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DP doesn’t like what he ordered, wants half of mine?

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DietCokeChipsAndMayo · 28/12/2021 21:51

We ordered a takeaway tonight, DP always orders different things, I stick to what I know to avoid this exact scenario

His food has come - he doesn’t like it, he thinks I should half my meal and give it to him as we have sides and it will be enough

It will be enough - but why tf shouldn’t I get my whole meal just because he mis-ordered?!

I told him to order another main and warm up some sides when it gets here, now he’s cutting his nose off to spite his face and says he just won’t eat anything 🙄

Who is BU?

OP posts:
BigFatLiar · 28/12/2021 22:26

@LolaSmiles

I have a family member who never orders pudding in a restaurant but will always ask others for 'just a taste' (usually half the portion!). So unbelievably irritating! Just order your own... Are we related? Grin

Does your relative also have form for not ordering sided and then thinking they can 'just have a couple of chips from yours' too?
Of course, they 'couldn't manage' their own side, but seem perfectly capable of having a little bit from everyone else given half the chance.
Angry

Have you been talking to my husband, hand up, guilty, chip snatcher here. I don't want chips but eat his ( he now knows to order extra). Same goes for puddings (hangs head in shame)
ChiefStockingStuffer · 28/12/2021 22:29

@DietCokeChipsAndMayo

What he ordered was too spicy for me, I did try it and would’ve swapped if I liked it He’s disliked his order before but not asked for any of mine, I also don’t think he’d share if it was the other way round - in fact a few months ago we ordered from McDonald’s and they didn’t put my order in, he didn’t even offer me one of his chips We don’t really share food I’m realising BlushGrin
Remind him of this and say no.
hangrylady · 28/12/2021 22:29

He is. It's tough teets! I might give him a little bit if I was feeling generous

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/12/2021 22:29

Well given that you had no food one night and he offered a nice big plate of FUCK ALL out of his......he can jog on!

I would definitely remind him of that "Of course darling, I will give you exactly as much of my meal as you gave to me of that McDonalds when my food didnt come!"

You reap what you sow.....

ZenNudist · 28/12/2021 22:30

Just share if there's enough FGS, youre e married

Goldbar · 28/12/2021 22:31

@Porcupineintherough

God would you really begrudge him a share of your food? How depressing, or is your relationship on its last legs or something?
Yes, actually I would. If I had been looking forward to a takeaway all evening (and a takeaway is a bit of a treat here), and then found I had to hand over half of it due to repeated unwise ordering from my OH, I would begrudge it. And the situation is very easily avoided. Why not order a safe dish alongside an experimental dish if he thinks he might need it?

@LolaSmiles. They do the chip thing too but without asking. One of my uncles once stabbed them in the hand with a fork, which he claimed was a reflex action from his army days when you had to guard your food or it disappeared.

hellohithere · 28/12/2021 22:31

Omgggggggg you are. How sad posting about a take away with your husband on here....... seriously

Butchyrestingface · 28/12/2021 22:33

@DietCokeChipsAndMayo

What he ordered was too spicy for me, I did try it and would’ve swapped if I liked it He’s disliked his order before but not asked for any of mine, I also don’t think he’d share if it was the other way round - in fact a few months ago we ordered from McDonald’s and they didn’t put my order in, he didn’t even offer me one of his chips We don’t really share food I’m realising BlushGrin
In that case, I'd let him starve to death.
user1493494961 · 28/12/2021 22:33

I'd tell him to make himself a sandwich.

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/12/2021 22:34

@hellohithere

Omgggggggg you are. How sad posting about a take away with your husband on here....... seriously
Who refused to offer her so much as a chip when her food didnt turn up once.......
hellohithere · 28/12/2021 22:35

Oh no, a chip, how will the marriage survive!

BashfulClam · 28/12/2021 22:35
  • LittleGungHo

Just share. I am always surprised when people will not share food. You do not need a whole take away dish plus sides for yourself.*

Speak for yourself. I will eat a full dish and snack on sides.

I remember getting. Chinese take away just after I moved in with DH, he’s very picky so had never tried chinese before. His mum is very picky too. He asked what was in it and tried a bit, suddenly he appeared next to me with a fork expecting to just dig in too. Eh no get your own!

sweatervest · 28/12/2021 22:35

JOEY DOESN'T SHARE FOOD (as said in friends)

lightisnotwhite · 28/12/2021 22:35

Who paid? If you split it I think you should offer him some. On the basis that it he ordered sonething amazing he’d give you a bit.

However after reading the Macy’s update I would remind him of that epuside and tell him to poke it. He can eat the sides and be grateful.

StarryNightSky26 · 28/12/2021 22:37

I can't imagine not sharing with DH in this situation.

I've done it before when we ordered a curry and his 'madras' was several notches up from any madras he'd had before...it was blow-your-head-off spicy and he couldn't eat more than a mouthful.

I readily halved my meal with him but I know he'd absolutely do the same for me. To not be willing to make even the most basic of sacrifices for each other isn't a relationship I'd want to continue tbh.

TokenGinger · 28/12/2021 22:37

If my DP didn't like his food, I can't imagine that my response would be that he should order more food and wait an hour for it to arrive. I absolutely would share my meal with him. I'd feel very uncomfortable stuffing my face whilst he sat there with an empty plate awaiting another delivery Confused

BettyOBarley · 28/12/2021 22:37

I was about to say I would definitely share mine as I know DH would do the same and I would never dream of telling him to order something else - that seems really mean and childish, especially if there's enough to go round.
However I've just read your follow up post about the McDonalds and in that case, point him to the toaster 👍

Iamfour · 28/12/2021 22:38

I would probably share but it would piss me off. Just like it pisses me off when I order chips but DP doesn't and then eats mine.

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/12/2021 22:40

@hellohithere

Oh no, a chip, how will the marriage survive!
Listen to yourself Hmm

He wont offer to share with her when there was no food at all for her, but she should share with him because he is "being a baby" (her words) that he has food but it isnt exactly as he would like it.

Right. Ok.

Bluntness100 · 28/12/2021 22:40

I’d share but be annoyed I’d not sit their eating mine whilst he sat watching with nothing and I can’t imagine telling him to order something else.

wildthingsinthenight · 28/12/2021 22:42

LTB!!!!

Fairyliz · 28/12/2021 22:42

Well if it’s enough for two but you eat it all you will either be forcing it down or leaving it.
So why not just give him some?

Faywithoutane · 28/12/2021 22:42

Neither being unreasonable, depends on what has happened in the past though.

Wecando · 28/12/2021 22:44

This wouldn't bother me. If my DH or indeed myself fucked up by ordering the wrong foods on the menu we wouldn't think twice about sharing ours.

LuluBlakey1 · 28/12/2021 22:45

I would share with DH in this situation but I hate it when people order what they want and assume they can share some of yours. I order what I like - there are lots of things I don't like, anything with meat in it. I hate it when people who eat meat think they can just try mine.