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To ask what you’re doing awake post-midnight?

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5YearsLeft · 12/01/2022 00:24

I had a day that just really banged me about, physically, emotionally, just all the ways, and now, I’m laying here awake and staring at the ceiling.

So why are you awake? Crying baby? Can’t stop thinking? Worried about something tomorrow? Pain somewhere in your body being an arsehole?

Welcome?

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YouWereGr8InLittleMenstruators · 12/01/2022 01:10

I rolled up to whinge about always working until now, marking books and planning lessons, but your post OP has blown me away; so much in there -such an overwhelming time for you. I am sending you courage and peace Flowers

beethecrackon24995 · 12/01/2022 01:12

Thanks 5years for your response. Oddly enough the oven light is stuck on and is unusually bright it lights up the lounge plus I have a torch on my bed. I've seen too many horror films.

On a different note having read your post I just wanted to say I was sorry that you are going through such a tough time and wanted to wish you all the best

Ladyrattles · 12/01/2022 01:12

I'm a night owl. Can't sleep usually till about 2-3am these days.

bethabean · 12/01/2022 01:13

38+4 weeks pregnant and having bad pelvic cramps and lightning crotch!

Heartofglass12345 · 12/01/2022 01:13

Just enjoying the peace and quiet, I'll regret it in the morning lol

PlantingTulips · 12/01/2022 01:13

@bethabean

38+4 weeks pregnant and having bad pelvic cramps and lightning crotch!
Oh exciting! Not long to wait now then!
Twilight7777 · 12/01/2022 01:14

Chronic insomnia. Long term medical issues that cause it

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bethabean · 12/01/2022 01:19

@PlantingTulips definitely not! I'll let you know if anything starts tonight Grin

coffeewithmilk · 12/01/2022 01:22

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and being awake at this time is now a regular occurrence.
Usually I'm asleep by 9.30 but between the constant fire burning in my throat, my unborn son doing karate lessons in my stomach and the awful pain and numbness in my hands from pregnancy induced carpal tunnel I'm WIDE awake.
Have moved myself into the spare bed so at least I'm not keeping DH awake with my incessant signing and tossing and turning

Shmithecat2 · 12/01/2022 01:25

Toothache so horrific that I want to cut my face off. And the earliest I can get an appointment is 28th Jan - and that's private!!!

5YearsLeft · 12/01/2022 01:25

@TheFoldOx Well, better than drifting off the other way! I don't even know how to listen to the Shipping Forecast. How do you do it?

@Enough4Me Oh my gosh, and they're putting that kind of pressure on you WHILE you have COVID. That's just ridiculous. But sometimes it takes thing like this to show us the true colors of those around us. And it sounds like you have a lovely plan for dealing with it.

@thaegumathteth Oh no. I was on a huge dose of steroids for a bit, and the insomnia made me incredibly unwell, so I can only imagine what you're going through. I actually meant to pour milk in a measuring cup and poured it on my phone NEXT to the measuring cup. Please be gentle with yourself and whatever you do, if there's any option at all without losing your job, don't try to drive. My doctor told me to drive with that little amount of sleep is equivalent to drink driving.

@BillywigSting Well, it all sounds lovely... except for that last bit. So we'll hope it...er... passes quickly so you can trumpet tomorrow about getting a good night's sleep. =)

@Imhereforthecake That's just not fair, it's not. What a terrible double-feature. I've heard it can be just dreadful uncomfortable already trying to sleep with pregnancy but then to add COVID... Well, hopefully, you'll get a few hours!

@clothesshoes What is it about husbands and their foul magic that allows them to sleep through any amount of noise that keeps us from sleep, including often noise THEY make! So sorry to hear you have the dreaded 3rd trimester acid attacks, and hopefully, even though omeprazole was worthless, it will calm down enough for sleep.

@PlantingTulips That's the spirit! Hey, it's their choice. It's every company's choice. They could all be trendsetters, but instead they choose to do it the same way it's been done since the 1950s, so, shrug. Don't feel guilty!

@Invasionofthegutsnatchers I'm typing very, very quietly for your headache. I had a huge one when I had COVID too, thought my head would fall off. I'm so sorry to hear you're suffering either the same or probably worse, and I hope it passes quickly!

@Bluesparkled Oh! That's what I should do. My friend lent me something to wear to court today and I should write her a nice handwritten thank you letter. That would be (I hope) the kind of thing she'd like.

@ParkheadParadise Ha! A 6-week old houseguest is definitely not one you can just tell,, "The bed's all made up, see you in the morning." And I'm sure you do definitely forget how noisy they are if you haven't heard one in a while. I hope he's cute to make up for it.

@Fedupofmagic Oh gosh, COVID really is the very shite gift that keeps on giving. I'm sorry you're suffering through all the aches and pains of it. I hope they can start to ease off a bit so you can get some quality rest and start to feel better. Most people I know actually didn't start feeling better until day 10 with delta, though I know omicron is supposed to be more "mild." I'm wondering if mild just means less hospitalizations, or if it really means less aches and pains.

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hilariousnamehere · 12/01/2022 01:25

Hey 5 - hugs for your day Flowers I don't really have an appropriate reaction but you are as ever brave and wryly funny about a situation which sounds so hard. In answer to your question, I am cleaning my fridge at 1am, apparently! Always a night owl - and now heading over to figure out why I've dropped off some threads I was following...

MrsToothyBitch · 12/01/2022 01:27

Natural night owl/crap at getting off to sleep. Plus DP is trumpeting snoring.

MWestie · 12/01/2022 01:34

Opened this thread as I'm a night owl too, but so sorry to hear from those struggling with Covid, toothache, pregnancy etc.

DH and I have both been doing new Wordle game after seeing it all over social media. Simple but addictive in a good way. One word a day, available from midnight. Today's was tricky, hence still up at 1.30 🙂

LittleWingSoul · 12/01/2022 01:38

@5YearsLeft Every day I tell myself I will go to bed at a sensible time. Every evening I hit a wall at around 7pm and start muttering about how tired I am. Almost every late evening I fall asleep putting the kids to bed and wake up refreshed in time for dinner. And then it is suddenly 1.30am... I don't know how the grown ups do it!

No words but Flowers for what sounds like an immensely emotional day for you. Hope you get a restful nights sleep at some point.

Sort0f · 12/01/2022 01:39

Sorry to hear you had a hard day OP.

My sleep pattern is all messed up just now. I didn’t sleep at all on Sunday night, so I’ve just been sleeping when I can the last couple of days.

I’ve had sleep problems all my life. Doing an AdHD assessment next month to see if that might be behind it (there are other indications too).

Mywifenow · 12/01/2022 01:40

I’m too excited to sleep. Me and DH are going on a romantic 3 day break tomorrow. I’m having one last cuppa ( and a slab of sourdough and cheddar Blush) and will try again. I didn’t sleep last night either so I’m super tired!
@5YearsLeft I’m sorry for what you’re going through, seem to be a lovely person. All the best.

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5YearsLeft · 12/01/2022 01:45

@pixiedust21 Well, that's still quite an accomplishment! It's like 50/50 - he got the 50% sleeping, and you got stuck with the 50% wide awake. Though hopefully you'll be less grizzly tomorrow than he would have been. Or maybe not! =)

@YouWereGr8InLittleMenstruators Oh, please don't feel that way! It's definitely not a race to the bottom, and I tell people - we're all allowed to whinge, we're all allowed to have hurts, we're all allowed to feel tired and sad. And believe me, I know how completely overwhelmed teachers can be by what's asked of them, just the neverENDING working, and marking, and planning, and classroom organizing, and decorating, and planning more, and more marking... it's endless. Of course you're exhausted! At least a few awake teachers on this thread. But yes, I do really appreciate the courage! We could all use it, but I do need a little more at the moment, I admit.

@beethecrackon24995 Have you tried dancing around with the torch by your bed, so perhaps anyone seeing the cabin will think you're a wild woman and think, "Whoa fellas, we don't want anything do with that! Who knows what kind of ritual they might be up to! There could be willy-chopping!!!!!" And they'll just avoid you. And thanks; it's a tough time, but tough times make tough people. Unfortunately, I have sstill not turned into a tough person, so it's more like tough times create people on anti-anxiety medication.

@Ladyrattles Sounds about right. I try, but then I just give up and open a book.

@bethabean Oh gosh, that does sound INCREDIBLY uncomfortable. But you're so close now, so hopefully not much longer of this!

@Heartofglass12345 Ah, you might regret it a bit, but hey, at least you'll have had the peace and quiet now. Sometimes it's priceless. I took pictures of these flowers today, and I was in pain afterwards and regreted it. But the pain wore off, and now I still have the pictures of the flowers. So. You'll still have these quiet hours that were just yours.

@Twilight7777 COVID-safe high-five! This is usually why I'm up this late. If you want to talk about them, this is a safe space and you can feel free to.

@Nomores You know, I never know how to feel about this. My husband says the same thing. But then if I do it, I feel like I'm pressuring myself to sleep and if I don't sleep, I feel like there's been a failure. I think maybe I'm doing it wrong, and possibly should listen to this podcast, har har.

@coffeewithmilk Oh no, a second person experiencing the acid burn (anyone remember the movie Hackers??) of the third trimester. Sounds SO painful, and I really feel for you. And he's a very ridiculous little one to want to practice all of his karate on you at this time of night. Hopefully it all calms down and you can still get some sleep.

@Shmithecat2 Oh no. Toothaches are AWFUL. I know you're not overexaggerating at all, because I had a toothache before that was worse than when my appendix almost burst. Does that Orajel numbing gel help at all?? That's what helped me when I had to wait, but fortunately it was only a day or two. I can't believe the wait for an emergency is two weeks - I'm so, so sorry, and hope that maybe they have a cancellation before then.

@hilariousnamehere Ah! HNH! Yes, new photos on my other thread. A fridge attacking at 1am! I know some people are able to clean when they're awake, but I'm definitely part of the stare at the ceiling brigade.

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Coulddowithanap · 12/01/2022 01:45

Just been called out for work, back now and can't fall back to sleep.

LittleWingSoul · 12/01/2022 01:52

@Nomores I do this too. And I have to actively let my face go all floppy otherwise it is all clenched up with tension. Just let the face flop!

And I think it is probably good to be resting in the dark even if you are not actually asleep (science-y). At least it would mean one is not staring at a phone screen! Like I'm doing right now!

ilovesooty · 12/01/2022 01:52

I don't go to bed very early.

TheFoldOx · 12/01/2022 01:55

@5YearsLeft I listen on BBC Sounds - 0048 every morning. There's something very soothing about the shipping forecast, especially when read by Neil Nunes or Viji Alles!

hilariousnamehere · 12/01/2022 01:55

@5YearsLeft don't fall for the illusion - I clean about once every three months so seize the mood when it takes me 😂 I'm usually much more of a stare at the ceiling / ask Alexa stupid questions / scroll endlessly through Mumsnet reading other people's stories persuasion :)