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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask what you’re doing awake post-midnight?

999 replies

5YearsLeft · 12/01/2022 00:24

I had a day that just really banged me about, physically, emotionally, just all the ways, and now, I’m laying here awake and staring at the ceiling.

So why are you awake? Crying baby? Can’t stop thinking? Worried about something tomorrow? Pain somewhere in your body being an arsehole?

Welcome?

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BobbieT1999 · 12/01/2022 00:47

@5YearsLeft your post took my breath away. You come across extraordinarily brave. Saying I'm sorry you've had such an emotional day doesn't seem good enough, but I am.

When I can't sleep because I'm worked up, it helps to do something. Usually tea and toast in front of the TV until tiredness catches me and my brain switches off.

All the Flowers and ❤ to you.

beethecrackon24995 · 12/01/2022 00:48

In a center parcs Lodge. Lower aching back plus a bit paranoid as it's pitch black outside/forest and been reading online about the odd breakin. Should have stayed off trip advisor but I had been enjoying reading the one star ratings...

purpleme12 · 12/01/2022 00:48

I can't find the fire stick anywhere and I really need it

And I think I'm depressed
I haven't had a nice hug from anyone apart from my daughter for months
Cos my friends at work have left who buoyed me up and chatted to me.
There's no one to buoy me up I have to do it to myself and it's increasingly hard
And I've realised one of my very few friends i don't think is bothered about me. She doesn't think about me. I can't keep saying do you want to meet up

I don't know if I completely misjudged our friendship or what

Powaqa · 12/01/2022 00:50

I'm normally up around this time. It's annoying as I have to be up at 0800 for work. It doesn't matter what I do to try to get to sleep, I am normally awake till around 0200, I'm currently watching season 6 of Supernatural instead

allofthecheese · 12/01/2022 00:50

Been trying to sleep since 10pm but my nose is blocked and feeling awful.. then DC woke up crying and now refuses to go back to sleep.. fun times. I have work in the morning. Sigh.

5YearsLeft · 12/01/2022 00:51

@Reallycantbesarsed Nothing worse than working yourself up into an annoyance. I hope you find the chocolate!

@Floralnomad Oh wow! I’m not the best on 5 hours sleep, and I’m pretty much guaranteed to fall asleep at some point during the day on 4 hours. You’re doing great!

@DramaAlpaca I definitely do wish that there were “shifts” for lots of jobs, so it would be deemed completely normal to start at noon, and when you finished at 8pm, all the shops would still be open for other workers like you, etc. We’re definitely not there, though. I do wonder if we ever completely disconnect from offices, how it will go.

@MajorNeville Ha, another night owl! Well, contacts are as good a reason as anything else, eh?

@escapingthecity Oh my! Congrats on your BRAND new baby. I did have a small laugh at you dropping chocolate on her. She’ll get the hang of sleeping AND chocolate soon.

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing Well, that’s double trouble; no sleep plus discomfort can’t be fun.

@Stripyhoglets1 Oh god, the conundrum of reading for work when the work itself is going to roll around earlier than you’d like. Ugh.

@MrsMonkeyBear Oh no! I do hope the paracetamol kicks in and you can get back to dreaming.

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TheFoldOx · 12/01/2022 00:51

Listening to the shipping forecast before hopefully drifting off (in a sleep sense, not a nautical sense).

Enough4me · 12/01/2022 00:52

@purpleme12 I have similar. I have covid and was ill beforehand and 2 friends are still me,me,me. I am expected to wish them well all the time and build them up, now I need that returned I'm ignored. I'm going to focus on my family more and maybe join groups to make new friends.

thaegumathteth · 12/01/2022 00:52

I'm on medication that's making my insomnia even worse than usual

Haven't slept more than 2 hours a night since Thursday

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 12/01/2022 00:53

@beethecrackon24995 I don’t think you’re in any real danger of a break in there, but I know what you mean it can seem very dark! Im a city dweller and not used to it actually being dark. Once I had to put the living room light on as it was too dark for me! Grin

BillywigSting · 12/01/2022 00:53

Went out for tea for mils birthday. Lovely meal. Pleasant evening.

Now have excruciating gas Sad

Imhereforthecake · 12/01/2022 00:54

Pregnancy doubled with covid!
But I'm not the best sleeper anyway to be honest.

clothesshoes · 12/01/2022 00:54

38 weeks pregnant and woke up choking on acid (again!) on omeprazole and it's not working so fed up all while DP has slept through a major coughing fit! I'm jealous that he can sleep through the horrific noises I've just madeGrin

5YearsLeft · 12/01/2022 00:54

@ShinyHappyPoster I didn’t want this to get lost. That’s so difficult. I’m sure you know you can get migraines from stress, and having just lost a parent a month ago, your body is under tremendous stress. I’m glad you were able to “sleep” it off, though it upset your sleep rhythm, obviously, but… it’s only been a month. Being fragile is so, so normal. Give yourself the time and space to get through your loss. I wish you all the best and unmumsnetty hugs, if you wish them.

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PlantingTulips · 12/01/2022 00:57

[quote 5YearsLeft]@Toomanyradishes Oh gosh, I’m so sorry to hear about the coughing. There’s nothing more annoying than when you’re trying to get to sleep and then… another one sneaks up on you! The bastards.

@Rushhomeroad Bless you for taking the time to mark assignments. I’m sure it’s super bloody thankless sometimes, but where would we be if no one did it. Oh, it’s kind of a long bizarre story. I’m dying and I got divorced today. I’m still living with my husband, he still loves me, he’s still planning to take care of me until I pass on, but I now have permanent residency in the country we’re in and by divorcing me, he can marry my best friend and give her residency. Anyway, the judge wanted to ask questions because on paper it looks like he’s been too generous with sharing his salary (he wanted me to understand that he’s not ever leaving and this way it’s ironclad that he couldn’t pay rent without me anyway), but not generous enough with his pension (until we explained I’m dying, and then the judge looked at me with a super sad face, and it was all just awful). So yeah. Afterwards, I took some photos of flowers then came home and threw up. Life, eh?

@PlantingTulips Oh, that must be difficult! Do you have to still work regular day hours despite fighting against being normally a night person? My husband is also normally nocturnal; if we just left him alone, that’s how his body clock would set, I think.

@Missingjigsawpuzzle Oh no! Talk about a terrible surprise!

@Pieceofpurplesky Oh gosh, that must be so tough on the both of you. I do really wish we could move to the future where jobs worked around more than one type of circadian rhythm.

@Imissmoominmama Neck aches are so annoying! Have you tried putting anything warm on it, even a heated towel? That can help it relax.

@Whitegrenache Ah, rotten luck!

@Buzzer3555 Eek, and then I imagine you’ll be up later hearing about the massive falling out.

@Grandadwasthatyou Hmm. Maybe it’s just unfinished business, if you know he was bad for you? Sometimes we just need closure, and then we can let it go.

@Vanuatu My grandmother had terrible “white coat syndrome” - didn’t matter what kind of doctor, just seeing any of them stressed her. I know a lot of people feel that way, so I’m sure you’re not alone. I hope it goes well![/quote]
Yep! I have two small children so school runs, and a full time job where I'm expected to work at "normal" times of day.

I am permanently exhausted.

However, if they want to pay me for my most unproductive hours when I'm a zombie and let me spend the productive hours of 8pm-12am on my own interests, it is their loss.

Roll on retirement! (Long way off yet for me sadly).

Invasionofthegutsnatchers · 12/01/2022 00:59

Fell asleep at 8.30pm. Covid positive. Then just woke up with another stonking headache. Joy

PlantingTulips · 12/01/2022 00:59

Let alone I'd sleep at 2am and get up at 10/11am. Instead, I sacrifice sleep because I can't function without downtime, and there's no way I can sleep at 9/10pm anyway unless I am seriously ill,

Permanent exhaustion! The world was not designed for night owls.

PlantingTulips · 12/01/2022 01:00

*left

Bluesparkled · 12/01/2022 01:00

I’m always awake at this time - no point in trying to go to bed now, though I wish I could. Watching Father Brown and having a glass of wine and feeling guilty I am not writing a couple of thank you letters that I owe. It’s nice to know I have company. 🥂

ShinyHappyPoster · 12/01/2022 01:00

Ah, thank you for the hugs. I've just read your post about your day. How difficult for you and how brave you sound. I'm so sorry for everything you're having to face 💐

beethecrackon24995 · 12/01/2022 01:00

gertrude have you been to Elveden? I'm not sure if I like it or not. We're both pretty sure however that we won't be back Grin . I love the muntjacs though...

ParkheadParadise · 12/01/2022 01:00

I have nephews 6-week old baby staying overnight. I've fed, changed him and put him back down. You forget how noisy babies are. DH is sound asleep.

5YearsLeft · 12/01/2022 01:04

@BobbieT1999 You're an absolute genius. No idea why I didn’t think of turning the Netflix on my laptop but I’m going to do that now while reading this thread for the pleasant “I’m not alone and the only one awake in this city” background feeling. Ta!!!!

@beethecrackon24995 Ok, I know this will sound ridiculous, but could you leave a light on that will shine out one of the windows, like the kitchen light, etc? I understood that if there’s two cabins, one totally dark, and one with a light out the window, then they’re going to avoid the light. I think a break-in is VERY unlikely, but if it might help you sleep better?

@purpleme12 Oh gosh, I’m so sorry. That’s so much to deal with at once. And I understand. It’s like: you feel sad, you miss your friends, one of your other friendships has gone all wrong and on top of it all… YOU CANT FIND THE FIRE STICK!!!!! (Have you checked maybe under the couch or TV? Or down the arms of the couch?) I wish I had better advice about friends but it can be so difficult sometimes to know what to do or where things go wrong. If possible, maybe start a new activity and find a new friend group so you can start from scratch if that’s an option? I don’t know if it is.

@Powaqa Oh heavens, ha, my household (not me) has been working its way through Supernatural non stop for WEEKS now. It’s mad.

@allofthecheese Oh poor you. That’s an awful lot to deal with when you’re going to have to wake up for work. Here’s hoping that they can get settled and then you can get as comfortable as possible with the nose, and still get some sleep.

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Fedupofmagic · 12/01/2022 01:05

Covid. On day 7 but still have symptoms. Everything aches. And now I've got stomach cramps on top.
Also don't have to be up in the morning as my 10 year old was at Nanny's when I tested positive and has stayed there because she's closer to school (and can get there, as my mum will take her, couldn't do that from home)

So nothing to be up for. And nothing to do means I'm staying up later!

Would like the aches and cramps to go away though.

pixiedust21 · 12/01/2022 01:10

Just got my 11 week old to sleep who has been awake and grizzly ALL EVENING. He’s now fast asleep and I’m wide awake.

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