To think that this is cheeky AF

[ByeByeNye]

Brother and soon-to-be SIL are having a destination wedding. Going to cost us about £1k-£1.5k for us to go (me, DH, and kids with flights, accommodation and spending money).

Really want to be at my brothers wedding as I love him dearly. I like my future SIL, so please don't get the impression that I don't by this post. However, I can't help thinking that they're completely underestimating how much it's going to cost their guests to attend their wedding, as they've put a request for money as a gift on their wedding invitations.

I genuinely think it's very cheeky and want to tell them it ain't happening 🤣

AIBU?

Should have mentioned. There 2 hen dos. One in the country that the wedding is taking place in, but the bride wants to have another one in England.

@SummaLuvin

the bride has probably gone out of her way to include OP...

Eh? Did you just make this up, or did something I say make you think this?

You are the grooms family, unless I have misunderstood, so your connection to this wedding is through him not the bride. Most of the Hens I have been to where grooms sister/mother are invited, it has been a kind gesture to include them, not because they are close to the bride. Given the way you have spoken about the bride on their thread one would assume you are not her friend, you appear not to like her and show quite a bit of contempt.

@ByeByeNye

Should have mentioned. There 2 hen dos. One in the country that the wedding is taking place in, but the bride wants to have another one in England.

This is pretty standard. For the bride to spend time with some of the people who cannot go to the wedding abroad but still want to celebrate with her in some way.

Don't go, if you're going to the one abroad. Simple.

I agree with pp, you've been invited out of politeness as you're related to the groom. She's being polite. But that's clearly just too much for you!

Yea you guys have a point. Fair enough! I admit I'm being unreasonable 😊

Surely people invite people to their wedding as they want them there.
We had ten people attend our wedding (in the uk) we had no gift off any of them and didn’t expect one