‘Sorry the colour doesn’t suit my baby’

[Laughingstock91]

Sent a friend with a new baby some clothes - one thing was a really pale pink and the other thing was a really pale yellow. It was like a T-shirt and joggers set thing that I got in a small independent shop.

No Thankyou - just a comment that the colours weren’t right. The baby is 3 months old.

Aibu to think I would never have dreamed of making such a comment. I had some really unusual colours but I smiled, said Thankyou & the kids wore them as I was grateful to receive gifts.

I feel really offended- they weren’t cheap either 🤷🏻‍♀️

I could cry at the money people spent on clothes for my children that were just never used because they didn’t work for us one reason or other.
It’s difficult to balance ‘That’s generous, thank you’ with ‘Please stop wasting your money on things we won’t use’.
I don’t think I ever sent a message that rude, but in a sleep-deprived haze, it’s entirely possible.

‘We got your parcel today. Sorry the colour doesn’t suit little xxxx. Could we change them please’

A thank you in this message could have changed the tone and caused far less offence to OP.

Something like 'we got your parcel today, thank you so much!

...Actually, I would never ask to change a gift...

I am also ginger. Clash was the wrong word. It's probably personal preference but I love them in autumn colours. Really bright neon/highlighter colours don't suit them. My son was given a coat in a metallic light blue colour which I didn't exchange but the it really washes him out. Certain shades of red don't suit them either.

I would reply "you're welcome" and then not bother with them any more. So rude and ungrateful.

When dd was born, sil bought her this weird Audrey Hepburn style navy blue shift dress thing- I couldn't belive they did it in baby size!! I dressed dd in it, took a photo, send it to sil saying thank you so much, then shoved it in the charity bag.

No she didn't wear it again but I was still grateful that someone had taken the time to go out to the shops and spend their hard earned cash on my baby - what a lovely thing to do.

In any case, the outfits you bought sound gorgeous.

On receiving a present, there is nothing polite about any message that doesn't include the words 'Thank you'.

Wow that's so rude and entitled!!!

What are you / have you said back to her ???

@Ceramide

On receiving a present, there is nothing polite about any message that doesn't include the words 'Thank you'.

Absolutely !

YANBU, that's incredibly rude!

@PinkSyCo

My kids are ginger and we get sent stuff that clashes with their hair a lot, have to admit I do just exchange them.

What colours clash with ginger hair? I’m intrigued.

Absolutely none!

Ginger and mustard - divine
Ginger and orange - striking
Ginger and pink - amazing!

@bkyyy

I am also ginger. Clash was the wrong word. It's probably personal preference but I love them in autumn colours. Really bright neon/highlighter colours don't suit them. My son was given a coat in a metallic light blue colour which I didn't exchange but the it really washes him out. Certain shades of red don't suit them either.

Fair enough dear fellow ginge

@CheeseMmmm

Interesting that rather than actually responding to content of posts about my personal view of nature of friendship, point of present is to give something make recipient happy...

Rather. I'm-

Drunk
Found caps lock
Or an MP!!!

Anyone fancy saying yes would be vv grateful for the boobs babygro? Parents preferences when comes baby when comes baby clothes irrelevant?

Or. Why they prefer to have insincere thanks, and present given away/ back wardrobe. Than thanks soz can I exchange. So they get something they like?

And, if a friend. Who you like and likes you. Have good time with. Etc. Would change entire view of them based on a couple words?

Crap friends in first place surely. To think grabby rude awful person over something like this. When otherwise you close etc.

Don't get it. At all.

I definitely get your point. You're saying, in friendships, why sweat the trivial stuff. It's a good point to make. I sit somewhere between this and the more extreme 'block her' posters. I wouldn't dump the friend, but I'd rethink buying gifts in future. Not because of the exchange request, but because of the lack of thanks for a thoughtful gift.

As an aside, I actually love that boob vest. My thanks would be genuine on that one....

For me it's the lack of thanks in the message that's the main mistake.

But I wouldn't ever ask to exchange a gift.

I would be honest actually if she’s your friend, tell her you feel offended that she didn’t even say thank you?
Have you replied what did you say? You’ll always be abit annoyed about it unless you have it out with her.

So @Laughingstock91 did you get back to your friend,or.

They could’ve said thank you and donated it.
Could she be struggling? Financially or otherwise..

OP is your friends baby a boy?

If so I wouldn't have put my boys in that either. Each to their own.
However I would have probably just given it away.

that is so rude; when we have babies we all end up with things that perhaps are not to our taste but we just take them gratefully. the amount of clothes babies get through they come in very useful even if just round the house!

OP you’ve been generous. Don’t do it again for her. Selfish cow. You sound lovely by the way and frankly I’d be inclined to reply ‘how odd! No worries, I’ll come and collect them so I can donate to a local charity. Thanks’

It is fucking odd. Everything suits babies. And that little outfit is adorable, my mind is blown…

Thats really rude and strange behaviour. I would ask for them back, return them and not bother getting anything else.

Is she cross with you for something ? It sounds strange and ofcourse rude!

Wow, absolutely ridiculous and plain rude

Blimey, I hope she sends them back so you can get a refund. I wouldn't rush to send her anything else either if I were you.

So many precious little darlings!

Just a thought....

Is the family of mixed race? Does the baby have tanned coloring?

If not, then she's being a thoughtless bitch and you should sweetly ask for her to return them so you can pass on to another baby without "color problems"

I'd say it was a rude and tactless comment. I think I'd have felt put out if it were me too.
I was delighted with everything everyone ever bought us for our babies. We felt honoured that someone had taken the time to go and choose a gift especially.