Is anyone truly happy in a long term relationship?

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Just wondered what everyone's thoughts are on this. To those people who have been together 10-15 years for example, maybe a little less or a little longer. Do you still feel content with your partner, do you meet each other's needs? Or are you comfortable and settled and it's OK enough to not rock the boat, but doesn't tick every box for you anymore?

I guess I'm just genuinely wondering, past a certain point of living together and being together long term, no matter how things were in the beginning or how strong the relationship was or wasn't through the years.. is it inevitable that things change and you just accept it? Does anyone ever remain loved up on some level 'happily ever after'?

Been with DH for 17 years and married for 11. Still love him to bits. Our relationship has changed, we aren't as intimate as often as I would like as life and kids get in the way but I adore him.

18 years together, and still feel the same about DH as I did at the beginning.

Yes I am. Together 12 years, married 10. Had our struggles (not within our relationship, but external issues) and have been there for each other throughout. Still happy.

Yes, been married 32 years this year.

Yes

16 years.

I’d like more sex but otherwise we’re happy and I love him as much as I always have.

We have two children with ASD which makes some days harder

Yup, 15 years, perfectly happy. Of course it's comfortable and settled, that's the best part!

Together 20 years. Can honestly say I’ve grown to love him even more as the years have gone on.

If you’re in a relationship where you can’t see yourself being happy with that pad on long time, you have your answer.

We've been together 10 years, married for 7 (but been friends for 21 years). Still very much in love, it doesn't really feel like we've been together all that long, it certainly doesn't feel like long enough to be in the plodding along stage. My in-laws have been together about 35 years and are still utterly devoted to each other. I hope dh and I are as lucky

27 years and still giddy about him. I feel more attractive to him and attracted to him than when we had dcs around, particularly when they were physically dependent; there was almost 10 years of slight flatness where we were touched out and more focussed on kids. Never fell out of love or considered breaking up.

Yes. Adore my husband been together 13 years. He’s my soul mate (sorry that’s sickly sweet!)

15 years together and he's still my soulmate and I love him to bits. We are still inseparable and best friends, and luckily we still seem to find each other attractive too so there's some romance left there too. Things have definitely changed from when we first met in the sense that the honeymoon period is long gone, but the relationship has evolved into something deeper, and I feel like I love him even more now because we have quite a long history and shared experiences together. It sounds really mushy, but yes he still ticks all the boxes.

18 years.

“Can honestly say I’ve grown to love him even more as the years have gone on.”

Same for me. And appreciate him too - over the years it’s become clear I have so many friends with partners who are abusive, or lazy, or don’t pull their weight with children or chores.

Yes, we’ve been married 16 years this year, and despite many life changing things happening we are still as happy as we were in 2005 when we met.

Been together 15/16 years (met at uni ). Having young dc makes it harder to have us time but he still makes my heart skip a beat as he's so good looking. 😆

Yep. Met husband as teenagers, been together nearly 16 years and married 7 this year. Very much in love, though obviously it's not that intense, palpitations every time I look at him like when we first got together, part of which I'm sure was teenage intensity. We have a lovely life we have built together and seeing him with ds makes me love him even more.

I'm currently happy in my nearly four-year old relationship (is that long term?) mainly because we don't live together.

I very much doubt we'd love each other if we cohabited. I think the secret of everlasting love is never having to wash each other's socks.

Yes, 32 years this year. Don't know how that happened, feels like about 10 years. Love him to bits and the only thing I would change about him is that he now snores. Consider myself very lucky that that's the only thing I have to complain about. ExH now been divorced 4 times tho, which makes me smile whenever it pops in my head

Been together 24 years.

We kiss and say I love you everyday. Both of us look forward to spending time just the two of us - which isn’t often enough thanks to the kids, the cats and the dog!

Yes. Been with mine for 22 years.

Yeah. Been with my partner 9 years and still love him to bits. Our relationship isn't the same as at the start and we do have ups and downs but I wouldn't be with anyone else and he still makes me as happy as he did at the beginning

Yes! 19 years and love him more than ever.

Been together 10 years, married for 7. We get along so well. We rarely argue, he does all the cooking, is unbelievably generous in bed and is a great dad. We could both do with losing a few pounds and making more time to be intimate and the fact he cannot multitask for shit drives me bananas as does his propensity to think he's told me something when he hasn't, but I wouldn't want to ever be without him.

Stronger. He’s my best friend, I am regularly reminded how lucky I am.

10 years but not yet married. We will one day just to sort the paperwork but we'll get to it eventually. We'll be together forever We love each other and enjoy spending time together.