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DP doesn’t like what he ordered, wants half of mine?

257 replies

DietCokeChipsAndMayo · 28/12/2021 21:51

We ordered a takeaway tonight, DP always orders different things, I stick to what I know to avoid this exact scenario

His food has come - he doesn’t like it, he thinks I should half my meal and give it to him as we have sides and it will be enough

It will be enough - but why tf shouldn’t I get my whole meal just because he mis-ordered?!

I told him to order another main and warm up some sides when it gets here, now he’s cutting his nose off to spite his face and says he just won’t eat anything 🙄

Who is BU?

OP posts:
Uniforn · 28/12/2021 21:52

He is!

BigFatLiar · 28/12/2021 21:53

Both of you.
Him for wanting some of yours
You for not trying new things now and again.
Have you tried som of what he ordered?

shouldistop · 28/12/2021 21:53

If you will have enough food then I really can't see what the problem is? I can't imagine not sharing food with my dh in this scenario.

Sexnotgender · 28/12/2021 21:54

I’d probably offer some of mine because my DH would do the same for me. If he was being arsey and demanding I’d eat the whole lot myself.

SituationCritical · 28/12/2021 21:54

I'd share personally, but then I know DH would if the situation was reversed. Can he stick some sides on anyway so you can both top up with those?

OrangeShark27 · 28/12/2021 21:55

It depends if its a regular thing or a one off

As a one off if DP didn't like his main I'd share mine, I love him and I have no desire for him to be hungry or waiting an hour for a new dish. I'd want him to do the same in return.

If its happening regularly then no. No sharing. I don't think that ordering different things each time is particularly unusual and sometimes we fuck up and get something we dislike.

Lockheart · 28/12/2021 21:56

Sometimes you get things wrong. He's not being unreasonable to ask! It's not like he's done it to spite you. If you know it will be enough why not share this once?

santaclothes · 28/12/2021 21:56

I do t see a problem with sharing. It's not as if he ordered something he didn't like deliberately. If DH or I ever get something we don't like we always share the others and just make do.

skippy67 · 28/12/2021 21:56

I'd share because I know my dh would if the situation was reversed.

galacticpixels · 28/12/2021 21:56

Personally I would share as DP would (and has done) do the same for me.

SnarkyBag · 28/12/2021 21:56

I can see why you’re annoyed I would be too but on the other hand I know my DH would offer to swap or give half so I’d be an arse not to reciprocate!

notacooldad · 28/12/2021 21:57

Both of you
Him for wanting some of yours
You for not trying new things now and again

Why is not wanting to try something new unreasonable if you dont want to.

LolaSmiles · 28/12/2021 21:57

YANBU
I'd probably give DH some of mine, but probably not half. He'd eat more sides in this situation though.

When we order new things, we make sure that we have a safe bet main as well. If we like everything then there's leftovers for dinner, which might be a mumsnet sin, I'm not sure.

frazzledasarock · 28/12/2021 21:57

He is being unreasonable.

Altho when we order we usually get a a load of food we all like to eat and share.

But when we order from restaurants where one main will only last for one person I wouldn’t expect to be forced to share.

Enjoy your meal if you’ve got leftovers he can help himself I guess.

Peridot1 · 28/12/2021 21:57

We always order to share anyway. That way we get a variety

I’d share. It’s a bit mean not to share really. Have you tried what he ordered? You might like it.

PizzasPlease · 28/12/2021 21:57

He is unreasonable.
(I'm too nice though so would share anyway)

SnarkyBag · 28/12/2021 21:57

I’d be secretly begrudging every bit I handed over though!

Monty27 · 28/12/2021 21:57

If he paid I'd share as there's probably plenty 🤣

coochyboochy · 28/12/2021 21:57

Joey doesn't share food!

DP doesn’t like what he ordered, wants half of mine?
sadpapercourtesan · 28/12/2021 21:57

I'd share, and so would DH if the roles were reversed; but neither of us would be whiney or demanding about it, which it sounds like your DH is. If you don't want to share, then next time I would say at the point of ordering "don't order something you may not like, DH. I'm hungry and don't want to have to give you half of mine again". Or order more sides and he can make do with that.

RaininSummer · 28/12/2021 21:58

I want to know what was ordered that it seems neither of you must like as wouldn't you have some of his food to go with yours and then share some?

Butchyrestingface · 28/12/2021 21:59

Think I'd share personally, especially if this is a one off.

Unless it's NOT a one off?

Overthebow · 28/12/2021 21:59

I’d share with my DH as that’s the nice thing to do. I’d want him to do the same if the situation was reversed. If there will be enough good I really don’t see the problem.

OverByYer · 28/12/2021 22:00

I'd just share rather than re -order.

StampOnTheGround · 28/12/2021 22:00

I'd share and would 100% expect him to share if it was the other way round

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