No bathroom bin

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If you are at relatives house with no bathroom bins where do you put your used sanitary stuff? I've been wrapping my tampons putting in handbag and putting them in the outside bin. I would always empty the bathroom bin and my periods are very heavy so need changing frequently., SIL isnt menopausal even my dad who lives alone has bathroom bins ??!!

I think we all have different ideas about what is gross and what is something you just find away around. You think putting used tampons in your bag awful, someone else feels the same about leaving it in other people's bins for them to possibly rummage through and empty.
Without judging, because I understand everyone does and feels things differently, why do you think storing your own used san pro in a presumably leakproof way in your own bags so awful? Is it because you personally find them unpleasant and therefore wish to dispose of them as quickly as possible? As in when they are in a bag in a bin you consider it ok and done with, whereas they wouldn't be ok in a bag inside your own bag, which you could dispose of in one go at the end of the day. I personally use washable San pro so this is just part of the deal.
At the end of the day there is no problem with you not wishing to return in these circumstances. You don't feel comfortable without this particular feature in a home you are visiting, that's completely your choice. It's the same as saying that you wouldn't visit a home with a dog if you were afraid or found them unpleasant.
It just means that in this situation( no bin) you are unable to be flexible and adapt to a different way of doing things. It doesn't mean that your hosts are in the wrong about not having a bin though , in the same way they wouldn't be unreasonable to have any pet they wanted. They presumably don't need or wish to have a bin for every day use of their family.
The only way around this that I can see is, if situation arrises again, ask the hosts whether you could keep a bin in the bathroom which you would empty daily. In that way you can feel more comfortable and they wouldn't need to change their ways.

Without judging, because I understand everyone does and feels things differently, why do you think storing your own used san pro in a presumably leakproof way in your own bags so awful? Is it because you personally find them unpleasant and therefore wish to dispose of them as quickly as possible? As in when they are in a bag in a bin you consider it ok and done with, whereas they wouldn't be ok in a bag inside your own bag, which you could dispose of in one go at the end of the day. I personally use washable San pro so this is just part of the deal.
At the end of the day there is no problem with you not wishing to return in these circumstances. You don't feel comfortable without this particular feature in a home you are visiting, that's completely your choice. It's the same as saying that you wouldn't visit a home with a dog if you were afraid or found them unpleasant.
It just means that in this situation( no bin) you are unable to be flexible and adapt to a different way of doing things. It doesn't mean that your hosts are in the wrong about not having a bin though , in the same way they wouldn't be unreasonable to have any pet they wanted. They presumably don't need or wish to have a bin for every day use of their family.

Well said!

I will be booking a hotel next year or not visiting for Christmas if I'm on my period it's not worth the feeling of being uncomfortable.

I do that. I don’t like being far from home during my period because of the discomfort and worrying about the possibility of leaks on the heavy days. If my period falls around some type of event or holiday, I’ve taken Utovlan to delay my period until it has passed. Could that be an option for you?

@phoenixrosehere

The most outstanding thing about this thread to me is that so many people don't have guests. And they say "I don't need to provide nice things for guests, I don't have guests". And they can't see that maybe no-one wants to visit their house anyway, since it's so clear they don't want guests.....

Um… some of us do have guests over but it is planned in advance so we accommodate and buy accordingly. Not everyone has a revolving door of guests coming to their home unexpectedly like some people choose to do.

Well then what I wrote doesn't apply to you, does it? It does apply to a number of posters on the thread.

Obviously not everyone has space for lots of different drinks etc, I am lucky enough that I do have space, and have three types of coffee (two instant, one ground - I don't drink coffee at all), plus a cafetiere, lots of teas (I don't drink builders tea, but I always have it in for guests, and builders!), hot chocolate (I only drink the type you make on the stove, but I keep instant in for guests), plus pretty much every alcoholic drink you can think of, and I never drink alone so it really is only for guests.

I only have a bin in my master bedroom en-suite (so wouldn't expect guests to be in there). I use it for cotton buds, tampon wrappers etc so empty it rarely. Tampons get flushed. All my other san pro is re-useable. I don't have many guests (who does these days?) and certainly not many (my sister, maybe) who's here long enough to need to change san pro. If they did they'd be using the downstairs wc and easy enough to discreetly use the kitchen bin (emptied daily) or pop it in the outside bin, straight out the utility room door. No one I know has a bin in their bathroom. If they did I wouldn't put my used san pro in it. How grim!

I’d prefer to miss a few recyclables rather than make my friends walk through my house carrying their used sanitary protection. this. This idea of not having a bin because you'd prefer your kids and guests to walk through the house with their used san pro / condoms etc is just bizarre. Just leave nappy bags somewhere visible and ask them to use those in the bathroom bin if you intend to go putting your hand in it

why do you think storing your own used san pro in a presumably leakproof way in your own bags so awful? I wouldn't expect my guests to empty their dinner plates into a leak proof container to bin at home, or ask them to take home the drink cans or bottles with them, or to bag up the tissues they wipe their noses and bums on. And I wouldn't feel v welcome if that was the expectation on me from a host.

@DoubleFunMum

I only have a bin in my master bedroom en-suite (so wouldn't expect guests to be in there). I use it for cotton buds, tampon wrappers etc so empty it rarely. Tampons get flushed. All my other san pro is re-useable. I don't have many guests (who does these days?) and certainly not many (my sister, maybe) who's here long enough to need to change san pro. If they did they'd be using the downstairs wc and easy enough to discreetly use the kitchen bin (emptied daily) or pop it in the outside bin, straight out the utility room door. No one I know has a bin in their bathroom. If they did I wouldn't put my used san pro in it. How grim!

I have quite a few overnight guests, sometimes for more than one night.

My downstairs loo is off the kitchen, so if there was no bin in there a guest would have to walk right across the kitchen diner to get to the bin, if they even knew where the bin was as it's in a cupboard.

Anyway, tampons should nit be flushed.

Please don't flush tampons @DoubleFunMum. Water companies ask customers not to.

@DoubleFunMum

I only have a bin in my master bedroom en-suite (so wouldn't expect guests to be in there). I use it for cotton buds, tampon wrappers etc so empty it rarely. Tampons get flushed. All my other san pro is re-useable. I don't have many guests (who does these days?) and certainly not many (my sister, maybe) who's here long enough to need to change san pro. If they did they'd be using the downstairs wc and easy enough to discreetly use the kitchen bin (emptied daily) or pop it in the outside bin, straight out the utility room door. No one I know has a bin in their bathroom. If they did I wouldn't put my used san pro in it. How grim!

Why do people think it’s ok to flush tampons? This would never have occurred to me. They are not flushable!

@soapboxqueen

I don't have a bathroom bin and none of my family do. Never crossed my mind to have one.

I wrap stuff in loo roll and just put it in the kitchen bin.

Seriously? It's never crossed your mind to have a bathroom bin??

I have just found this thread. We moved December 2020 during lockdown. We have had practically no indoors visitors since then as I have been working with someone who is having chemo, so have done any socialising outside so as not to risk bringing any nasties to work. I had a bathroom bin in the old house but it was old and cracked and I threw it out when we moved, thinking that I would buy a new one when we settled in. I hadn't actually realised I til this evening that I forgot to do so. I use a menstrual cup and reusable pads for the heaviest days, just the cup on other days. I wear makeup about twice a year in non COVID times and would just wash it off with a reusable wipe. Hair and toilet roll tubes get composted, shampoo bottles get carried through to the recycling, dental floss just gets carried through too. Don't use condoms and I'd we did our bedroom is upstairs and the bathroom downstairs, so I would be more likely to have a bedroom bin than bathroom. I also have a 3 year old DD and a puppy arriving next week, so I would imagine that the bathroom bin would probably be the best forbidden fruit ever. I really should get one for when we open up to the world again, but I genuinely hadn't noticed its absence. If it helps we are the too half of a 200 year old split house, our front door is up an external staircase at the back of the building and opens on to a wee modern porch that sticks out from the house walls. The bathroom is directly opposite the front door and also external to the house and the bins are by the bottom of the stairs. Our kitchen is just through the hall from the front door. So going from the bathroom to either an outdoor bin or the kitchen bin is very easy and the bathroom is pretty small, so much so that we have to fold the bathmat in half. There would still be room for a tiny bin though, had I thought about it.

Actually what was even funnier was that my mum came to stay for a week in August (after isolating),.so she finally got to see the house. She laughed when she went to do her hair after washing it and said "well, I can tell you aren't vain as there isn't a mirror in the house!" Not strictly true as the previous people left one on the wall in the bathroom, bit it is no good to use after a shower as it steams up and we actually don't have an alternative one anywhere. I hadn't thought of that either.

There is nothing more 'grim' than finding a high water line of tampons on your favourite beach.

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/sep/21/flushing-tampons-toilet-blocks-drains-sanitary-products

Women who feel squeamish about disposing of sanpro in bins need to get over themselves.

Interestingly, the “flush it out of sight” approach is not shared by women in many other European countries, where binning is normal. As a result, sanitary items are found in much lower numbers on continental beaches.

And there is no such thing as a 'flushable wipe' either.

..someone else feels the same about leaving it in other people's bins for them to possibly rummage through and empty...

There are people who rummage through their bins?

What in the name of the great googly moogly have I just read?

Well I usually take my own teabags as I only drink peppermint tea and I don't expect my hosts to cater for my different taste.

Drinking tea is a choice, @PinkSparklyPussyCat.

[Even been caught out when visiting and needed sanpro? Tried to use loo roll instead, ended up leaving and trying to get home before your clothes were stained?]
No because I have spare san pro in my bag like most people I know.

There is a reason you can buy sanpro in public loos. Can you guess what it is?

No because I have spare san pro in my bag like most people I know. meh, I can go 3+ months without a period, it just wouldn't occur to me to carry it daily

[quote VanGoghsDog]@limitedperiodonly - nice that you enjoy making fun of Neuro diverse people.

No, face/nose tissues should not go in the loo. It's really simple - pee, poo, toilet paper.

Normal tissue doesn't dissolve in the same way.

The most outstanding thing about this thread to me is that so many people don't have guests. And they say "I don't need to provide nice things for guests, I don't have guests". And they can't see that maybe no-one wants to visit their house anyway, since it's so clear they don't want guests.....

Anyway, I like having guests, I enjoy it, so I try to make it nice for them to be here.[/quote]
I don’t have guests and can’t see why that’s so outstanding to you.
Why would I?

Fucking hell @mathanxiety you brought up supplying tea and coffee, not me!

Same here @SleepingStandingUp but I have a make up bag with various things I might need like painkillers and I’ve always got some san pro in it (no idea how old it is but it’s there!). Friends do the same so I genuinely thought a lot of women would.

@mathanxiety

..someone else feels the same about leaving it in other people's bins for them to possibly rummage through and empty...

There are people who rummage through their bins?

What in the name of the great googly moogly have I just read?

Firstly I believe that people can choose, within reason obviously, to make choices within their own home. They get to decide how the home functions and therefore can decide how it's run and this goes from stocking or not various types of herbal teas, washing towels after every wash or after a week, recycling almost all waste, or the bare minimum. It also extends to whether they wish to have a bathroom bin. This is not an extensive list but of the top of my head there are a few options

• have a bin with a liner and bag it up and chuck everything away, recyclable items and non all together. ( pros- don't have to think about anything/cons-bad for the environment and needs emptying)

-have a bin and throw everything in it but sort it out by removing recyclable items ( pros- get to throw stuff way in the bathroom- better for the environment /cons- needs sorting through and emptying)

• have a bin but only throw away non recyclable items ( pros- bin available and good for environment/cons - need to sort or store recyclable waste elsewhere and bin needs emptying)

• don't have a bathroom bin.( pros- doesn't need emptying-doesn't need sorting through/ cons- need to sort items as they need throwing away and bin isn't available for guests who are used to having one)

That's my list. I obviously am overly invested in this!!!

Jeez, didn't realise all these women walking around with used San pro in their handbags, wrapped up in some kind of leak proof way, great being female

have a bin but only throw away non recyclable items ( pros- bin available and good for environment/cons - need to sort or store recyclable waste elsewhere and bin needs emptying)

This is what we do. Although, the only recycling stuff in our bathroom is loo rolls and plastic bottles, and we just bring them downstairs to put into our recycling bins in the kitchen.

Jeez, didn't realise all these women walking around with used San pro in their handbags, wrapped up in some kind of leak proof way, great being female

If you have reusables you’re doing that anyway, and/or have to get used to it when you move away from disposables. It’s either carry it around and wash them when you get home or toss your sanpro in any bin and if not biodegradable it sits in a landfill for 500+ years (for sanitary pads and plastic applicators for tampons) and tampons without the plastic application (6 months).

Tbf @PinkSparklyPussyCat some days I barely remember my keys 😂😂

There is a reason why you can buy sanpro in public loos. Can you guess what it is?

Is it because they are public?

@SleepingStandingUp

No because I have spare san pro in my bag like most people I know. meh, I can go 3+ months without a period, it just wouldn't occur to me to carry it daily

I almost never carry it unless I know I am having my period already. I don't seem to be having them any more anyway, so if one suddenly started I'd definitely be caught out.

@RedHot22

I didn't say YOU not having guests was outstanding. I said the number of people on the thread who don't is outstanding. Did you fail comprehension at school? You might he able to go back and try again.