To think this isn’t harassment

[missgraciea]

Met someone, had sex, messages constantly for next 24 hours saw again 2 days later. No issues, nice chat, open conversations, got on well.
Made the decision to block them based on the fact that I liked them and was feeling v confused. They then blocked me. I then changed my mind and tried to contact saying we could be friends and if made a mistake - friend is what they had wanted. I sent 2 polite messages, left polite 2 voicemails. No response so left it.
About a week later unfortunately I saw them in a restaurant where they were the singer - absolutely had no idea they would be there. Didn’t talk, didn’t acknowledge as it seemed strange to reach out not hear, so to approach would be a little disrespectful so I kept myself to myself and didn’t really look over much.
Now - week later they have unblocked contacted with a long message I’m being accused of harassment and turning up to intimidate and being told I’ll be reported to the police. The message also said they want to be amicable. I have replied politely but now I’ve started to get very upset as I don’t believe I harassed anyone and wouldn’t dream of doing anything like that.
I’m wondering if I should contact the police and explain? As I feel I’m going to get report for doing things I haven’t done?

You blocked them because you liked them? I don’t understand.

Either way I’d just end all contact, leave it and move on.

You blocked them without telling them then unblocked to suit you. You messaged, they ignored. You messaged again, they ignored. You then called twice because you didn't get responses from your messages and left two voicemails. Then you turned up at the same place as them?

Yeah I'd think you were a bit weird.

Just block them again. Do not acknowledge anything else and do not contact the police.

I don’t really see the purpose in contacting the police as even if they were to contact the police it doesn’t really work that you’d got in there first with your explanation.
From the other persons point of view you contacting them 4 times is quite a bit (once would have been fine, twice more than enough) and then being where they were would have felt like you’d done it on purpose.
I also think that blocking someone randomly like that is not going to end well; you could have just given a bit of space or said the truth

You sound very immature. My teen DD has more social decorum than this.

@girlmom21 I didn’t know they were going to be there...

Your behaviour is erratic so I understand their concerns. Blocking them, unblocking, contacting them four times etc.

I think they are asking to be left alone so respect those boundaries and perhaps look into that initial confusion & your reaction to it.

New year. Time to move on

What did you reply to this last message from them?

How old are you? This isnt the behaviour of a well adjusted adult.

I'd be a bit creeped out if someone did that to me and then turned up at my place of work too, to be honest, even if you didn't know they'd be there.

Strange behaviour from you OP.

@Waftypants oh ok, yeah I can see that I haven’t handled things well at all, there was a lot of emotion involved and I’ve messed up but I didn’t turn up at the same place on purpose, I’m a good person and always see the best in everyone I feel I’m being accused of something unfairly and I’m upset but I do appreciate you think your teen would have handled it better

It’s all very weird.

Block and delete and try to forget it all.

Your behaviour has made you look like a weirdo. Just stay away from them from now on.

@Itsalmostanaccessory I’m 33

I'm sorry, but I can't blame him for thinking you're unhinged. Your behaviour is shocking, and saying you're erratic is an understatement. You block the man, then call, then leave messages, then you show up to a location where he is, albeit unintentionally, but consider what he's thinking. He's thinking you're absolutely mad.

You might want to consider getting some help to understand why you've behaved like this.

[quote missgraciea]@girlmom21 I didn’t know they were going to be there...[/quote]
No but you did the blocking, unblocking, phone calls, voicemails and messages, then didn't leave when you saw them working there.

@Aquamarine1029

The OP is playing the pronoun game. They they them. Might not be a man.

You've messed them about. I wouldn't say you've harassed them, but you can see why they might be a bit worried about what your next move would be.

I wouldn't contact police, but I also would make damn sure you never see them again.

And, please, stop messing people about like this. It isn't fair.

[quote Itsalmostanaccessory]@Aquamarine1029

The OP is playing the pronoun game. They they them. Might not be a man.[/quote]
Irrelevant.

Don’t worry. Even if they do contact the police they almost certainly will at most make a note and do nothing further unless there is some real evidence that you are harassing this person. As others have said, just try to move on.

@HacerSonarSusPasos I said that I would like to be amicable as well and stated that I was emotional and can’t excuse the messages, and that I didn’t know they would be there at the place and I apologised for the way things may have come across.

You didn’t do anything wrong in being coincidentally in the same place at the same time.

But your previous block/unblock/message/voicemail stuff has given them the wrong impression.

Ignore it, move on, don’t have a ONS if you want a relationship.

Not harassment, but weird and unpleasant behaviour, with the ridiculous blocking and unblocking etc.

@AncreneWisse ok, thank you

What was in the messages? You said initially you sent 'polite' messages but then said you couldn't excuse them.
It all sounds a bit much, and turning up at their singing gig I can see might give them a shock as they don't know it's a coincidence. If you didn't say anything aggressive or threatening in your messages though I can't see the police doing anything.