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To ask what you’re doing awake post-midnight?

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5YearsLeft · 12/01/2022 00:24

I had a day that just really banged me about, physically, emotionally, just all the ways, and now, I’m laying here awake and staring at the ceiling.

So why are you awake? Crying baby? Can’t stop thinking? Worried about something tomorrow? Pain somewhere in your body being an arsehole?

Welcome?

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5YearsLeft · 14/01/2022 07:23

@TwoBigNoisyBoys Good on you! I know there were nights I actually paced in my apartment because the steroids were so bad that I couldn’t sit still. Ugh. Exercise bike and squats are definitely a better plan!

@Squeezita I definitely hope you get some relief from it! And I’m about 50/50. Couldn’t sleep two nights ago, fell asleep one night ago, and then last night was another one that just… got away from me. So as of two days ago, er, I guess I’m on this thread in the wee small hours? Ha.

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5YearsLeft · 14/01/2022 08:44

Well, sun’s up, all, and we’ve survived another night. I hope some of you can get rest. Good luck. And I may or may not be back on tonight. Those with COVID and with children with COVID, please feel better. Those who are pregnant or in labour or just about to be in labour - all the luck to you! And everyone hurting, confused, lost, etc - I hope the day is not too tough on you and that perhaps you get an afternoon nap, or sleep tonight.

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whiteworldgettingwhiter · 14/01/2022 08:59

After midnight, I was lying in bed chatting to 17yo dd about her day. She's a night owl, so...

Keladrythesaviour · 14/01/2022 10:45

@5YearsLeft I know, so frustrating! He can sleep through anything and everything, but I wake up at every little squeak and grunt. Not his fault but didn't endear me to him she. He told me how tired he was this morning Hmm I was awake for 2 hours in the end, slept for about half an hour before he woke up coughing. I could have strangled him. But still, we've made it to morning and today is a new day Grin

bloodywhitecat · 14/01/2022 12:25

@5YearsLeft, thank you that is good advice. I am so sorry you find yourself in this situation too.

Mudday · 14/01/2022 14:27

@5YearsLeft - in my experience those that give the most and subsequently help the most, are people that rarely ask for help back despite all the good they do. I see you, and all the beautiful things you do for others. There's always a huge reward for being there for everyone who is lost, but people like you don't have infinite reservoirs of strength. You are worthy of help yourself. It's ok to be brave, but I suspect you would love someone to give you the advice you give others. Trust who you are 5years and always ask for the help you need too eh? Daffodil

Wagsandclaws · 14/01/2022 16:06

@5YearsLeft the dodgy antihistamines are the Kirkland ( so Costco ones ) can't remember the active ingredient but it works a treat!

I was up at 7 so had a grand total of 3 hours. Oh if only I could nap during the day or do sleep 'piecemeal' so to speak.

I think having children equipped me with being able to survive in not much sleep and now the dreaded peri menopause symptoms have sealed the deal!

The pups are all girls - the smug looking one is my lab Astra, her stablemate is our Goldie Tally and the red girl Labrador in the last pic is called Bella. All expert at howling at the moon and side surfing the kitchen 🤣😭

Ds has perked up beautifully as we haven't had a temp spike since this morning so that's it hopefully. 2 lfts done and not a sausage - we had it in September. It's all very odd as it was just the crazy high temp and nothing else really. Oh how the very young bounce back!

Our horses are all girls too, they aren't shod as they have very good feet and we are fist weather riders ( hardly ride at all in the inclement weather ) so a bit of a shortage of horseshoes in afraid.

I hope you are having a relatively restful day in beautiful Geneva, aren't you moving very soon? I bet can't wait for more room!?

5YearsLeft · 14/01/2022 16:45

@whiteworldgettingwhiter Sounds like a very good reason to be awake and I hope you had a lovely chat.

@Keladrythesaviour Ugh. Sometimes I think it’s a test but we’re being tested for, I just have no idea. Either to see if we actually have the patience of saints or to see if we can manage to not kill someone when they say more than two sentences about how tired they are and they’ve had multiples more sleep than we have (2x, 4x, 6x, etc). Good on you for not falling into the trap of losing it on him!

@Mudday I’m trying to do better at asking for what I need but I’m not going to pretend that I’m a wild success at it yet. It’s a work in progress, REALLY. But I’m determined to get better at it, and really need to master it by year end.

@Wagsandclaws All these lovely animals! I’m insanely jealous. They all sound and look like they have such personalities. Im hoping we can maybe get a dog in the next apartment but we’ll see and right now the thing is FINDING the next apartment, which is bad enough.

And so glad to hear about the fever breaking!

Tried to look at apartments today and it was a total fiasco. I went to the rental office and this woman just handed me keys to go look at three apartments with best friend. Off I went. First two apartments in buildings next to each other, no matter what we did, the keys would not unlock if. We suspect a different group rekeyed the lock. The apartment next door didn’t exist: not a single door in the building fig the keys we had. The next apartment said it had a lift… but you couldn’t reach it without either going up or down stairs. That apartment was huge, airy, full of light, across from a gorgeous park, near the lake… but my wheelchair. So I’m ruining my own apartment hunting and I already hate it. I was supposed to visit three more apartments but at that point, I trusted this place -50% so my husband took the keys back in (I would have cried), got my ID, and I never have to go back there again. But. Now what. Sigh.

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Wagsandclaws · 14/01/2022 17:58

@5YearsLeft you absolutely ARE NOT ruining your own apartment hunting,
Sounds like the one you really were interested in was a no go due to the stairs anyway.

What about recalibrating a bit for tomorrow and going to look at the remaining three? Sometimes there is a real gem just waiting to be discovered!?

Did your Dh complain about the keys not working? Oh bless you I think it's probably a case of doing a bit here and a bit there as it's hard enough househunting without ball the kerfuffle of wrong keys Ect.

Our place is a barn conversion and all on a single floor, my Mum who is 82 lives with us and I wanted to future proof this place for me as I have some joint issues and struggle with stairs. We need to add another room really as ds who is nearly 13 doesn't mind sharing with his little brother atm but I suspect that could well change in the next year or two.

He might be waiting a while though as a one room extension is quite a lot!

I can't tell you the times we went to see faded old Georgian places ( my favourite type of house ) but stairs were and are an issue so we decided on this place in the end - nothing to do to it really as it had been a cow dairy so apart from the boys extra room it was in turn lock condition, the bathroom needs doing as the developer really cut costs but that's for another year too.

Yes get a pup! You won't know yourself with a dog! I have five 😱🐶🤣 I have a black lab called daphne tok and her daughter who is a red mini Labradoodle.

I had always wanted a Labradoodle and daphne is our darling girl so we wanted an offspring from her, all of her pups went to friends and family so we have a fine old time watching them grow up Smile

We have 3 cats and 4 chickens and that completes our animal family ( I do fancy either as couple of tame sheep or goats later on this year though so that will give the ponies a surprise!

5YearsLeft · 14/01/2022 19:00

@Wagsandclaws Oh no, I want absolutely nothing to do with that place I dealt with today. They were a nightmare. I get to the first apartment. They haven't written down the code. I have to call them. They put me on hold. Then the keys don't work, when they insist they should have. Then we go to the next place, again no building code, AND now they haven't put any floor for the apartment. I've never seen such incompetence and I don't want anything to do with them. They're mad as a box of frogs. I don't know exactly what we're going to do, but we'll find one some other way or get someone else to lead us through it and find an apartment for us even if we have to throw some money at them to get them to do it. By the time I went to two apartments, I was in tears from exhaustion and pain, so this just isn't a system that's going to work - us being forced by these arseholes to view apartments to see if they have the amount of toilets we want. Which is just ridiculous.

A barn conversion sounds just glorious and I so wish we were shopping around the whole of the UK as opposed to JUST stuck looking in Geneva, which is the very worst places to rent in the entire world for a reason, I imagine. I think we qualify as worse than London, but don't quote me on that.

But yes, our list of requirements is just so incredibly Geneva unfriendly, or maybe just unfriendly for our budget. Because what we need is just barely what we can afford. We need two bedrooms and two toilettes (must have two actual places to put your bum). Instead what they do here is have two bedrooms, and then a bathroom and the toilet in a separate room. Or two bedrooms and just one bathroom. I mean today we saw one that could easily have counted as probably three to four bedrooms. It has one bathroom with no toilet, and ONE toilet in the room next to it. My medication absolutely destroys my stomach, so our house is almost always having a problem with who needs the toilet.

I swear, all I wanted in life was to win the lottery and buy next to the Malvern Hills Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty and just leave everything behind. Why is that asking SO bloody much?!?

The problem is that I can't get a pup until we can schedule it so that if I'm too sick to physically get out of bed, somone will be able to walk the pup. I just can't be one of those people in the medication commercials they show in America that my husband saw once A DECADE AGO and still talks about because it goes, "Where does depression hurt? Everywhere." And shows the person in the bed with aches and pains. AND THEN. It goes, "And who does depression hurt? Everyone." And it shows this poor sad dog waiting by the door with his leash and no one will walk him. I will not be the sad dog antidepressant commercial, dammit.

I want a labradoodle! Husband is allergic, so we need something hypoallergenic and he's had poodles in the past and is willing again, once we sort out our lives so they're not great big dinosaur-sized clusterfucks.

That is one hell of a farm you're running there. You should get a wee comical sign to put on the end of the drive. And by comical, I mean something bordering on crass, maybe with a double entendre. It'd be great! And really, if you have dogs, ponies, chickens, cats, and then you round out with goats, and sheep, that's a whole farm right there. All you're missing are the pigs, but they're a hell of a smell commitment.

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5YearsLeft · 15/01/2022 00:12

Hello all - it’s that time again; post-midnight. So, what are you doing up after midnight? COVID? Other pain? Crying baby? A lot on your mind? Regular insomniac? Come share with us, get some support and advice, as all are welcome here.

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emsmar · 15/01/2022 00:25

Had a Chinese take away for dinner around half 5. It's still sitting really heavy in my stomach, not moving down at all. Can't lay down so sitting upright in bed drinking my 4th mug of peppermint tea. Got work at 7am! Waaaah.

vodkaredbullgirl · 15/01/2022 00:26

At work sat outside having a smoke in the freezing cold lol

5YearsLeft · 15/01/2022 00:42

@emsmar oh no! Not the revenge of the Chinese takeaway! I think we’ve all had that; where you’re not “super” sick from it, but it’s sitting so heavy that you can’t sleep and you’re drinking your weight in peppermint tea trying to help the stomach ache. Have you any Tim’s or antacids? Sometimes those can help. And I hope it eases off so you get a few quality hours before 7!

@vodkaredbullgirl You’ve completely hit on why I could never be a smoker. I just couldn’t handle doing it in the freezing cold when I felt the need for a drag! I’m not sure if you want to quit, but if so, winter is one of the best times, actually. Maybe just food for thought (if you don’t want to quit, that’s okay - maybe some day, when it’s the right day for you, the seed that’s been planted may find the exact right time to grow. It’ll be all right.

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concernedalot · 15/01/2022 01:10

I'm playing rummikub with my 15 year old son, for anyone who understands the game he had a 30 way swap about of tile and now his brain is fried and I fear the game is going to end up being binned but we've been enjoying the evening and having fun anyways

avamiah · 15/01/2022 01:16

It’s Friday, I don’t have to get up at 6.30am so I just watched all of season 3 of Afterlife on Netflix and it was Brilliant.
Just having a glass of wine and a piece of Brie ( cheese).

LovelyYellowLabrador · 15/01/2022 01:16

Hello Non sleepers …again 😩😩😩😩🤣

LovelyYellowLabrador · 15/01/2022 01:17

Here we are again !

rocky1914 · 15/01/2022 01:21

Withdrawal symptoms from quitting both alcohol and binge/comfort-eating.

Destined to be awake until 5am and then up at 7am with DD.

Just kill me now. 😒

sobercuriouskind · 15/01/2022 01:21

I'm in tears. Just read about a young woman who died of Cancer at 24 but she led the happiest most fulfilling life before then. I feel ridiculous that I am 42 this year and haven't made the most of my life in the way she did. It makes me feel ashamed. It makes me realise I am depressed and I'm not sure how to get a grip on it. The meds make me fat and lethargic. But I'm even worse mentally without them. I don't know what to do.

mommybear1 · 15/01/2022 01:25

DS4 had what I thought was just a sniffle yesterday suddenly seems to have gone to his chest so I'm just up with him and the world's noisiest nebuliser Grin.

5YearsLeft · 15/01/2022 01:44

@concernedalot Well, that at least sounds like it was fun up until someone's brain got fried and it sounds like the board miiiiiight end up in the fireplace... while lit.

@avamiah Oooo, always glad to hear about a good show, and it's always good to know that you didn't waste your TV watching time. Or your wine and cheese calories!

@LovelyYellowLabrador Welcome back! We've got pillows, we've got blankets, we've probably even got one of those turtles that puts stars on the ceilings. We just haven't got the sleep to go with it, har har.

@rocky1914 Oh gosh. That's so incredibly difficult. You're VERY brave. Whatever you've done before now, and I'm sure there were whatever moments that led you to feel you need to quit, it's okay. You're making the right decision and the Post Midnight Thread, at least, supports you completely. I know it can be so hard (I struggled with comfort eating when I was in my teens, and it's just an absolute bitch, because you really have to treat the whole thing - stop the eating and deal with why you needed the comfort at the same time and it's SO difficult). Doing that while needing to get up with DD in the morning, is a double-kind-of-brave. But you'll come through the other side of this!

@sobercuriouskind Oh, please don't feel ashamed. We do what we can with what we have. And when I say what we have, I include "depression" in that. Somedays, you're fighting an uphill battle against yours, and you're doing the best you can. It's such a difficult balance, because no one wants you to be unhappy, but the medications can have some hard side effects to deal with. Do you think that your feelings (fat and lethargic) are enough that you should consider another meidcation with your doctor? Everybody has their own race to run; they really do. Getting cancer at 24 is absolutely tragic, but it's also usually before (hopefully) you've had any bad relationships, been divorced, maybe even left your parent's house. Cancer is the fight of your life, even at 24, but at 42, please realize that you've been through so many other battles and you're very brave in your own way. And it's not too late to make changes. It never is. I mean, I've only got five years left and I'm just starting to make my changes now. So I absoutely believe you can do this.

@mommybear1 Oh no, that's always so awful when it goes to the chest and you can hear that tiny weezing soundl I hope he feels better soon!

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MoFro · 15/01/2022 01:48

Got an awful covid cough so staying up and watching TV until I fall asleep

sobercuriouskind · 15/01/2022 01:51

@5YearsLeft I'm sorry and feel a total fraud speaking with you when your time is so limited. I need to sort myself out once and for all. Thank you for listening x

vodkaredbullgirl · 15/01/2022 01:52

It's quite refreshing it's so hot inside, got my thick coat on and a blanket wrapped round me.