful!

I LOVE your dragon.

may need to knit one for dd (aged 16, obsessed by dinosaurs in an ironic teenage way )

Och no, you'd have to be ridiculously sensitive to give it a moments thought. Unless she's suspicious of you in the first place...

@Thirtytimesround

Congratulations. Obviously she overreacted, but giving a pig and a cow to family when no one else got an ‘insulting’ gift wasn’t a smart move and I probably would assume that she was (subconsciously) calling me a cow for some reason.

Farmyard animals aren't 'insulting' FFS

I'd have loved a little felted animal, you sound lovely.

She's over thinking and being very silly, as is anyone who thinks felted stuff is 'crap'.

I get a lot of requests for animals and also 80s tv stuff. Make her a monster next time... or as Berk here would say 'if you've got a problem... stuff a worm in it'..

@Broblem

I suspect they were not laughing ‘with’ you. I wouldn’t offended, but I would think it was piss poor thing to give a new relative I bet you’re a very lonely person.

What a nasty post.

I bet @FishGoBloop had a lot of lovely friends!

You, however....

This is the most insane thing I have read all week. I would have been thrilled if someone bothered to create handmade gifts and felt animals sound cute and way better than a lot of the mass marketed tat that probably gets bandied about at weddings. Also though - it’s a token present which is part of a wedding tradition. The focus of the day is sharing in the happiness of the bride and groom surely? Perhaps what the recipient really needs is the gift of perspective? Or a course in getting over herself? 🙄 I am going to two of my niece’s weddings this year and tbh they could give me a statue of Satan, a packet of tissues or leave me out all together and I wouldn’t care as long as I had a dance, a meal and a glass of Prosecco. But then I’m not mental.

I think the bride should of been sensitive to the fact women worry about their body shapes ,and maybe it would of been best to give a cow and a pig and a elephant and a hippo to a man ..
I think anyone who cares about someone’s feelings would of done this anyway .
But anyone with any sense would of not caused an issue on a wedding day .
So both to blame

People love to be offended!

My cousin felted me a robin for Christmas and I love it. omg she clearly thinks your a violent, territorial thug

@GrandmasCat

I don’t know, I gave a very nice expensive gift to my partner’s DD in her birthday and I was sent a thank you card with a cow on it.

I assume young kids are not able to choose and pay for thank you cards so I understand her mum took the trouble to go and find a card for me, but as I am good at matching passive aggressiveness when I get it, I have replied to the gesture by sending very cheap gifts these days.

So yes, I can see a point at them not finding your collection of animal gifts inoffensive… and her wanting to distance herself from you.

You projected passive aggression onto a thank you card bought by a mother and then punished the child by buying them shit? How classless.

@ConsiderablyRicherThanYow

I'm only saying it from experience and from what I was taught from childhood. 'don't get the birthday card with the cow on it for aunt sandra' etc. I'm surprised other people don't know this? Do people also write letters in red or green ink? Animals, colours, plants all have associations. I don't get lilies for people unless I know they're their favourite either. I've seen a game of monopoly end before it started because a woman was offered the dog piece.

And I'm not trying to be sexist, but when giving out gifts, I'm probably not going to offend a woman with a swan, I might offend a woman with a cow. So I'd hedge my bets and give her a swan. It's not a statement on what a woman should be. It's a strategy for making my life drama free. My best friend loves rats, I'd give her a rat. My new SIL? I'm not going to give her a rat, even if I think it's adorable.

I am so bemused by this. I have genuinely never heard this.

I think it is your family.

I have come across the red ink thing in Asia.

@WiddlinDiddlin

I'd have loved a little felted animal, you sound lovely.

She's over thinking and being very silly, as is anyone who thinks felted stuff is 'crap'.

I get a lot of requests for animals and also 80s tv stuff. Make her a monster next time... or as Berk here would say 'if you've got a problem... stuff a worm in it'..

Omg Trap Door!!!

@JugglingJanuary I think that poster was replying to the horrible message they’d put in bold and saying that poster must be lonely, not the OP.

@Summersnake

I think the bride should of been sensitive to the fact women worry about their body shapes ,and maybe it would of been best to give a cow and a pig and a elephant and a hippo to a man .. I think anyone who cares about someone’s feelings would of done this anyway . But anyone with any sense would of not caused an issue on a wedding day . So both to blame

What about men who are sensitive a out their weight? What a out women you aren't massively oversensitive and looking to be offended? What animal WOULD be appropriate for her v petite SIL and baby niece?

You've done nothing wrong. They're completely paranoid and looking for an excuse to be offended.

I would have loved to have been a guest at your wedding. Your favours sound adorable!

Ignore your SIL. She’s been ridiculous.

Congratulations on your marriage .

Wow, some of the passive aggression (and plain old aggression) on this thread is sad. Why punish a child for their parent's choice of thank you card? Incidentally I used to choose my own thank you cards as a kid, my parents would only pay for them.

Also want to add that I'd have loved a handmade felt animal OP, I've actually recently paid a decent amount for a large, custom-made one, so receiving one as a favour would be amazing!

@GrandmasCat
I was sent a thank you card with a cow on it... have replied to the gesture by sending very cheap gifts these days

How to people cope in the world when they're THAT sensitive they assume everyone is out to upset them. I buy cards for DS he picks them out. But even if she chose it THERE'S NOTHING OFFENSIVE ABOUT A PICTURE OF A COW

@TatianaBis

I’m just here for the owl noises.

😂 😂

@SleepingStandingUp

My cousin felted me a robin for Christmas and I love it. omg she clearly thinks your a violent, territorial thug

@SportsMother

She’s obviously super sensitive about this, and you’ve touched a very raw nerve there.

If you want to maintain the relationship I think you’ll have to talk to & reassure her about it.

Bollocks to that! SIL needs to get over herself and act like a normal person!

I bought a woman I worked with a lovely Cowshed soap for Secret Santa. When she opened it she got all stroppy saying “Someone thinks I’m a dirty cow!” and wouldn’t shut up about it. “It’s an insult!”
I thought she was a deluded loon at the time, but now I realise that weird way of thinking is more common than I thought.

so your sil isnt talking to you over this

is there history there with her sulking