‘Sorry the colour doesn’t suit my baby’

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Sent a friend with a new baby some clothes - one thing was a really pale pink and the other thing was a really pale yellow. It was like a T-shirt and joggers set thing that I got in a small independent shop.

No Thankyou - just a comment that the colours weren’t right. The baby is 3 months old.

Aibu to think I would never have dreamed of making such a comment. I had some really unusual colours but I smiled, said Thankyou & the kids wore them as I was grateful to receive gifts.

I feel really offended- they weren’t cheap either 🤷🏻‍♀️

Omg are they for real? Me and my partner used to laugh lightheartedly as our baby didnt suit lilac at all! But we'd still dress her in it if we had a set of babygrows etc with that colour in because clothes are clothes! I think its so ungrateful of your friend and really quite sad

I would say send them back and I will see if I can exchange

Then I would either do that and get a refund, or if I can’t donate them
Either way I would say I couldn’t exchange so I donated to someone who appreciated them

Then I would not buy anything again for them

@Gonnagetgoing I wish I had said that! but I was so shocked I didn't know what to say. I can never do the quick retorts.

Ooft, that’s rude as fuck.

Ouch. I would say “I’m sure it wasn’t intended but that’s quite a rude response to a present bought for you and your new baby. Can you please just return it to me.”

I have a new baby and have been bought some amazingly tacky and wonderfully weird outfits and you better believe I put her in each one, snapped a photo and sent to giver with a big thank you!
Nothing better than looking at old family albums with siblings and laughing hysterically at some of the outfits we were in

wow so rude of her, if she hated them you say thank you to the person and then pass them on to someone else, or just wear "around the house" :) simple! i think she has revelaed what type of person she is... and i personally would just phase her out with out making a big deal about it (i.e. no dramas) just distance myself over the coming weeks/months.

Beyond rude.I wouldn't even say that to one of my sisters.

Just say no problem. Send it to me and I'll return it.

No thank you or anything

Very rude of her.
We've had some pretty awful clothing gifts for babies before, simply smiled and said thank you.

My FIL has an awful penchant for buying Disney clothes for my baby and i hate them. Still, he gets a big thank you, a lovely picture and thé charity shop gets the benefit so someone who likes them can have them.
Simple- no one gets hurt!

All baby clothes are the same colour once they are covered in poo!

I’d tell her to send them back so you can get a refund, then forget to send anything else.

@BonnesVacances

Reply "yes that's fine, I'll exchange them if you give them back". Then return them to the shop for a refund or donate them and don't mention it again. If they chase up the replacement just be vague and non-commital.

Do this.

As a pp asked Is your friend normally nice? Could this just be hormones/stress making her rude? If it’s out of character I wouldn’t end the friendship. If she’s always grabby and ungrateful I would.

@IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads

All baby clothes are the same colour once they are covered in poo!

Well, yes. I remember getting some extraordinary knitted garments for DS1. Ex-mil was convinced he needed something called a 'layette'. I thanked her politely and soon realised that you can never have too many baby clothes during the 'Shit On It' phase.

Very rude friend, OP. Ask her to return the clothes, get a refund and say no more about it. If asked for whereabouts of replacement outfits I'd be inclined to say there was nothing in your colour.

Hormones my arse.

She's a rude cow with zero class.

@ChargingBuck

Oh OP, will you not consider your poor friend's trauma?

You have thoughtlessly foisted pink & yellow clothing on a BABY, with no regard to the baby's personal preference, & without consulting your friend's superior fashion & colour sense.

I think you should swoop round today with fulsome apologies, remove the offending items before they make the baby cry, & pay £75 to get a professional report on the baby's permitted colours from this lot - www.colourmebeautiful.co.uk/services-for-women

After all, you don't want to make the same terrible mistake again, do you?

@ChargingBuck - you say that but I worked with the most appalling woman ever - modelled herself on Carrie of SATC in every way and her wedding etc and any gifts - she'd always state 'oh this is a Jade Jagger bracelet' and she loved pink and wore it and made a big thing of wearing her new eyeshadow colours.

She had 2 sons before having her daughter but I can just imagine her being exactly like this about her daughter's baby clothes presents. One of her close friends who was a colleague had 2 DD's though and we got her gifts for the babies - always artisan but cute bumble bee etc stuff from lovely shops around Spitalfields Market where we then worked.

Your "friend" is a bitch.

As PP have said, ask her to send them back to you and you'll exchange. Then just don't send her anything else. If she questions say oh well there wasn't really anything I thought would suit baby as they have such exacting taste at such a young age.

She doesn’t like the style/ colour and probably won’t put them on her child. She knows you have bought the clothes from a boutique so probably paid quite a bit for them and doesn’t want you to have wasted your money.
I would much rather know that I haven’t wasted money on clothes that are worn for a 5 minute photo then passed on or binned but seems I am in the minority.

I don’t know- maybe I am really old fashioned but isn’t it just a ‘smile and say Thankyou’ thing with newborn baby stuff not a ‘we don’t like it, can we change it’ thing? You do get random home knitted stuff too and the whole point is that people want to give stuff to babies. You wouldn’t ask to change grannies knitted cardi!!

Good grief - when my baby was 3 months old I was so bleary eyed and haggard I just stumbled around shoving him in any garment I could lay my hands on.
And since he threw up on everything constantly it was quantity of clothing not colour that was my main concern. He wore some very interesting and avant garde combinations - if we could both get out of the door with minimal sick on either of us, I felt I was winning

Your friend is a rude twerp, get the clothes back and get yourself a refund and a treat, or donate them to a womens shelter or somewhere they would be very appreciated.

@AndItDoesntSeemToMatter

Nasty bitch. Don't bother your arse again

Bit extreme

So rude!
In my opinion, giving and receiving presents is not about the items but about the thought it goes into it, both ways.
Many of the outfits I have been given for my little one at birth weren't to my taste. However, I thanked the people who gave them to me and sent out pictures of the baby wearing them. Some were worn just in the house, others less often as they were too itch/small/unfit but all had a use. And most importantly all were given to me with love - who cares about the fact we have a different taste. In fact I kept them all as they mean the world to me and remind me of lovely gestures.

[quote SwimmingOnEggshells]@Gonnagetgoing I wish I had said that! but I was so shocked I didn't know what to say. I can never do the quick retorts.[/quote]
@SwimmingOnEggshells - don't worry - I'm the same as you - I'd probably be equally as shocked and smile and say nothing!

It's not hormones by the way, it's rude entitled mothers.

My DM also got loads of sweet, cute, frilly baby clothes for me when I was a baby and she hated all that stuff (70's momma) and dyed my babygros purple, orange etc...! She still said she kept them for when e.g. PIL's came over to put me in them then and said they were handy if everything else was washed and waiting to be tumble dried...

So rude. We were given some hideous, hideous stuff...but it doesn’t matter. You smile and say thank you, take a pic of the kid in the outfit to send to the giver then either shove it in a drawer as emergency ‘down to our last baby gro as all the others are covered in poop’ clothing or take it to the charity shop.

People astonish me.

If you think it's the pink thing then it makes sense they asked if they thought you were a close friend who might not mind. They could have been politer though eg. Thanks so much, we're trying to dress them not in pink is it possible to exchange? If not no problem.