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Would you be happy with this sleepover?

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Notagoodtime · 21/01/2022 03:15

Dd is 12 and has been invited on a sleepover at a new friends house with 5 others. They are going to be staying in her friends parents holiday annex which is next door to the main house. This has made me feel a little uneasy but I am overprotective so wondering how others would feel.

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avamiah · 21/01/2022 03:27

No
My DD is of similar age and I have no problem with her going out with her friends to events but not for sleepovers.

PrettyBluebells · 21/01/2022 03:33

At age 12 sleepovers are perfectly ok, I would ask about communication between the annex and the house and what security measures will be in place before I would would agree in those circumstances.

Kanaloa · 21/01/2022 03:57

Is it attached? Like an extension to the main house? If so then I don’t really see the issue, it wouldn’t be much different to them sleeping in the basement/attic etc.

If it’s a separate house I wouldn’t like it.

Ericaequites · 21/01/2022 04:00

At that age, I held sleepovers in the family caravan twenty feet from the back door. It was very safe.

Ginandplatonic · 21/01/2022 04:05

I’d be fine with this. But I seem to be much more laid back about sleepovers than most of MN. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Doyourememberthetime · 21/01/2022 04:10

We have an annexe which is attached to our own house. I don’t see the problem, its not a separate house?

steff13 · 21/01/2022 04:56

It would be fine by me.

fairylightsandwaxmelts · 21/01/2022 05:21

Sounds absolutely fine to me.

girlmom21 · 21/01/2022 05:27

I think it's fine

tostaky · 21/01/2022 06:28

It depends on the friends and parents

CircleofWillis · 21/01/2022 06:36

I would be uneasy if it had its own entrance. Even more so if it is not directly connected to the main house so parents can't supervise / oversee the sleepover. If a female adult is with then - no problem.

Sparklingbrook · 21/01/2022 06:39

I would be fine with that at that age.

WhatNoRaisins · 21/01/2022 06:39

I wouldn't be too fussed. I wouldn't expect parents to supervise a sleepover. In my day parents went to bed and you were left to it until morning.

malificent7 · 21/01/2022 06:44

Am i doing something wrong...dd has bern having sleepovers from 6...( the popcorn and haribo type...not booze and boys,).

onanotherday · 21/01/2022 06:45

What will the arrangements be for communication? Has it got smoke alarms, locks?

girlmom21 · 21/01/2022 06:46

@malificent7

Am i doing something wrong...dd has bern having sleepovers from 6...( the popcorn and haribo type...not booze and boys,).
Not in an annexe separate to the house, presumably?
BooksAndHooks · 21/01/2022 06:47

I would be fine with that. Not much different to camping where the adults are in separate tents etc.

cherrypie66 · 21/01/2022 06:49

Fine also fine with tent at the end of the garden you have to let them do things

SarahBellam · 21/01/2022 06:53

We’ve had kids to sleepovers on the trampoline in the back garden at that age. Provided it’s a safe and secure environment it’s perfectly fine.

olympicsrock · 21/01/2022 06:57

I’d be ok with this. Appropriate age, number of them. They could phone a parent if needed!

blackteaplease · 21/01/2022 06:59

What specifically is making you uneasy? Can you pinpoint your worries at all? If its a new friend in y7 its OK to ask for the parents contact details and have a chat with them.

Original poster
Notagoodtime · 21/01/2022 06:59

Thanks all ... it’s an entirely separate house so not attached which I am worried about

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Sparklingbrook · 21/01/2022 07:06

@Notagoodtime

Thanks all ... it’s an entirely separate house so not attached which I am worried about
What are you most worried about happening?
Snoken · 21/01/2022 07:11

I would absolutely be fine with that, as long as they have a phone with them. It's a lot safer than sleeping in a tent for example.

rainbowandglitter · 21/01/2022 07:11

My ds is 12 and I'd be fine with that. It wouldn't enter my head not to be.
What are you worried about? An intruder getting in or the kids going out?