To ask what you’re doing awake post-midnight?

[5YearsLeft]

I had a day that just really banged me about, physically, emotionally, just all the ways, and now, I’m laying here awake and staring at the ceiling.

So why are you awake? Crying baby? Can’t stop thinking? Worried about something tomorrow? Pain somewhere in your body being an arsehole?

Welcome?

We find Childrens movies are a good way to forget about lifes struggles

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Wonder how @shas19 is doing

@LovelyYellowLabrador Welcome back!

@hilariousnamehere I’m sorry about your cats! I do hope that maybe something will help them turn the corner, that the stool and blood tests won’t show anything acute because I’m sure that would be “awful.”

@hilariousnamehere And I can’t wait to see the bracelets

Too much pain. It keeps me awake

Haha thank you

Praying one stays asleep a little longer

And the other jumps in on my bed soon

Miss him dearly the big vagabond

@Aimeehedge Oh no. I’m so sorry to hear about that. A lot of people in this thread have different kinds of pain (everything from losing parents to gum infections) so maybe there’s some advice we can give? BUT if that’s not what you need, and you’re burned out on advice, then just know you’re supported and I’m sorry you’re in pain and I hope it gets better/lesser.

@Queenie6655 So is that big vagabond your cat… or your newborn? ROFL.

Haha my lovely Tom cat

Big character

Praying he returns

My partner and I haven't been having a nice few days.

We argued earlier and I got very upset and asked him to leave for the night as it was doing neither of us any good so he's in a hotel literally around the corner and I'm feeling a bit shit.

Hello Night Owls.
I am awake trying to make calculations on how to make ends meet.

It's funny because the thing that is really bothering me the most is that I need a net curtain to stop people staring in to the living room, but I can't afford to buy one and am too stupid to make one :(

Kelly7889 Have you tried charity shops? Always loads of curtains in them. A few pals of mine give away all those types of things for free on Facebook.

@Queenie6655 I’ll keep all my fingers and toes crossed (in my mind; it’s a little too painful to actually cross them)

@Notimeforaname Ah, I’m so sorry to hear this. Fights can just be so terrible; they leave you with that oily, nauseous feeling in the pit of your stomach. If the fight was in danger of turning physical, then you did the right thing by separating for the night. In general, my husband and I have a different approach to fights. If it seems like one is about to start or had starter, we request a 20-minute break aaay from each other and we just don’t talk for that period. It keeps us from saying things we don’t mean and lashing out. After 20 minutes, we try again. And (and this is because we’re not in danger of getting physical or something) since we’ve had that opportunity to calm down, we can talk about the fight without raised voices or lashing out with words we don’t mean. The problem with someone leaving during a fight is that then your brain is going to say, “Well, that’s part of our fighting now: leaving.” And you’re going through lose some trust for the other person. My husband and I agreed we’d give each other as much space during fights as necessary - 20 minutes, and then if we need another 20 minutes and another 20 minutes, then we take them. But we promised each other from the very beginning that we would never walk out on each because we both can from divorced parents who used that threat (walking out on each other) as part of fighting. ANYWAY, sorry about all of that; my point was just to be careful because one night at a hotel can mean a lot more than that. BUT as I said, if you were in physical danger, or being abused in any way shape or form, you made the right decision to spend the night separately. This kind of theory only works if you are NOT being abused, and I hope you aren’t. I hope I haven’t overstepped, but I know arguments are so terrible and they kill marriages so if he’s not a bad man, the absolute best thing for a marriage is to find a healthy way to fight. It’s the third best thing we have in our marriage (3. A healthy way to fight, 2. Constant humor to get through all this horror, 1. platypuses). And if I’m completely off base and your husband IS abusive and you’re moving toward leaving him, then… good luck. You deserve to be safe and loved.

@Kelly7889 Welcome! Believe me, you’re not the only one who has found themselves staring at the ceiling in the middle of the night, trying to figure out how you can pay for a mountain’s worth of needs with a hill’s worth of salary. I promise. And it’s so stressful and frustrating. And you are not stupid! If sewing was so easy, we’d all be sewing in our off time because it’d be easier than buying. @Notimeforaname has a great point about charity shops or, since we’re talking about curtains, you could try cheap Chinese selling sites, like Wish or Alibaba? I wouldn’t trust them with clothes or electronics, but all you’re really asking for is fabric and they can be good for that, actually. I actually just did a quick Google and found some for under £5 on IKEA. www.ikea.com/ch/en/p/lill-net-curtains-1-pair-white-10070262/ (is that still too much? We can keep looking - let me know. I want to help.)

I'm still up with foot and hand pain again. Every night at the minute. Waiting for my monthly treatment on Monday. Just got to grit my teeth till then 😭

Hello night owls!

I hope you're all doing well.

I am being my induced right now and having contractions after one dose of the gel, so things seem to be progressing quickly

It's the 16th, four months ago was the night DP never regained consciousness (40s) so I'm just lying here with music on browsing MN trying to disrupt the anger and emotions.

@weegiemum I do mine tomorrow, though it’s subcutaneous. I’d share it with you if I could. Really. I know that pain. I’m hoping so much that it’s going to help with this feeling like all my muscles are crapping out on me.

@bethabean Oh my!! CONGRATS! We’ll soon have ANOTHER baby on the thread. Though it would appear you’re required to have a cat as well; don’t look at me. It’s just a bizarre thread rule because @Queenie6655 has one. I hope everything goes safely and you meet your little one soon.

@TenSteps Oh no. There is absolutely nothing I can do that can lessen that anger. I know that feeling, when the universe waited until you turned away and then it hit you as hard as it bloody could when you never saw it coming. While I can’t do much, I’d be happy to send some music? I have some Spotify playlists or can send them as YouTube links. Sometimes new music can just shake our neural pathways a bit, and even if we’re still feeling the sadness and rage, it means we’re also feeling a tingle of something else.

Some Spotify would be good (if you're still awake!)

@TenSteps I'm definitely still awake. I've decided to do my medical treatment now instead of waiting until noon or so tomorrow so that my muscles have the best chance of, well, NOT failing before Monday (I need to get it into me as soon as possible). Just give me five minutes and I'll have some links for you.

Awake at 3am as partner decided to go out to have a 'head wetting' for our one and a half week old newborn and has come back drunk, with a drunk friend and decided to continue drinking 🤦🏼‍♀️
Severely not happy

@TenSteps Those lists for you.

Four playlists.

RELAX
A lot of different options based on what you want. It’s just a relaxation playlist and it spans the stacks from M83 to some meditation music.

open.spotify.com/playlist/2krTXq9iWzzDoGyUnGXAR0?si=yKQ1nPlyTPSrz_CIGE3tmw

MODERATE DEEP
It’s called that because it’s arguably deep house or techno, but not the kind that will give you headaches or the kind that will shake your walls. Try it and see what I mean. Just the kind that will make it easier to work on things. Good for running or doing an activity like kickboxing until you get the rage out.

open.spotify.com/playlist/2kPvw3JbceWGSo3tQm9lPv?si=laFhgfOKQAyBhH0mWmwkTQ

MYASTHENIA CRISIS 2
A playlist I made while I was in hospital when I couldn’t breathe and had muscle failure, of songs that spoke to my anger and helplessness and how lost I felt, or that I just liked the sound of.

open.spotify.com/playlist/7DGPmmfQeTXCOXmKWee9Rf?si=MP8B1DsWSgm89I2O93XFMw

NO MORE HEADACHES
You can tell I’m not a creative namer. A playlist I made when I was having headaches almost every day of the only music I could stand on the days I wasn’t having headache. Might overlap a bit with the last playlist.

open.spotify.com/playlist/4QcqjDYF2nqWFy72wEoC66?si=iIpKIuQpRqiUISCScfkyxQ

@willithappen I’m sorry. What an absolute prize idiot. Definitely time to have a talk tomorrow (after the hangover wears off, or you’ll never accomplish anything in the conversation). I hope they keep it down so you and your little one can get back to sleep.

[quote 5YearsLeft]@TenSteps I'm definitely still awake. I've decided to do my medical treatment now instead of waiting until noon or so tomorrow so that my muscles have the best chance of, well, NOT failing before Monday (I need to get it into me as soon as possible). Just give me five minutes and I'll have some links for you.[/quote]
Not much fun being ruled over medically (have a few of my own). New GP decided to unilaterally change one of my meds as "I heard this works good ". I'm in A&E resus a few hours later.... meds soon got changed back!

MYASTHENIA CRISIS 2

You have Myasthenia Gravis? (Me too!)