To ask what you’re doing awake post-midnight?

[5YearsLeft]

I had a day that just really banged me about, physically, emotionally, just all the ways, and now, I’m laying here awake and staring at the ceiling.

So why are you awake? Crying baby? Can’t stop thinking? Worried about something tomorrow? Pain somewhere in your body being an arsehole?

Welcome?

@5YearsLeft

Hey everyone! It’s the after midnight thread! If you’re up with poorly babies, children, or pets, whether your OH is snoring, or sleep talking or sick or you’ve had a fight with them, if you’re stressed or anxious or ruminating about life or work or family or something else… or if you just have plain insomnia, this thread is here.

Usually we’re slow on weekends, but Friday night can be just as hard as any other night, so you’re always welcome to share here!

Good morning, I hope your legs are better. My lovely sister in law is home and the family are showing the world how caring with total love looks. I am in awe of them but also fearful for them when she dies. I made the mistake of having a glass of wine and I’m not tired, more wired. I am not allowing myself to think as I am too full of despair, not only because of what is happening in my family but what is happening in the country and the world. I have to admit I’m in a bit of a deep pit and can’t see how I’m going to get out for a while.

@Crunchymum Oh gosh. I’m not quite the level of emetophobia but I definitely do fear lllll before it happens (which don’t help!). I’m so sorry I can’t help with the fear besides to recommend distraction. ANY distraction, that you enjoy. Something that makes you happy to watch or read for a bit. I’ve found that, statistically, a dodgy tum leads to… the need for the toilet… a lot more often than it leads to being sick the way you’re afraid of, so while that’s not pleasant to think of either, I would maybe hold onto that. Even though I’m sure it’s hard to think of anything else. Good luck and I really really hope your system calms down amd lets you sleep a bit)!

@wonkylegs Oh no, im so sorry. Rheumatoid arthritis is an absolute bear. There’s just nothing good about it; people think it must not be too bad because it’s not a fatal illness or that it’s something “old” people get and it just makes your joints a bit sore, and don’t really know about how it makes eeeeeeverything sore, can keep you up half the night, then you fall asleep and walking up is even worse because then you’re stiff AND sore. And that’s if the stiffness isn’t bad enough to wake you up in the middle of the night on its own. I’m sorry you’re having one of those nights where it feels like the arthritis is “winning.” I do hope maybe it calms down, or you have some medication that will help a bit, or that eventually it eases off enough that you can fall asleep!

@5YearsLeft thank you, I've got a few weeks left before I'm allowed to start walking again or probably relearning to walk. Hoping that doesnt take too long.

@Crunchymum oh god know how you feel on that. I find playing a game sometimes helps and making myself cold, but that is usually when my anxiety is tricking me into feeling sick. Hope you feel better soon.

Simply awake again.

I'm currently living the Phoebe smoke alarm scene in friends.

It started beeping once every 45 seconds and I tried poking it with a stick because I can't reach it because its on the ceiling over the stairs. whos smart idea was that? When it stopped it then started again with a double beep every 30 seconds so I threw a shoe at it which hasn't done damn thing but freak out the cat meanwhile Dh is snoring away totally sound asleep through all the ruckus.

@Tinabn That’s so incredibly difficult; I’m sure they’re glad she’s home, but also know what being home from the hospital means. It’s okay to feel despair and you don’t need to worry about the country or the world or the news right now; it will all still be here when your family has dealt with this loss, or rather started dealing with this loss, as dealing with this loss will take quite a while. You don’t have to rush anything or force anything or pretend anything is okay when it’s not. It’s a terrible situation. While it’s wonderful that they’re caring for her with so much love, of course it’s heartbreaking that they have to. You (and they) will get through the other side of this, though; don’t be afraid for them. Grief is a storm, but people have survived absolutely unbearable storms, even centuries before all our modern survival gear. They’ll get through this. Maybe not in a day or a week or a month or even a year, but m they will. And you will too

@AllOfUsAreDead Argh, I’m sure that’s an incredibly difficult wait. I hope you get a really great PT that makes it as painless and trouble-free as possible!

@Silentraindrops You know, sometimes it’s just like that.

Last night off before my next night shift.

@Chishnfips Oh no, I would NOT be able to deal with the consistent beeps. I’d have to “gently nudge” (karate chop with the force of a thousand suns) DH until he awakened and took care of it (he’s a lot taller than I am). No step ladder, chair you could stand in, nothing like that? Or is it in a super high ceiling? Because that’s just rotten luck if so.

@vodkaredbullgirl Hooray end of shift cycle!

Finally got the battery out but it took a trip to the freezing garage to get the steps to do it. I deserve a midnight snack now.

[quote 5YearsLeft]@Tinabn That’s so incredibly difficult; I’m sure they’re glad she’s home, but also know what being home from the hospital means. It’s okay to feel despair and you don’t need to worry about the country or the world or the news right now; it will all still be here when your family has dealt with this loss, or rather started dealing with this loss, as dealing with this loss will take quite a while. You don’t have to rush anything or force anything or pretend anything is okay when it’s not. It’s a terrible situation. While it’s wonderful that they’re caring for her with so much love, of course it’s heartbreaking that they have to. You (and they) will get through the other side of this, though; don’t be afraid for them. Grief is a storm, but people have survived absolutely unbearable storms, even centuries before all our modern survival gear. They’ll get through this. Maybe not in a day or a week or a month or even a year, but m they will. And you will too

@AllOfUsAreDead Argh, I’m sure that’s an incredibly difficult wait. I hope you get a really great PT that makes it as painless and trouble-free as possible!

@Silentraindrops You know, sometimes it’s just like that.[/quote]
You know that what you do here is amazing don’t you?
I will try to go to sleep now.

@Chishnfips You DEFINITELY deserve a snack! Congrats on defeating the evil battery!!!

@Tinabn Ha, I do what I can with the time I have left. Oooo ok I’ll send all the good sleep vibes your way that I possibly can!

Terrible tonsillitis, the antibiotics have now kicked in so I feel much better overall, but tonsils are still enlarged my own snoring is waking me up, partner is sleeping through it though 🤣

Glad to find this!

I've had the most horrendous 2 weeks. I've lost a fair bit of weight unintentionally in the last month and have been going crazy imagining awful things. Doctor says it's high anxiety and am now taking antidepressants for the first time in my life. I got so scared last week, that I took myself to A&E, had an x-ray, bloods taken, ECG,, urine and all good. I still wasn't convinced that all was ok, so went back to my GP, who ran blood tests, urine and all are normal. Will be having an ultrasound and MRI as well. Anyway, tonight I take myself off to bed and start to feel the symptoms of cystitis. It's about 30 years since I've had cystitis and obviously, have nothing at home to remedy it.Just checked online and a teaspoon of bicarb in half a glass of water, together with a hot water bottle between the thighs is really easing the pain. Fortunately, I don't have trouble sleeping, but not sure that'll be the case tonight Goodnight to whoever's on.

Can I join?
Dc has croup so been barking like a sealion and crying due to tiredness.
We've moved from bed to bed, room to room to try to ease coughing - now in the lounge.

I'm freezing but can't get up to get socks/dressing gown/anything as DC draped over me and starting to nod off so I'll be stuck like this a little while longer

Another night up worried sick about ds starting secondary school in September.
I’ve long suspected he has asd - each time no diagnosis. I just can’t picture him walking to school on his own and navigating himself through a huge school. I’m probably not giving him enough credit, but it’s going to be such an overwhelming change for him. I’m worried he’s going to get bullied, and with all this knife crime too it’s terrifying.
He’s always had social difficulties and never really had any true friends. This might just carry on in to secondary school. I’m worried sick about his mental health when he reaches the teenage years.

His primary school have been amazing with him and an excellent support network. I’ll be in bits in July when we lose them.

(Good) morning all. Well here I am again , joining you lovely lot. Since menopause if I so much as sniff a cork I'm awake 2 hours after going to bed. So here I am again as I had the audacity to drink a couple of glasses with dinner. Pah.

My work thing is finalised and now have to figure out what to do next as I'll be officially unemployed soon. It's a relief to be getting out after a torrid and toxic year, but scary at the same time as I've been in work continuously for decades. It will be a magical mystery tour/ adventure I'm sure. The reinvention of a 50-something beckons. Bring it on! Plenty more sleepless nights to be squeezed out of this situation I'm sure

@5YearsLeft how was your day today?

@Wallywobbles how are the sheeps? 🐑

@Tinabn this is all so distressing and agonising. I'm sorry. X

@AllOfUsAreDead I misread your post and thought you had painful 'back legs', and momentarily wondered did you have forelegs as well, and how unusual that was  anyway, I hope the pain eases for you soon.

@wonkylegs that feeling of a 'thing' taking over your body is just so overwhelming isn't it? Like when people say they are 'full of cold' (but it's much worse than that), and you can feel the illness in every part of you. The pain must be so hard to deal with, and I salute your stoical ability to cope with it, especially in the wee small hours.

@Chishnfips our joined-on neighbours were away once and their smoke alarm went off fully in the middle of,the night so we had to call the fire brigade. They were obviously having a slow night in the bluelight services, so minutes later 2 full rigs and a set of police cars all screeched up, sirens blazing. At 2am . A fearless female firefighter (she rocked!) Ventured in , declared it a fire-free zone , and in doing so set off the house alarm for which we had no code. So I spent a couple of stressful hours trying to raise the holidaying neighbours to find the code to stop the even louder racket of the alarm. Eventually the police found a way to shut it up and we all toddled back to bed, chock full of adrenaline (well we toddled back to bed, the fire fighters and officers went wherever they went as it would have been terribly crowded in our bed otherwise with 2 crews and 4 response officers all squashed in ). Cue, 5 minutes later the bloody smoke alarm starting again . I put a pillow over my head and went back to sleep (this was pre menopause when I could do that - halcyon days ). Smoke alarms. Love them but they can be tricky bastards. Our lovely neighbours were mortified, bless them.

I'm wondering whether we could conceive/create a MN game for those of us up, to work as a distraction? You know, like our own 'Mornington Crescent' but not that? Like I-spy with my tired little eye...... or naming animals beginning with letters of the alphabet, or something? I'm sure there are much better ideas out there.

Went out for lunch, drank half a bottle of wine and now can’t sleep, grrr.

Vaguely wondering if stomach tightening could be early sign of labour or if it’s just my apparently massive baby pressing on me

@blublub we should invent a MN term for wine insomnia (unless one exists already?). There is one - 'the fear' - for when you get when hit by anxiety after having a skinful.

Maybe the wine one could be 'wine-awake' , as in "I'm wine-awake tonight, anyone else?"

Do you also get very hot at the same time? I wake up soaked and sweaty and have to strip off my clothes. DH thinks I'm up for DTD and gets all excited, and I have to bat him off as sex is the last thing I need

@Chichimcgee ooooh! Are we going to have a thread baby? How lovely 😊

How many weeks are you? Could they be Brixton hicks?

*braxton not Brixton. 😂

37 weeks so she could do with a couple more weeks baking. She’s measuring really big although I know people say scans aren’t accurate at predicting size and weight. My son took 3 days to arrive after labour started so I wouldn’t hold my breath just yet!

I'm currently on my break at work.

Tonight l am awake because I appear to have an acute kidney infection. I have been asleep and woken up. I feel better than I did earlier - l could not have even looked at the iPad never mind typed on it a few hours ago - but it is typical that it should happen at the weekend.