I am about to dump my bf for this... AIBU?

[toomanypuns]

He has exes and on line ex dates on his social media and likes their posts regularly.
No messaging or comments.
He adds and allows random women, not necessarily sexy profile pics , to his account.
AIBU here? He thinks it's not an issue.

Well you can dump someone for whatever reason you like

But YABU and really controlling to get so worked up about him having exes on his social media.

Dump him, you'll be doing him a favour

It's not just exes though is it @aristotlesdeathray

It's random strangers, all of whom, coincidentally, are young, fit & female.

@aristotlesdeathray really??
The women aren't young.

This may have been said before but I haven’t read all the replies;
If this worries you now, how will you feel 6 months down the line? Will it become all consuming? All those niggles, worries and doubts will get bigger and bigger until they take over your life and relationship. Please do deal with it now before it gets worse.

Sorry just read that you’ve now split - think you had a lucky escape.

@ChargingBuck

It's not just exes though is it *@aristotlesdeathray*

It's random strangers, all of whom, coincidentally, are young, fit & female.

And?

@aristotlesdeathray are you ok?

And?

And, @aristotlesdeathray, OP doesn't like it.

And, as she asked him to stop, but he doesn't want to, she's learned an important life lesson about boundaries.
She's no longer hanging her self-worth on whether she can change him - but whether she can change her expectations, stick to her own boundary, & leave him to crack on with it.

Other women might be perfectly happy with his online behaviours.
OP isn't, so she's done right to dump him, rather than try to control him.

Great username btw :)

@toomanypuns

That's the worst thing. He was such an incredible boyfriend in every single way and could not see that what he was doing was wrong because to his mind, it was entirely innocent. Liking random posts of ex bumble dates.

Personally I would not see his actions as “wrong”, as such, nothing illegal

BUT as others say, you cannot Police other peoples SM, or any other part of their lives, you can only respond to their actions.

I agree with you.

It's creepy adding random women and writing comments like "hot" "stunning" it's also really cringey imo.

You deserve better OP.

@toomanypuns

To add, his profile is set to single on social media and besides liking and tagging me in posts, There is so sign that we are together.

I would not trust him either.

@ChargingBuck

Yes, it's disrespectful when a partnered man does this. But I find it distasteful & shabby when single men do it too. *@Sunnydaysofspring* has articulated why brilliantly -

But If we was sat in a pub and our boyfriend did a walk around the room telling all the women what he liked about them he'd be a pig. Its just funny how it being on a screen is accepted.

It's revolting. These men don't slime their way onto other men's timelines 'appreciating' the men's handsomeness, do they? Creeps.

This.