To think age 21 is not a 'young mum'?

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I fell pregnant with my daughter at 20, had her at 21. I am now referred to by a lot of people as a 'young mum'. I don't feel like 21 to have a child is young at all and 10 years on, I've gotten on with my life very well, just the same as I would have without having my child.

AIBU to think a young mum is someone about 15, 16, 17? Anything above that is normal age to have children?

Proving the socioeconomic element on this, as I doubt all your peers were well educated, wealthy 20 year olds having children.

How many intelligent degree educated people end up in mundane jobs, one doesn't guarantee the other.
Life has many paths that lead to a happy place.
I'm sure there is countless educated ppl who don't earn big bucks, who suffer with depression, addiction.
I assume you're an educated person with a very narrow view.

[quote RussianSpy101]@HacerSonarSusPasos judging from the way you write, you’re still well under 25 then?[/quote]
Oh, are we resorting to personal attacks now? Classy...

I was simply stating a fact:

The development and maturation of the prefrontal cortex occurs primarily during adolescence and is fully accomplished at the age of 25 years.The development of the prefrontal cortex is very important for complex behavioral performance, as this region of the brain helps accomplish executive brain functions.

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3621648/#:~:text=The%20development%20and%20maturation%20of%20the%20prefrontal%20cortex%20occurs%20primarily,the%20age%20of%2025%20years.

I'm sure this is factually correct, however, unfortunately people make stupid decisions/mistakes at any age.

@HacerSonarSusPasos but it’s nothing personal to come on a thread of young mothers and say “duh, your brain isn’t even developed”

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@Rosewaterblossom

I'm sure this is factually correct, however, unfortunately people make stupid decisions/mistakes at any age.

Obviously, but impulsivity and risk taking on average decrease with age. We are talking at population level, not anecdotes

[quote RussianSpy101]@HacerSonarSusPasos but it’s nothing personal to come on a thread of young mothers and say “duh, your brain isn’t even developed”

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Because science says it isn't. Don't argue with me, argue with scienceeeee

@AllThingsServeTheBeam Sometimes the judgy pants are pulled up so far they're embedded no point in explaining to someone who knows best.
Sterilisation of the WC types.

@galacticpixels

Nobody in my circle had children at 21 (we're heading to 30 now and still none of my friends have kids) so I do consider it young. There's nothing wrong with that but it is young.

Same and agree. Except we are 30s and older.

Yet you can become a teacher teaching your kids at 23.

20/21 def v young. None of my friends had kids till 30+. I do know a few- not many- that had theirs at 27/28.
I was 35.

@AllThingsServeTheBeam

Yet you can become a teacher teaching your kids at 23.

There are guidelines for teachers, they are supervised and first they have to get the proper qualifications which takes years.

No such oversight for parents. Plus you can do much more damage to a child through poor parenting than teaching.

How are they comparable?

Travel is a massive thing on my to do list in my 40s. I won't have to think about taking kids or doing anything around school holidays! A massive plus for me!

Had my first at 28. We actually traveled more after having our first and I go on trips alone now while my DH is with the kids and vice versa. Children hasn’t limited us in the slightest when it comes to travel. Both sons had passports before six months old.

@chainoverreaction

Good to know who I'm talking to.

Good to know you think anyone not as perfect or who looks different shouldn't have kids.

I was referred as an older mum at the age of 26 in the 1970s.

And why say 'no offence'? You clearly mean to cause offence. Horrible

People of all ages have kids without a good stable career though. They have a job yes, but it wouldn't be deemed as a good career.

Social position meh. It's more about someone's fundamental values overall. You can have someone with money and influence but still have poor values and poor parenting skills (Katie price for example) and you can have someone living in regular accommodation or living on an estate but have excellent values and parenting skills.

I left school with no GCSEs, I had mine at 21 and 24. Like I said, I feel proud I've shown my kids you can build a career and get qualifications whatever hand your dealt.

Travel is a massive thing on my to do list in my 40s. I won't have to think about taking kids or doing anything around school holidays! A massive plus for me!

I did all that in my 20s and 30s. Insurance premiums much cheaper.

@chainoverreaction You are cruel now.