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Sick of my family panicking.

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Strawbz8988 · 27/12/2021 10:42

Covid It's all My family talk about. Think about. I have a cold and I'm happy to stay away from everyone. My sisters saying I should get a test so I can go see my parents. My parents are fully jabbed and getting some flow tests today just because. I have no fever. No dry cough. I have a runny nose and a tickly throat. I have 3 family members texting me today. Sister thinks I should get a test as she presumes I wanna see my parents over Christmas. Adult niece has been testing all week and says maybe I should test but would I like to go walk with her and her dog aswel. Mum's saying I need to stay home and keep away and get a test yet asking me what I was doing and she heard I was in bed early. Now my niece is asking me if I have any tests here.

I am so sick of people panicking when I'm not even going near them. I have a mild runny nose and a tickle in my throat when I lie down..why can't I just keep away from them if they don't want to take risks?

OP posts:
anniegun · 27/12/2021 11:13

Very selfish not to get a PCR test

Cornettoninja · 27/12/2021 11:13

It sounds to me like they would like to see you and don’t really get why you wouldn’t take a test to rule covid out and be able to see them. They may also actually be concerned about you.

Just be honest and say you’re not testing because you don’t want to see them anyway whilst you’re ill.

I don’t see why you’re annoyed with people wanting to spend time with you and protect themselves. It’s not like they’ve given you a weight watchers subscription for Christmas, they’re just showing a normal amount of concern/desire to see you.

WallaceinAnderland · 27/12/2021 11:15

Interesting that you see taking a test as panicking. For most people it's just another routine thing now.

oftenbaffled · 27/12/2021 11:15

My family and friends aren’t at all like this

Thank goodness

COVID wasn’t mentioned once. Not once over festive period

Tricked2003 · 27/12/2021 11:15

Of course you should book a PCR test, you are being ridiculous. You have symptoms

bedheadedzombie · 27/12/2021 11:15

Why are you being so difficult about a test though?

BasinHaircut · 27/12/2021 11:15

Your symptoms are identical to mine and I tested positive for COVID so YABU to not get a test and consider mixing with others, even at a distance. You almost certainly have it OP and I’m not a COVID drama llama, I’ve been fairly relaxed (but cautious) about it all the way through the pandemic.

Also, I tested positive on a PCR test I took on 23rd December, after my tickly throat starting on the 22nd, and today (27th) is the first day I’ve got a positive LFT so don’t rely on those if you have even mild cold symptoms.

Caveofthewinds · 27/12/2021 11:17

Yes it's turned people into hysterical morons.

viques · 27/12/2021 11:17

Just do a lft. For what it is worth I ordered a new pack late last night so fingers crossed the supply situation is getting better.

Fifthtimelucky · 27/12/2021 11:18

I agree with others that you should take a test. we have all taken tests today as we are expecting wider family for lunch (they have also taken tests).

We are all fully vaccinated, including boosters, and none of us have any symptoms, but it seems the sensible and considerate thing to do.

Babyontheway21 · 27/12/2021 11:18

I had exactly what your explaining on the 22nd December lft all negative …. Christmas morning I tested positive.

It takes two minutes to do one, I didn’t particularly want to ruin Christmas Day but it happened and now I’m isolating in my room away from my family. We all need to do our part or next Christmas we will still be in this rut

RonaLisa · 27/12/2021 11:18

They were reporting most colds in london were covid

People seem to be forgetting that the common cold is also a coronavirus. We need to stop the hysteria about variants, testing, etc, etc.

Lovemusic33 · 27/12/2021 11:18

Omicron apparently presents as a mild cold, thickly throat is the main symptom?

A friend of mine had symptoms the other day, he was due to come over, I told him not to come unless he did a test first, he refused and didn’t come (still sulking about it). My house, my rules. It’s not hard to take a test?

KCee30 · 27/12/2021 11:19

You should get a test. My covid was exactly like a cold - runny nose, sneezing, congestion and barely a cough. I had no fever either.

RozHuntleysStump · 27/12/2021 11:20

Get over yourself and get a test.

WoodenReindeer · 27/12/2021 11:21

I think the OP is creating the drama though. No big deal to get a test and then you can see family!

I agree about the constant news updates etc and avoid those/tend to avoid covid discussions that go in circles but to test isnt a big thing if it means you can see family surely.

Lindy2 · 27/12/2021 11:22

Millions of people test routinely. Daily tests are required for some occupations. Secondary school children test twice a week.

That's without any symptoms. I can't get my head around you thinking it's a big imposition on you and an over reaction that people are asking you to get tested because you are showing symptoms that match exactly with the early signs of Covid.

It may be a cold. It may be Covid. Do a test to find out.

You're the one making an unnecessary fuss in my opinion by not being responsible.

BingBongToTheMoon · 27/12/2021 11:22

The thickly/ scratchy throat thing is a sign of the latest variant.

CaveMum · 27/12/2021 11:23

Do a test! We’ve just had this week’s plans ruined by someone who didn’t do a test because “it’s only a cold” and hey presto they’ve now tested positive for Covid.

We were supposed to be staying with BIL from today for a few days, we’ve been testing every day as my CEV parents came to stay with us over Christmas and have just left. BIL and his GF decided to invite a few mates over on Christmas Day, one of which “had a cold” but hadn’t bothered to do a test. Of course yesterday afternoon they tested positive but they’d already spent 24 hours in BILs house so there’s no way we are going (me, DH and 2 kids under 8) as it’s highly likely BIL and his GF will have caught it from their friend (plus me and DH would be sleeping in the room that the infected friend slept in).

We have other things booked for the kids later this week and I’m not risking ruining their Christmas treats all because one idiot with symptoms couldn’t be bothered to do a lateral flow test.

Cornettoninja · 27/12/2021 11:23

Tbh, I think the OP doesn’t want to see her family right now and is hanging it all on not wanting to test.

Anordinarymum · 27/12/2021 11:23

I do not think anyone is denying the existence of it but for God's sake...

My partner's family live and breathe it. It's all they talk about.

Yes, family members have had it. Yes, It's been a bloody nuisance, and has interfered with our lives, stopped people from going to work etc., etc., but we do not talk about it. We have better things to talk about. Really, we do !

ifonly4 · 27/12/2021 11:23

You have one of the symptoms my GP's website now says to get tested for, as it's a sign of Omicron. You don't have to get a PCR, but it'd be a sensible thing to do if you intend to see family/friends, need to work with others or leave the house for any reason in the next week or so.

driftcompatible · 27/12/2021 11:25

Get a test. LFTs should be ideally done a couple of times a week. I had positives with no symptoms at all. Then did a PCR and was positive.

Friend had positive also but only had a 'cold'.

LFTs are the responsible thing to do with a PCR reserved for if you have Covid symptoms or a positive LFT.

I don't know why people encouraging LFT when this is what we are supposed to do is panicking.

Unescorted · 27/12/2021 11:26

@Strawbz8988

I will stay away from people I'm not going into any shops etc. I was under the impression the test was for fevers. Coughs. Loss of taste and smell. I am not sure where you draw the line with it really without becoming ruled by it. Ofcourse it's important to not go near others and protect the vulnerable.. but if its mainly a mild cold then what is all the panic about if I keep away and feel OK? It's not going anywhere and I'm finding that people have forgotten how to live now and their lived revolve around this .
It may be a common cold like symptoms for you and many other people, but for others it causes long debilitating illness and in some cases death.

You feel ok ish, bit of a sniffle and go to the shop. You give it to a person who is also in the shop - that person may go on to develop a life changing illness. But that is OK because you don't want to be ruled by COVID. Shame about the other fuckers around you who have no idea that you are harbouring some symptoms of Omicron but can't be arsed to take a test.

A lateral flow test takes 5-10 minutes to do, less if you are practiced. They are slightly uncomfortable - but that time out of your busy schedule may save someone's life.

icedcoffees · 27/12/2021 11:26

Why wouldn't you take a test if you had symptoms, though?

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