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To ask what the hell to do about my leaking arse!

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alittlebitembarrassing · 03/01/2022 22:25

Exactly as the title says. Very crass but it is a literal pain in my arse and I’m starting to feel very unwell.

Backstory: I have inflammatory bowel disease and have had my large intestine removed. I had a stoma for 10 months and then a reversal surgery joining my small intestine to my rectum. I have mild proctitis left in my rectum.

A week ago, my anus started itching and leaking fluid. It has been getting worse and worse to the point I am leaking through my underwear to my clothes, I am uncomfortably wet all of the time and it is so painful to go to the toilet that I almost vomit from the pain and am just living by having cold baths.

The leaking is mucous, I’ve developed wounds on my bum cheeks from the dampness, and it is mixed with blood and green pus.

I developed abdominal pain with it two days ago so went to A&E who were useless, have referred me to gastro (no idea how long that will take), and told me my infection markers are raised so gave me antibiotics. Nothing else.

Today I have been on off sleeping and am feeling feverish and unwell in myself. When I was at A&E my heart rate was 120 and my blood pressure was high, but they said they weren’t concerned.

I am leaking massively to the point it’s not even just damp it is like water is pouring out of me.

I don’t want to waste another 8 hours in A&E to be sent home, but I’m feeling unwell in myself now, I can’t go to the toilet properly because it absolutely kills.

What do I do?!

OP posts:
ImprobablePuffin · 10/01/2022 21:12

Oh OP I'm so happy to read your update. Rest up and look after yourself

Hawkmoth · 10/01/2022 21:22

Fabulous update.

georgarina · 10/01/2022 21:29

Best update ever. Wishing you a good recovery 💖💖💖

StellaGibson118 · 10/01/2022 21:33

Oh thank goodness. Im glad youre resting. Xx

ColdShouldersWarmTummy · 10/01/2022 21:33

So pleased to see your update ❤️

Really hope you get seen by the surgeon/gastro team soon. Sending best wishes Flowers

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 10/01/2022 21:35

So glad you're home and resting with family around you. I hope you get the treatment you need really soon.

MissNothing1991 · 10/01/2022 21:40

Thank you for letting us know, we were very worried. Wishing you the best possible recovery x

RantyAunty · 10/01/2022 21:43

Thank you for the update. Happy that you are home and resting. Best wishes for your healing and recovery. Flowers

colouringindoors · 10/01/2022 21:53

Thanks so much for the update. Hope you're soon on the road to recovery 🌸🌸🌸

5YearsLeft · 10/01/2022 21:55

@alittlebitembarrassing I’m so glad to hear that and hope that the referrals are sorted as quickly as possible for you, and that you’re on the road to rest and healing. And I’m sure it’s so nice to be in your own home with family support versus the hospital. Trying to get quality sleep in hospital should be an Olympic sport.

Brackenandbramble · 10/01/2022 21:56

Glad to see your update, I wish you all the very best

gallumph · 10/01/2022 21:59

Thank you for updating OP, I was wondering how you were and I'm glad to hear you're doing a bit better and have support. All the best for what comes next and a good recovery.

Cottagepieandpeas · 10/01/2022 22:01

That’s good news OP. Take care 💐

Whitegrenache · 10/01/2022 22:02

Oh thank goodness you are ok. I have been checking in regularly hoping for an update xx

uncomfortablydumb53 · 10/01/2022 22:02

Great news.. I'm so glad you're back home and have family support
Wishing you well

fibeee · 10/01/2022 22:13

Glad to hear you are getting looked after OP. I had been checking in everyday hoping for a positive update.

Kbr22 · 10/01/2022 22:15

999 now, you need to go to hospital and by pass the 111 system.
Good luck, my husband ended up with Sepsis and it was horrendous , 999 should come out to you xxx

SirVixofVixHall · 10/01/2022 22:17

So relieved to hear from you OP, thank you for the update. Glad that you are well enough to be at home, and i hope you get to see the gastro team asap. Flowers

pastypirate · 10/01/2022 22:18

@alittlebitembarrassing

Hello everyone, I’m so sorry that I haven’t commented, I’ve been resting. I’m doing okay and feeling a bit better and just taking things day by day, but I am home and have my family around me for support. I’ve been booked in to see my original surgeon and a referral has been made for me to be under the gastro team, it’s just a case of resting and waiting now.

Thank you to everyone for your kind messages and support, I really appreciate it xx

Great news! We were all thinking of you xxx
LouLou789 · 10/01/2022 22:22

I’m so sorry you are suffering like this. A and E, repeatedly, until you are sorted, and long term you need to be allocated an IBD nurse, who can help you manage your symptoms

Itsokay2020 · 10/01/2022 22:26

Best update!! So glad to hear from you OP, I hope your recuperation goes well and a treatment plan is agreed very, very soon Flowers you remain in my thoughts!

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PonyPatter44 · 10/01/2022 22:30

I'm glad you're home and feeling a bit better, OP. Take care of yourself.

LoveFall · 10/01/2022 22:30

I am so happy to hear from you OP. Rest, rest, rest. Try and keep up eating nourishing but gentle foods. Take care.
💐💐💐

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 10/01/2022 22:33

Sounds like you might have a fistula Hope the new team sort you out.