I am unreasonable

[Holly524]

Hello, really need some advice please... I am married with 2 children age 6 and 7.
My Mum has offered to pay for all the family to go to Spain this summer this will include us, grandparents, my brother his wife and their son. I really want to go but my husband is dead against it and has today said he won't go. He has said he hasn't got enough holiday days as he is prioritising football trips with his friends over a holiday with my family.
Am I wrong to go without him? I really would like to go and my children I know will love it. Please any advice as I am in 2 minds as to whether its unfair to leave him and go with the kids. Thanks

Nope, go without him and have a wonderful time

Go

Go and enjoy yourself with your family.

Absolutely not unreasonable at all! Go!

Would your have a family holiday as well (as in, you, dh and the dcs) or would this be your childrens only holiday of the year? Go either way, but he is v unreasonable if he has used up his holiday allowance to do hobby things and not spending time with his dcs. This has to be a discussion for next year, he has to reserve a week at least for your dcs. If he doesn't have enough holiday to go away for his hobby and spend time with his kids, he doesn't do the hobby.

So you should miss out on a nice holiday because he wants to go to footy? That would be silly.

Definitely go and enjoy yourself with your family.

Go!!!

Go. He is a bit unreasonable not to go, so don't let it spoil it for you and the kids.

Of course it isn’t!

He’s prioritising football trips, and you are prioritising a holiday with the kids.

Nope. Would it be unfair to deprive your children of a holiday with their extended family to stay a home with a Dad who is choosing not to go on holiday with them? Probably.

Why would it be unfair? He doesn't want to go. He goes on the football trips. You go with your family. Isn't everyone happy with that? He'd be churlish to expect you and DC to miss out just because he (understandably) doesn't want to spend his holidays that way.

Definitely go!! Have a wonderful time, it sounds like such a nice holiday!

Of course you go. He's shown his priority. Go and enjoy!

Of course you should go.

Why do you worry about going without him when he goes on football trips paid out of family money? Your trip is free.

Go you'll have a great time - if he went he'd probably want to go to watch footy all the time anyway making an awkward atmosphere for you - you'll love it. Make the most of time with your mum and dad while you can

Go and if he complains tell him you are prioritising spending your holiday time with people who want to be with you rather than go on jollies with their mates

I'm in two minds, as I wouldn't waste my precious annual leave going on holiday with my in-laws.

I wouldn't want DH taking the kids away for a full fortnight without me, either. If its just a week though I would definitely take them, unless it would cause you childcare/annual leave issues later in the year.

Go!

Why would you feel bad when he'd rather go to football than spend family time together.

Definitely go, why should you and the kids miss out?

Go.

He has made his priorities clear.

Enjoy 😎

Just go on the holiday with your family. He has already made clear that he would rather go to football, but that really is no reason why you and the kids should miss out.

You know you'll regret it if you don't go. So go.

WTF? Why are you even asking this question? He apparently has no qualms about fucking off to god knows where with his footie mates.

Again I ask: why do so many women settle for such low standards in their partners?

Go! Why should you and the kids miss out because he’d rather piss his holidays away on football jollies?

Go!