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To wonder why MN hates en-suites?

414 replies

Greenbluestar · 21/01/2022 08:25

Just curious 🤨

OP posts:
gettingmylifetogether · 21/01/2022 10:33

Love an ensuite. Provided, of course, I'm the only person using it.

If I lived with someone, I'd hate it.

Postchristmasflab · 21/01/2022 10:34

I find down stair toilets grim. I don’t want to hear (or smell) people going to the toilet when I trying to relax.

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 21/01/2022 10:34

There are en-suites and there are en-suites. The teeny ones you find in new builds with no window and a cardboard wall I can do without.

IncyWincyGrownUp · 21/01/2022 10:34

I have only ever encountered ones that have been built into the corner of an already quite small room. They tend to be noisy, tiny, and ill-ventilated, and there at the expense of storage space. I wouldn’t want one, and would actively choose not to live in a house that has one.

If they’re designed as part of the original house plan, and designed well, I'm sure they’re a blessing.

starfishmummy · 21/01/2022 10:35

I didn't know that "mumsnet" did. What makes you think that, @Greenbluestar

Otoh as you haven't been back, do you have enough responses for your article yet???

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 21/01/2022 10:36

@Franklin12

I like mine too but people who use then in the middle of the night and DONT shut the door - that's the issue!

Not in our house though...My DH used to try and creep around and was never quiet so he had the bright idea of using a torch. Can you imagine someone in your room in the middle of the night with a torch. Not one of his finest moments because he didnt tell me he was going to do this. I nearly got the knife from under the bed!

Grin

Top marks to him for trying to be considerate, zero marks for failing to think it through.

jamdonut · 21/01/2022 10:37

I think it’s because some on here have an aversion to normal bodily smells and sounds!

Apparently you can’t have a poo in an en-suite? If you live together, you surely are used to each other’s “smells” ? Part and parcel of being a couple/family.

Roselilly36 · 21/01/2022 10:37

I love ours, I would buy a property without an en suite now. Just so convenient.

UnitedRoad · 21/01/2022 10:38

I love mine. It has a lovely big shower ❤️❤️❤️

It also has a toilet brush, and I don’t care.

I wouldn’t buy a house without one, but I don’t want a 90x90 shower cubicle

Yerroblemom1923 · 21/01/2022 10:38

Because they're naff, outdated and devalue your property. That's generally why people don't like them.

WetLookKnitwear · 21/01/2022 10:38

Read the old threads

Fink · 21/01/2022 10:38

I used to have one in a former house, don't anymore. I like a decent person: bathroom ratio, but was not a big fan of the en suite. As a pp said, I'd have preferred more storage space. The smell from DH was horrible (not to mention him not closing the door when having a poo so it used to be right in front of me in bed), the bedroom windows would get steamed up, when we worked different shifts it would wake up the sleeping partner.

At uni, I had a bedroom - dressing room - bathroom set up. That was great. Plus I was living alone so none of the noise or smell elements were an issue.

In answer to a pp, yes, I'm not hugely enamoured of en suites on holiday either, but I will put up with them as the better than a shared bathroom in a hotel! I usually stay in studios/appartments/houses with a separate bathroom. Hotels are only for 1 or 2 night stays in extremis.

And in answer to another pp, plenty of people go to the loo at more or less the same time every day, whether straight before bed or another time. I don't personally, but I used to lift share into work with 3 people who all did. It came up in conversation when one of the guys apologised for being late because his morning poo had been off schedule.

starfishmummy · 21/01/2022 10:39

@Postchristmasflab

I find down stair toilets grim. I don’t want to hear (or smell) people going to the toilet when I trying to relax.
I remember a younger me staying with a friends family and they had a downstairs loo. I remember needing to use it one evening and didn't want everyone hearing me from their living room so when I got back the Dad asked why I had been upstairs and not used the downstairs one. Blush

I just muttered something about force of habit and forgetting they had one!!

Classicblunder · 21/01/2022 10:39

Love an en suite and plan to add one to our house when we can afford to.

I don't really get the comments about light - in our previous house, we had an en suite without a window, really powerful extractor so no damp. Sure it wasn't super bright in there but it's the room in the house you spend least time in, I am not that bothered about natural light when I am on the toilet... Would rather have more natural light in other rooms!

JurgensCakeBabyJesus · 21/01/2022 10:39

We've just had plans drawn up for a loft extension, architect was very surprised we didn't want an ensuite so they must be popular. We will just have two rooms and a shower room off a small hallway. It makes the space more flexible and having spent some time travelling around for work I don't want a bathroom off my bedroom, too steamy and I would be disturbed by the light/extractor in the middle of the night. The space will be DSs when he's older anyway and this way he gets a bedroom and a study/lounge that can also be used as a guestroom so it makes sense to have a separate bathroom

TheresSomebodyAtTheDoorNeil · 21/01/2022 10:39

The probably have husbands with arses as rancid as my partners is - - >> not envy Envy

Sparklesocks · 21/01/2022 10:40

As a frequent middle of the night wee-needer I love mine

Autumnscene · 21/01/2022 10:41

You’d be glad of them when you’re old/immobile and can’t get to the bathroom easily across the landing in time !

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 21/01/2022 10:41

@Postchristmasflab

I find down stair toilets grim. I don’t want to hear (or smell) people going to the toilet when I trying to relax.
I find it massively inconvenient to have a house without a downstairs toilet.
Hocuspocusandfairies · 21/01/2022 10:42

I haven't got one and I'd love oneSmile

UnitedRoad · 21/01/2022 10:44

Just out of interest

People who don’t like them say it’s because they don’t want to hear or smell people having a poo while they’re in bed. For a start, chances are those people in your en-suite are your husband, wife, partner whatever. Secondly I’ve been married 25 years and never once has he got up in the night to have a shit.

GoodnightGrandma · 21/01/2022 10:44

I like mine. Quicker to nip in there than the bathroom for a night time wee, and doesn’t disturb others like using the bathroom would.

Cherryonthetop2019 · 21/01/2022 10:45

We have 3 ensuite bedrooms. They are all spacious and do not take away from space for storage in the bedrooms. All have natural light with windows that open. We have a weekly cleaner so that takes care of the extra cleaning. I would never buy a house that didn’t have at least one master room with a decent ensuite.

PigletJohn · 21/01/2022 10:45

I have no strong feelings, but any bathroom needs a powerful, effective extractor fan, and a solid (preferably fire-grade) door that blocks sound.

If you have those, most of the objections go away.

DrSbaitso · 21/01/2022 10:47

I don't like toilet sounds and smells going straight into the bedroom, or shower steam.