To want to knock her lights out?

[AngryMumOfTwo]

Hi,

I've nc'ed to be anon with this.

I'm quite upset because this note was stuck to our door overnight.

A bit of background. We've moved into this privately rented flat about 4 years ago, when our daughter was only 1. She is now 5. We have just had our second (and last) over Christmas. Like all newborns, she cries at night sometimes. She isn't too bad to be honest, at least we didn't think she was. Our oldest did cry a lot.

We get along with most people who live here. We're generally quiet and private as is all the other residents. Over 50% of them are elderly, though this isn't a retirement block of flats. We're the youngest, but there are others not much older then us.

We don't know who left the note. It is obviously unsigned. We have our suspicions but that's all. If they had knocked on the door and spoken to us, that wouldn't be a problem.

For their own sake, they better hope I don't find out who it is. I'm furious. It's horrid. The residents we've spoken to over the last few days have said how lovely she is but no noise complaints. Our immediate neighbours and the lady directly below are nice people so I don't think it's them.

I'm not sure what else I can really do about this. I had to vent my anger somewhere, sorry. My partner is angry but also found it amusing.

Pin it to the front door with a response note so that all residents can see what sort of price they live next to.

Price = prick

Babies cry when their needs are not being met. Newborns crying is distressing for those who have to listen to it. That's nature's way presumably to ensure that newborns are not ignored?

Have you ever met a baby?

[quote LampLighter414]@PAFMO I have assumed the note writer is elderly[/quote]
@LampLighter414

Why would you assume that?

I was all set to say YABU but that note is fucking vile. I'd be absolutely fuming.

@skellingtonboot references to older residents and use of 'we' gives me the impression it's an elderly resident who thinks because they and a few others in the block are old they warrant a good night's sleep

Not sure why op thinks it's a woman, I might be inclined to think an old man might be more resentful of a female 'breeder'

OMG that's vile. Who the hell is voting for YABU?

Congratulations on your lovely baby @AngryMumOfTwo

Also, the 'author' of that poison piece of shit, is full of shit anyway. We have lived next to people with babies a number of times, and you hardly bloody hear them! People who play loud music/have a loud TV in the bedroom til 2am are far more annoying.

I would say you need to move away, but I am guessing this nasty cunt does not represent the majority.

@Whatayear81

All these suggestions about photocopying and sending to other residents….FGS please don’t involve others. Others may be dealing with serious shit… health worries, financial, business down the tubes. And this is just a silly distraction for them.

Agreed.

If someone put an aggressive note through my door about this I'd judge them almost as harshly as the original note writer.

Don't rise to it. It's pretty obvious this is a younger person trolling - the use of the word 'breed' makes that very obvious. They do not represent the majority of residents, so don't take your frustration out on the people who have done nothing wrong.

Write a reply and pin it to your door.....saying Thankyou for the belated congratulations on the birth of my beautiful baby.....I do hope you send a card for baby number 3..😊

@Wheresthebeach

Well that's vile.

I'd post it in the communal area with a note asking them to have the courtesy to sign their communications in future. I'd also suggest ear plugs, and that if they are unhappy with the noise that family life brings that perhaps they'd be better suited to an over 50's development.

But I accept that ignoring it might be best.

this.

[quote LampLighter414]@skellingtonboot references to older residents and use of 'we' gives me the impression it's an elderly resident who thinks because they and a few others in the block are old they warrant a good night's sleep[/quote]
Yes, but the handwriting and wording give away that the note is blatantly trolling for a response, and unlikely to be written by an older person.

I genuinely don't think the author of that letter is 'elderly.' That's not how they write. I am guessing this vile creature is mid 30s to mid 50s in age. I also think it's a woman. Looks like a woman's writing to me. JMHO.

Any gay men in your building? The reference to breeding would make me look in that direction (as the only people I know who use that terminology regularly are gay men).

@eurochick

Any gay men in your building? The reference to breeding would make me look in that direction (as the only people I know who use that terminology regularly are gay men).

Gay men and incels. It is a very male term to use.

Of course you should involve other residents, this kind of vile behaviour needs to be flushed out, what if it was a racist note, should people just let bad stuff happen to others?

@eurochick

Any gay men in your building? The reference to breeding would make me look in that direction (as the only people I know who use that terminology regularly are gay men).

I rarely hear gay men say this. This kind of comment usually comes from people (women usually,) who are fiercely child-free, who like to tell everyone they are, and like to make cutting and cruel remarks about mothers, and in particular, their 'hideous offspring.'

Not saying ALL child-free are like this btw, but some are.

@SoupDragon

Including the original note in the copies

I vote do this

What a nasty, cowardly thing to do. OP ignore. You and your kids have as much right to live in those flats with your little family as that miserable old bugger. They can wear noise cancelling earplugs if your baby disturbs their sleep so much. Congratulations on your new baby.

I'm no closer to knowing who it was. I don't think I'll leave a response because I'm actually quite a shy person IRL.

The older people are mostly all female, living on their own. The younger residents are all couples. We do speak to all the younger ones, so I don't imagine it's any of them.

There are some 40-50 year old couples. We don't really talk much to them, sort of keeping themselves to themselves. The older residents are generally quite sweet and enjoy our little one.

How vile.

I’m another who thinks that note wasn’t from an elderly resident. The person who wrote it probably just wanted to make it sound like it was.

Op I'm not surprised you are so upset that note is disgraceful I'm act angry for you. I would be tempted to post a response aswell but I think the most classy way to deal with it is to just ignore as hard as it is sometimes to rise above it it says more about the twats that wrote it than it does about your family. Enjoy your lovely new baby and don't let this upset you too much ❤️

Do any of your neighbours have a tween or teen at all? The handwriting is very similar to my almost 12 year old’s that’s all, it doesn’t look like an adult’s handwriting. I suspect a teenager is trolling you.

My advice is to get a ring doorbell so you know who it was if any other notes should appear.

@A580Hojas

Pin it up in a communal area, where all residents will see it, and just write on it "Such a shame to be neighbours with a miserable coward like this, I had always felt this was a nice block to live in. To anyone disturbed by our baby - apologies and please be assured we do everything to comfort her when she is crying"

This is exactly what I'd do. That and getting a Ring/other video doorbell so that any further notes pinned to my door would come with some photographic evidence.

I would also be writing a letter lodging the issue with any management company.

I hope you've read that note to your baby and they feel suitably embarrassed - noisy little hooligan!