Do parents not pay for weddings these days??

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I'm thinking we're a bit behind the times in Wales because we still pay as parents for weddings, now it's money dependant, finances allowing as to how much hoopla there is.

I find it sad whenever folks on here talk of saving up for their own wedding

Am I being unreasonable to think it's the final gift to your child??

It was traditional for the bride's parents to pay.

It was also traditional that if the groom didn't turn up, the best man would marry the bride

Haven't read the full thread, but my parents got married in 1960 and my Dad (as the higher earner) paid most of it - my Mum paid for her dress & bridesmaids. Don't know how common this was at the time though - they were both immigrants with only my Mum's father alive and he didn't have much money.

Back in the day, the bride's family would foot the bill and the groom would be providing a home and providing for his wife and family. Things are very different now.

I'm Welsh, I still find the way people try to other the nations of the UK a bit odd. We're not really that different.

I've two children getting married soon and both daughter's earn almost twice as much as I do. If I paid for their weddings I'd have to do it through a bank loan and just can't see the logic in it. I'd also raise issues around the suspended floral canopy thing which is costing thousands for one of them.
The idea's fine in principle if you have about 20k in spare cash. I earn 30k a year and would be paying me a minimum of 40k for my daughters weddings.

@Frazzled50yrold, When the parents pay, the daughter would not expect the day to be all about her.

Costs would be kept to a budget, or at least that was the idea. The bride would wear a dress that was likely to be made by the bride's mother or a local dressmaker. There would be one or two bridesmaids, maybe more if there were young nieces. There wouldn't be a free bar etc.

I've been to flashy weddings and wedding where it was church followed by a meal in a village hall. It might be coincidence, but the low key ones were much nicer.

I have 2 grown up children (late 20s) and others still at home (early high school years).
I'm renting as can't afford to buy, work full time + part time job to pay for all the ordinary stuff, we do ok.
I get no support or input from the eldest two's dad, brought them up on my own.
So no, can't afford to pay for a wedding, nice fantasy though.
I'm sure we're not the only family like this.

In 1999 I earned more than my DF could've dreamt. He and DM paid for my entire outfit, which was a lovely gesture.