‘Sorry the colour doesn’t suit my baby’

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Sent a friend with a new baby some clothes - one thing was a really pale pink and the other thing was a really pale yellow. It was like a T-shirt and joggers set thing that I got in a small independent shop.

No Thankyou - just a comment that the colours weren’t right. The baby is 3 months old.

Aibu to think I would never have dreamed of making such a comment. I had some really unusual colours but I smiled, said Thankyou & the kids wore them as I was grateful to receive gifts.

I feel really offended- they weren’t cheap either 🤷🏻‍♀️

Just say 'of course, I'll collect them on Saturday and return them.'

Then spend the money on yourself.

I have only ever asked to return a gift once. It was a fondue set and I already had one. It was also a good friend so I'd didn't think she'd mind. She picked it up, presumably returned it, and I never received another gift from her ever. I suppose it served me right!

Apparently twice my aunt walked in, looked at me and said “what’s wrong with the baby, has she been at the doctor?”

They figured out the white and pale pink made me look ill. Still does. So not all babies do suit everything.

I’d rather someone told me and got a gift exchanged than waste my money 🤷‍♀️

@DrSbaitso

Dig up one of those old Colour Me Beautiful seasonal colour chart thingies and photoshop a red screaming baby face into each section.

Lol

I actually wouldn’t be offended by this at all.
I would rather something told me they didn’t like and I swapped for something else, then then fake pretend they like and just dump in charity.

Incredibly rude

[quote Laughingstock91]@betwixtlives yes! ‘We got your parcel today. Sorry the colour doesn’t suit little xxxx. Could we change them please’[/quote]
'Send them back and I'll sort it out' Then get your refund and never bother with the ungrateful, rude madam again.

Oh dear, I had(!) a friend who did this with all the gifts she received. It was very annoying. I just let contact drift and we are no longer in touch. I knew and accommodated her likes and dislikes, but they changed so often I couldn't keep up, and one day I just decided enough was enough.

Get them returned to you, pocket the refund and don't send replacements.

@Caspianberg

I actually wouldn’t be offended by this at all. I would rather something told me they didn’t like and I swapped for something else, then then fake pretend they like and just dump in charity.

She didn't even say thank you 🤷‍♀️ She could have worded it differently.

Oh OP, will you not consider your poor friend's trauma?

You have thoughtlessly foisted pink & yellow clothing on a BABY, with no regard to the baby's personal preference, & without consulting your friend's superior fashion & colour sense.

I think you should swoop round today with fulsome apologies, remove the offending items before they make the baby cry, & pay £75 to get a professional report on the baby's permitted colours from this lot - www.colourmebeautiful.co.uk/services-for-women

After all, you don't want to make the same terrible mistake again, do you?

I would just reply "you're welcome"

Very rude and also odd to not know just to say thank you and pass them on. I didn't dress my baby in clothes I didn't like though - we had so many hand me downs and gifts it wasn't necessary. I was even more ruthless with my second baby
I'd rather have fewer nice things than have to look at them in outfits I really didn't like!

I remember when her friend had her first baby boy at 18. Not a huge amount of choice around then but I asked her what I should get? She kindly told me, anything, he's just a baby!

I did ask if there were preferences for colour and she said, well actually anything that doesn't show up sick!

She said that a close friend of hers bought her lots of Harrods own label and designer babygros for her son and she felt awkward and said they were very nice but secretly thought they were a waste of money but would never have said that to her friend!

I think she was probably trying to tactfully say they weren’t to her taste but got it wrong. However. Surely in this situation the polite thing to do is smile, thank and put to one side.

So rude.

I gave a neighbour an outfit for her baby and the response I got was 'oh, we've been given so many clothes of this colour already...'.

I thought that was rude, but yours takes the biscuit.

any clothes I get for e.g. DNiece, she's 4 now so sometimes I send her sequin t-shirts etc - once I got her a very pretty organic eco friendly dress, her dad took one look and said 'oh that'll do for nursery' - she was 2-3 at the time, I was a bit like.... nursery?!

Funnily enough her DB (DNephew) who's now 18 months - when he was about 6 months I sent over a few bits from H&M babies/kids - a gorgeous blue elephants sweatshirt/t-shirt and his DM said he loved it and so did she, so practical as well as nice to look at.

@Cheekypeach

‘No problem, if you return them I’ll get them refunded’.

This. And then dont replace them. Rude mare!

"no probs, send back to me and I'll exchange".

Once received back, return and keep the money. Either forget all about it or send something much cheaper.

She's ungrateful and rude.

Also - make sure you moment if you ever see her LO in those colours again...

Ask her to return them to you then never contact her again.
Keep the refund or give to charity.

@SwimmingOnEggshells

So rude.

I gave a neighbour an outfit for her baby and the response I got was 'oh, we've been given so many clothes of this colour already...'.

I thought that was rude, but yours takes the biscuit.

@SwimmingOnEggshells - to that I'd just say, ah well if you don't like it, I'll just take it back shall I?! Or include gift receipt. Rude neighbour.

WTF!

I'm just listening to people on the radio who can't afford to feed and heat their home let alone buy enough clothes for their children.

Ask for her to return them to you and ignore her from now on as she isn't a friend.

Babies grow really quickly at that stage so you put them in an outfit, take a photo of them in it, thank the person for the outfit and send them a copy of the photo and if you don't like the outfit they will have grown out of it in 2-6 weeks anyway.

Sound like the person who came to meet our rescue cats - I foster for a rescue charity and prospective adoptees come and meet the cats.

Once someone came because they'd seen Cat A on the website but predictably Cat A decided that visiting mad woman wasn't the right cat slave for her and hid under the sofa.

But Cat B was literally rubbing herself all over the woman as if to say 'pick me, pick me' and I said something like 'she's also available for adoption and seems to like you' to which mad woman replied 'oh I couldn't possibly adopt this one, her colouring doesn't match the name I've picked' .

Thankfully she decided that none of our cats were right for her exacting standards.

Rude.
Ask for them back, get a refund or keep for a better friend.

Stressed new mummy?

That's breathtakingly rude!
Get them back, get the refund and spend it on yourself.

If you hate the clothes someone sent you, you put them on the baby, send the giver a photo and say thank you, then give them away. I thought everyone knew that.