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AIBU- Fellow school mum drives every morning

437 replies

Mybumlooksbig · 13/01/2022 11:36

So..hope this doesn't out me.
We live in a very small close knit area. All kids attend the same school, lots of us live on the same few streets.
Every morning and pick up we ALL walk the kids to school, bar the few who have to rush off to work etc (it's a 5-10 min walk)
One parent on my street... drives! Big 4x4, she has NEVER once walked her DS.
She doesn't work, no where to rush off to. She has no mobility issues etc neither does the child..
Why does this iritate me so much??

Yabu- live and let live
Yanbu- she should be walking

OP posts:
RedRec · 13/01/2022 19:38

@gamerchick

The 'we would know' comment says a lot about what you all chat about in your walking group.

I don't think I'd want to walk with you and your community group either. Nothing worse than the school run clique. Just no.

Absolutely spot on.
pandaeyes44 · 13/01/2022 19:38

What is it with nosey people this week?

Why on earth are you even thinking about this? Get a life! I drive my dc to school daily because I need to be home in time to log on for work at 9. Anyone who doesn't know me might think I'm just sat around on my arse all day but the reality is I work from home.

It's literally not of your business. You clearly have a lot of time on your hands.

Toothsil · 13/01/2022 19:43

I can't walk even for 5 minutes at the moment as I'm about to have both hips replaced. People may not even know this as I'm not out much. I'd definitely drive DD on a 5-10 minute walk at the moment and would like to think I wasn't being watched and judged!

Does nobody just go about their own business any more?

Momicrone · 13/01/2022 19:45

Not if it affects other people no

Toothsil · 13/01/2022 19:47

@Boombastic22

Of course she should be walking. We all should.

The sooner it costs £10 emission charge to move your car each time the better. The world is full of entitled people driving when they are perfectly capable of choosing a sustainable method of transport but are too lazy to do so .

I CAN'T. I couldn't even do a couple of minutes at the moment. Walking from one room in my house to another often has me in tears. Never mind "we all should be" - I have to have both hips replaced and I'm in utter agony ALL THE TIME. Do I want to be like this? Of course not. I'd love to be able to walk DD to school.

People judging is the reason why I hid the pain for so long.

justustwoandmoo · 13/01/2022 19:47

She does sound very lazy. My sister used to do this. The school was literally around the corner but she just couldn't be bothered to walk 🤣🤣. It would take her much longer to get in the car, drive over there and find a parking space.

I get you OP. It's lazy but meh...leave her to it 💁‍♀️

Reallycantbesarsed · 13/01/2022 19:53

@Gingersay

My worst nightmare would be to walk with a load of cliquey mums to school in the morning, I would drive as well to avoid this. Maybe she has more to her life than the school run.
That’s exactly the reason why I always drove my lot to primary school !
Magicandspiders · 13/01/2022 19:55

How on earth do you know she doesn't have mobility issues?! Disabilities are not always visible. Secondly, how do you know she doesn't have to rush off somewhere? For all you know, she could be looking after an elderly relative. You have no idea. You sound like a horrid person and need to get yourself a hobby...

Wrenna · 13/01/2022 19:55

Yabu but you know that already!

Bumpsadaisie · 13/01/2022 19:56

@Mybumlooksbig

So..hope this doesn't out me. We live in a very small close knit area. All kids attend the same school, lots of us live on the same few streets. Every morning and pick up we ALL walk the kids to school, bar the few who have to rush off to work etc (it's a 5-10 min walk) One parent on my street... drives! Big 4x4, she has NEVER once walked her DS. She doesn't work, no where to rush off to. She has no mobility issues etc neither does the child.. Why does this iritate me so much??

Yabu- live and let live
Yanbu- she should be walking

Perhaps she doesn't want to walk to school with irritable people first thing in the morning.

Wrenna · 13/01/2022 19:57

Ps are you my old neighbour that I moved away from because of the nosiness of our street?

Momicrone · 13/01/2022 19:58

It would be much nicer if there were less cars on the road

Momicrone · 13/01/2022 20:04

Gingersay- my worst nightmare would be to drive my kid to school every morning, or walk along a busy road with lots of traffic fumes

Mediocrates · 13/01/2022 20:05

@Boombastic22

Of course she should be walking. We all should.

The sooner it costs £10 emission charge to move your car each time the better. The world is full of entitled people driving when they are perfectly capable of choosing a sustainable method of transport but are too lazy to do so .

I work for a third sector organisation, based 37 miles from my house in a rural setting. A £10 daily emission charge would mean that I would have to choose between travelling to work and heating my home. Alternatively, I'd have to commute for 6 hours per day, assuming no delays. That doesn't really seem reasonable.
Momicrone · 13/01/2022 20:11

Mediocrates - overall our reliance on cars needs to reduce where it can be, but of course that won't apply to everyone

HikingforScenery · 13/01/2022 20:27

Yeah yabu
Are you sure she doesn’t work? She could work from home.

Chloemol · 13/01/2022 20:32

None of your business

How do you know she or the child doesn’t have a disability? Not all are visible

Leave the poor woman alone

Throwntothewolves · 13/01/2022 20:33

How do you know she has no health issues? They're not always obvious you know. Besides it's none of your business how she gets her kids to school

eeek88 · 13/01/2022 20:39

Why don’t you invite her kids to join the walking crocodile?

Crankley · 13/01/2022 20:50

You must lead a very boring life is this is all you have to worry about, especially as it's none of your business.

She obviously drives to avoid you and people like you and who can blame her.

Momicrone · 13/01/2022 20:52

Crankly, surely you could say that about half of the threads on mumsnet?, just because it doesn't worry or annoy you, it doesn't mean it's not important

AlwaysLatte · 13/01/2022 20:58

Maybe she's on a real time constraint and has to get back quickly for some reason. Or a myriad of other reasons. Maybe her child has hidden health problems. Why don't you ask her, rather than tut-tut on here?

mumda · 13/01/2022 21:11

@justustwoandmoo

She does sound very lazy. My sister used to do this. The school was literally around the corner but she just couldn't be bothered to walk 🤣🤣. It would take her much longer to get in the car, drive over there and find a parking space.

I get you OP. It's lazy but meh...leave her to it 💁‍♀️

It's when you see them stopping in the middle of the road to let children out because there is nowhere else to park. Queues of traffic dropping children off.
rambleonplease · 13/01/2022 22:37

I get irritated by parents who drive their kids to school for no reason. Probably mainly because I live close to the school and the parking is horrendous and I mean it's so bad it's dangerous to cross the road with a young child and toddler. So it crates me even though apparently none of my business.

DarkCorner · 14/01/2022 10:10

Maybe it is laziness but that isn't the worst thing in the world. I'd save my annoyance for more important stuff! Maybe she conserves her energy to do other things that are more important to her and her DC. We all have our "things" that we are real sticklers on with our DC and things we let go imo.

We have a drop off zone now at my DC's school. It's an absolute pain as so busy - I'd love a nice walk in the morning but DC has a lot of time with my parents (as I work), at clubs or at his Dad's so wants to maximise his time at home. It's become something that really means a lot to him so I often drive him because it's the one thing I can do to give him a tiny bit extra time at home and a little bit of control over his life. He's a great kid in general and does enjoy walking sometimes with friends so I'm hoping he'll do that more as the weather improves. I hope people aren't judging me Sad.

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