I am unreasonable

[Holly524]

Hello, really need some advice please... I am married with 2 children age 6 and 7.
My Mum has offered to pay for all the family to go to Spain this summer this will include us, grandparents, my brother his wife and their son. I really want to go but my husband is dead against it and has today said he won't go. He has said he hasn't got enough holiday days as he is prioritising football trips with his friends over a holiday with my family.
Am I wrong to go without him? I really would like to go and my children I know will love it. Please any advice as I am in 2 minds as to whether its unfair to leave him and go with the kids. Thanks

He's choosing to use his holiday/time to go to football with his mates, so you're choosing to use your time to go away with your family. No need for guilt, I can assure you he feels no guilt leaving you with the DC when he goes gallivanting off so don't give it a second thought and say yes to your Mum.

Definitely go!

He sounds like a knob

Thanks so much all. We actually have 2 holidays planned for the 4 of us this year also so wouldn't be the only holiday. Its only for 5 nights so not even a full week.

Just go

Of course you should go! Surprised you're even asking.

Does he feel unfair on you using his annual leave to fuck off on footie holidays with his mates?

He sounds like a wanker.

You need to ask?

Go!

He is happy to have time away from the family, so only fair he is happy for you to have time away from him.

Let me guess, he hasn't asked you if you think he's unreasonable to go on various football trips? I expect your opinion didn't come into it at all!

If he wants to prioritise going to play with his friends instead of having a family holiday then that's fine... But you absolutely need to go on holiday with your children!

Go!
It's his choice not to and he had the option.
Even if he didn't have the option I'd still go

Do you even need to ask? Of cheese it's fine

Go 100%!

Oh god go without him

He has his own “holiday” with his friends.

Why should you miss out?

I agree with a pp , has he asked if you mind him going away with his mates ? Has he asked you if there's anything you need as a family rather than spending his money on football holidays?

Did he ask you if it was fair for him to go on his football trips? Bet he isn’t just using his holiday time on those, but spending money that could be spent on the family.

Take the kids and have fun.

Absolutely go! I presume he isn’t taking you and the kids on his mates holidays, so why shouldn’t you go on a holiday of your choosing?

I'm in two minds, as I wouldn't waste my precious annual leave going on holiday with my in-laws.

OP made it clear she really wants to go.

So go. More fool him for missing out on holiday time with his family.
You may want a discussion with him about how he is using up all his holiday on hobby trips. Has he not used any leave this year for time with you and DC?

Leave him and go with the kids! If he's prioritising his holidays, then you get to do the same!

The op has said that she, her dh and the children have 2 holidays planned for this year. So he’s not using all his holidays to go to football trips with his friends

He has said he hasn't got enough holiday days as he is prioritising football trips with his friends over a holiday with my family.
He doesn't care if you and the kids get a holiday as you come second to his mates and the football. So I'd be going on holiday. And wondering if this lack of care extends to all of your life together?

Mind you it’s a pity she didn’t say that in her first post - would save all the frothy remarks about how selfish he is

So you've already got two holidays booked as a family? He's not as selfish as he initially sounds then

Definitely go. Enjoy it. It’s a real shame he is prioritising football trips over family trip though

Go and enjoy

Absolutely go. He sounds very selfish