Mil hit the dog

[LilyTheMink]

We have a 1 year old medium sized dog. He isn't badly behaved and doesn't normally jump up. When MIL arrived for Xmas, he was a little excited - but honestly nothing hyperactive at all.
He jumped around when MIL was hugging my daughter and I told him to get down. I turned my back and he must have done it again as suddenly he was sneezing and shaking his head. This is what he does when he's knocked his nose on something eg. the coffee table.
The kids told me that MIL had hit him.
I wasn't sure what to do and spend the rest of the time keeping him out of her way - although to be honest he did that himself anyway.
She's been horrible to our pets before - once flicking our 3 month off kitten off the table like he was a breadcrumb.
DH has just grown a spine and spoken to her about another ussue - she told our 10 yo DD she was "selfish and didn't think about other people" because she didn't want to wear the Xmas jumper DH had bought her. (This was said in private, but DD luckily told me as she was upset by it).
Wibu to tell her she's not welcome to ever come back if she shows aggression to our pets again, or speaks badly to our kids?

I will shove any animal away which tries to jump up at me. If that's classed as 'hitting' so be it.

Is anyone suggesting that it's enjoyable to have a dog, pissing with excitement (because that's what they do) jumping up at people?

@Prescottdanni123 at a year old the dog should be able to stay down when told. That’s a simple one. If the dog is still in training and hasn’t mastered that then it shouldn’t be allowed to jump on people. OP had already told her dog to get down and it still jumped. Lots of people don’t like dogs or have a fear of them.

It doesn’t mean the dog deserves to be hit but people should be able to give someone a hug without a dog jumping on them twice

@OhWhyNot

Totally over the too (and absolute nonsense response) on here

Next time shut dog away until it calms down and the comment to your daughter isn’t going to damage her so what a grandparent pulls up a grandchild and you have a different opinion

Stop getting so uptight and looking for reasons to create a drama

Ah - but @OhWhyNot - this is a MIL we are talking about

People really shouldn't let their dogs jump all over their guests whatever the excuse.

The OP wasn't letting the dog jump up.

Is anyone suggesting that it's enjoyable to have a dog, pissing with excitement (because that's what they do) jumping up at people?

No. What makes you think they are?

FWIW we have four dogs, all in their second or third home, and none has ever peed on people when they arrive, although they have all had to be taught not to jump up to people.

@MyOtherCarIsAPorsche

I will shove any animal away which tries to jump up at me. If that's classed as 'hitting' so be it.

Is anyone suggesting that it's enjoyable to have a dog, pissing with excitement (because that's what they do) jumping up at people?

It’s not what they do at all. My dog has never pissed from excitement. There are four people who she absolutely adores who visit our house and she squeaks with excitement when she sees them, fortunately the adoration is in both directions. She’s blasé about all other visitors. Don’t visit homes with dogs if you don’t like them.

Literally can’t stand for slobbery dogs jumping up at me. I would have bopped it on the nose too shouldn’t it have learnt by this age.

It doesn’t mean the dog deserves to be hit but people should be able to give someone a hug without a dog jumping on them twice

@Poppinjay

People really shouldn't let their dogs jump all over their guests whatever the excuse.

The OP wasn't letting the dog jump up.

Is anyone suggesting that it's enjoyable to have a dog, pissing with excitement (because that's what they do) jumping up at people?

No. What makes you think they are?

FWIW we have four dogs, all in their second or third home, and none has ever peed on people when they arrive, although they have all had to be taught not to jump up to people.

Except that is literally what this whole thread is about 🤣

@Poppinjay

The OP is implying that it is acceptable for dogs to jump up at visitors.

After the first time your animal jumps at someone it should be put in another place/room. Not allowed to do the same thing again. It's just rude.

gah2teenagers

You’re doomed on MN now

This comment will be remembered 😬

My dog also sneezes if he bumps his nose. Anyone who hits my dog will never be welcome in my house. Never.

@Blossomtoes

Are you suggesting I can't visit my 90 year old mother in my childhood home?

That's a bit heartless.

I would be evil if someone lashed out at my dog! My dog is well trained and very obedient but could still react to unknown situations. This is why I made sure she was comfortable, out of the way, on my bed, when we had visitors for lunch on Christmas Day.

What was the lead up to your MIL hitting the dog OP? Surely she didn’t lash out for no reason? 😵‍💫

The OP is implying that it is acceptable for dogs to jump up at visitors.

Please point me to the post where she does this? I must have missed it

Except that is literally what this whole thread is about

This thread is about how it is reasonable to respond when your MIL hits your dog, knocks your kitten off a table and calls your child vile names.

@gah2teenagers

Literally can’t stand for slobbery dogs jumping up at me. I would have bopped it on the nose too shouldn’t it have learnt by this age.

Agree about hating having dogs jump up at me. Agree it should have learned not to. But that’s the owner’s fault, not the dog’s. I’d have bopped you on the nose OP!

She was really mean to the kitten and DD too. You need to tackle it with her rather than tell her to go though.

I love making a big fuss of dogs which are well trained.

My daughter's next door neighbour has a wonderful dog - quite a large one. It's adorable. I often take it for walks when I'm out and about with my granddaughter.

I am absolutely not anti dog in any way, shape or form.

But I detest those dogs which are allowed to jump up at visitors/others. It's utterly unwanted behaviour.

@DaisyNGO

Cocktailclub "Sounds like she was misguided. And the kitten issue again not great but could be fixed with a discussion and directly asking her not to."

How is it "misguided" to flick a kitten off a table?

Why does anyone need that behaviour in their life, even if there's a blood relative involved? That's not a person I'd teach DC to mix with.

Too dramatic . What if the kids want a relationship with their paternal grandparents.

Maybe don't invite her to the house again but visit her or meet halfway?

I don’t get the outrage about the kitten. Cat on the table - ew, grim. You said yourself it “obviously” landed on its feet.
And nothing worse than people who think that their dog jumping up and getting in your face is no big deal. Perfectly understandable to lash out in defence when that happens.

@Lalliella completely agree. It's OTT to throw out the grandmother without at least talking to her about what's wrong.

I suspect MIL has had life of being in charge and doing whatever she likes unchallenged. I would quite frankly have gone mental at her, for pushing a young kitten off a table WTF! You are lucky it wasn't seriously injured.
She clearly has no respect for your home, your rules or your pets.

@Sunflowers095

Hahaha.

Uncultured?

If someone 'bopped me on the nose' there would be serious consequences. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Some people don't know the difference between good/bad manners.

I'm not violent in any way.

It seems you are!