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‘Sorry the colour doesn’t suit my baby’

491 replies

Laughingstock91 · 21/01/2022 12:07

Sent a friend with a new baby some clothes - one thing was a really pale pink and the other thing was a really pale yellow. It was like a T-shirt and joggers set thing that I got in a small independent shop.

No Thankyou - just a comment that the colours weren’t right. The baby is 3 months old.

Aibu to think I would never have dreamed of making such a comment. I had some really unusual colours but I smiled, said Thankyou & the kids wore them as I was grateful to receive gifts.

I feel really offended- they weren’t cheap either 🤷🏻‍♀️

OP posts:
Grrrrdarling · 22/01/2022 23:00

In other words mum or dad don’t like the colour.
If you still have the receipt just tell them to return the items for you with swatches of suitable colours & you’ll fix the ‘colour not suiting baby’ issue.
A little bit rude but in essence they don’t like them & want to get something else. In future just give them a gift card or money as a gift, if you ever gift their way again.

LouBan · 22/01/2022 23:34

All she should have said was thank you. This is really rude. My cousin sent an outfit for my DD when she was born. Both my DH and I took one look at it and thought it was hideous. My DD never wore it and I donated it to charity. But I sent a thank you note to my cousin never letting on that we didn't like the clothes.

swampygirl · 23/01/2022 01:21

That was a downright rude and ungrateful remark she made.
Friend?? I don't think so.
With friends like that, who needs enemies.
Give her a wide birth and get a refund.

PainterMummy · 23/01/2022 07:35

Is this really a thing? A colour of mainstream baby clothes not suiting a baby? I have had three children, all my friends and all my multiple of family members have had children, never once have I ever heard this.

Is it a new fad?

Caspianberg · 23/01/2022 08:18

@PainterMummy - of course not. But babies are people, most people don’t suit every colour. I have very pale skin and hair, so does Ds. If we wear really pale shades of any colour we just look washed out.
So I might dress him in a dark mustard yellow or bright yellow top, but a very pale lemon just makes him look ill.
Navy or bright blue suits him far better than baby pale blue etc

calliecapers · 23/01/2022 08:26

Somebody bought my newborn a tracksuit. It was hot pink and had little leopards all over it

We put it on, laughed hysterically. Took a photo and sent it to them saying thank you for my cool outfit aunty!

The 0-3 month phase is over in a flash

No need to be precious

Mollymoostoo · 23/01/2022 08:46

@Laughingstock91

Does anyone really care that the colour doesn’t suit a 3 month old? Maybe it’s just me!
My little girl was bought teal and dark blue baby grows by one relative. They looked very masculine compared to some of the gender neutral colours but they still got worn as babies of that age get through so much stuff. I assumed the person gifting them bought those colours on purpose to be more Liberal. Not sure why anyone would refuse items like this, she could have just said thank you and put child in the clothes just at home.
Poptasmagorical · 23/01/2022 10:21

Bloody hell! What you do is you stick the baby in the outfit, send a photo to the person who sent you it, say thank you so much we love it, then save it for days when they shit through everything they own.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 23/01/2022 10:35

@calliecapers

Somebody bought my newborn a tracksuit. It was hot pink and had little leopards all over it

We put it on, laughed hysterically. Took a photo and sent it to them saying thank you for my cool outfit aunty!

The 0-3 month phase is over in a flash

No need to be precious

Sounds fabulous! I'd prefer that to some of the incredibly twee stuff aimed at baby girls.
Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 23/01/2022 10:40

@ChristmasCrackered

Is the baby a boy?

If so, and you gave a traditionally female outfit, I can see where she might have thought it rude/thoughtless.

That's a very big if. Not many people would give a pink outfit to a new mother with a baby boy. Yellow, green, white, yes. Pink, no.

Anyway, OP hasn't been back to this thread for ages, so we'll never know now.

Stirling2701 · 23/01/2022 11:25

She sounds very rude. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that.

MzHz · 23/01/2022 11:46

Get her to post them back to you, and get a refund.

Fuck her, she doesn’t deserve you as a friend

KatieC0811 · 23/01/2022 12:28

Sorry but YABU, its their baby, nothing wrong with them disagreeing with you on what would "suit"
They respectfully let you know that they didn't like them and wouldn't use them, and gave you an opportunity to change then or get your money back!
People who are offended when people don't like their gifts shouldn't buy gifts.
I got loads of crap for my baby when he was born, I regifted everything I didn't like because tags had already been cut off, so couldnt be returned anyway. Its not my job to please gift givers. Its not ungrateful either. I am grateful to receive gifts, I just didn't like them.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 23/01/2022 12:35

@KatieC0811

Sorry but YABU, its their baby, nothing wrong with them disagreeing with you on what would "suit" They respectfully let you know that they didn't like them and wouldn't use them, and gave you an opportunity to change then or get your money back! People who are offended when people don't like their gifts shouldn't buy gifts. I got loads of crap for my baby when he was born, I regifted everything I didn't like because tags had already been cut off, so couldnt be returned anyway. Its not my job to please gift givers. Its not ungrateful either. I am grateful to receive gifts, I just didn't like them.
Respectfully?!
190190tnt · 23/01/2022 14:08

How rude! All that is required is a thank you...

Justkeeppedaling · 23/01/2022 14:14

To be fair, I would say that yellow is a difficult colour for a baby - or anyone really.
I would gratefully/gracefully accepted though and made sure the baby wore them at least once in your presence, or sent a photo.

BABAHOTEL · 23/01/2022 14:27

@Justkeeppedaling

To be fair, I would say that yellow is a difficult colour for a baby - or anyone really. I would gratefully/gracefully accepted though and made sure the baby wore them at least once in your presence, or sent a photo.
A difficult colour 😂😂😂
Justkeeppedaling · 23/01/2022 15:35

😁

ScreamingMeMe · 23/01/2022 15:40

@DrSbaitso

Dig up one of those old Colour Me Beautiful seasonal colour chart thingies and photoshop a red screaming baby face into each section.
🤣🤣🤣
RedLemon · 23/01/2022 15:49

Mint green looked lovely on my DD1, not so much on DD2 so I do think colours can suit some babies more than others.

That said, they all poonami the same colour and that suits no one so at the end of the day you just stick on whatever’s clean innit?!

ThirdElephant · 23/01/2022 23:52

@Justkeeppedaling

To be fair, I would say that yellow is a difficult colour for a baby - or anyone really. I would gratefully/gracefully accepted though and made sure the baby wore them at least once in your presence, or sent a photo.
I don't bother with the 'have them wear it and send a photo' nonsense. If you're not going to keep it, donate it with the tags still on rather than detagging for a photo op- the charity can ask for more money for an item that's brand new with tags.
ThreeRingCircus · 24/01/2022 12:56

I don't think the issue here is that the friend was honest and said they weren't keen and could they change it, if people are good friends then of course they can be honest with one another.

The issue was that she didn't say thank you or acknowledge in any way that OP had been thoughtful buying a gift. There's a massive difference between the message the OP received and her friend saying "Thanks so much for the gift, it's really kind of you but not quite right, would you mind if we exchanged it for something else?"

WalkerGirl21 · 24/01/2022 15:58

I'd message them back saying "thanks for letting me know. Please send them back and I'll be happy to donate them to our local baby bank".

I would honestly rather give the clothes away to someone who might need them desperately than engage any furher.

Imonaspendingban · 24/01/2022 16:08

A friend of mine had a boy then 10 years later a girl
Her friend bought the most awful dress for baby-itchy frills,lace and it was the oddest shade of grey I’ve ever seen-it made her look like a shadow
My mate shoved her in it,took 10,000 pictures,sent them to friend and gave it too the charity shop
Problem solved

threecupsofteaminimum · 24/01/2022 16:15

That's so rude, however if it was that sickly baby pink I have to say it is hideous IMO Grin

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