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No bathroom bin

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Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 19:54

If you are at relatives house with no bathroom bins where do you put your used sanitary stuff? I've been wrapping my tampons putting in handbag and putting them in the outside bin. I would always empty the bathroom bin and my periods are very heavy so need changing frequently., SIL isnt menopausal even my dad who lives alone has bathroom bins ??!!

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Spartcat · 30/12/2021 21:45

On the subject of san pro people really leave a basket of it on the side on the off chance someone hasn't got any? I've seen it on MN but never real life.

Yeah we do IRL l@PinkSparklyPussyCat

Well... not in a basket on display like a little flower arrangements of pink or green wrapped squares with white sticks in the middle! Grin

But in my cabinet in bathroom I have spares of Sanpro and I don't need them (ah the wonders of the coil!!) but they are for visitors or DDs if their packs run out.

RampantIvy · 30/12/2021 21:54

I don't keep any in the house. All my friends and I no longer have need for any.

mathanxiety · 31/12/2021 03:28

..people really leave a basket of it on the side on the off chance someone hasn't got any?

Not a basket. It's all in a cupboard by the loo.

Do you seriously expect others to be inconvenienced in their own home just to make your life a tiny bit easier?

As I said, it's entirely up to you. Yes, if you prefer to be a hospitable woman.. No, if you generally don't put yourself out much for others and see no reason to. I personally would consider inconveniencing a visitor a faux pas, and I think it's more than 'a tiny bit easier' to provide a bin.

I don't agree that it's a 'non-issue'. I have one DD whose periods have been really heavy from when they started at age 10. It wasn't nice at all for her to have to put a blood soaked pad in her pocket and get on with her life on those occasions when she played with friends whose parents hadn't provided anything in the bathroom for sanpro disposal. TP wrapped around soaked pads didn't prevent bloodstaining of jeans and shorts pockets, and having to wear clothing with pockets when she was on her period wasn't always great when more comfortable options had no pockets.

Many people have enough room in a bathroom for a small pedal bin. If yours is too small to accommodate one, fair enough, but all things being equal, I think providing a bin is not too much to ask.

mathanxiety · 31/12/2021 03:31

@PinkSparklyPussyCat

I'm presuming it's toilet paper @limitedperiodonly. Maybe you don't speak about it in certain circles and it's just referred to in hushed tones as TP, just in case you embarrass guests. I would personally count it as general hospitality but I could be wrong. I'm sure Math will enlighten us..

It's referred to in US English as TP and I use the abbreviation for the same reason I use DD, DS, DP, DH, exH, DM, FIL, etc.

HTH

mathanxiety · 31/12/2021 03:32

On the subject of wifework and guests, maybe someone could assure me that they don't expect their visitors to bring their own bog roll?

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/12/2021 09:15

@mathanxiety

On the subject of wifework and guests, maybe someone could assure me that they don't expect their visitors to bring their own bog roll?
Bog roll is supplied and providing they are happy with plain, own brand there's no need to bring any. If they want wipes or anything softer they can supply their own!
tigger1001 · 31/12/2021 11:01

@mathanxiety

On the subject of wifework and guests, maybe someone could assure me that they don't expect their visitors to bring their own bog roll?
I remember going to a party at my next door neighbours a few years ago and they ran out! I nipped home and brought more round 😂😂
limitedperiodonly · 31/12/2021 11:41

Why would you not have loo roll in your house? Everyone shits. Though I'd expect those with colostomy bags to bring their own.

RoyalFamilyFan · 31/12/2021 11:43

I have visited someone who lived off-grid and had moss instead off loo roll.

nannybeach · 31/12/2021 11:51

The folk who have San pro in a cupboard for female guests,do you announce that to them all as they arrive,or do people go through other people's cupboard automatically.

VanGoghsDog · 31/12/2021 12:04

@limitedperiodonly

Why would you not have loo roll in your house? Everyone shits. Though I'd expect those with colostomy bags to bring their own.
Er, sorry, what?

You expect some people to bring their own looroll? Do they know this? How did you tell them?
What is the premise for them bringing their own then? Is it a specific thing, just a colostomy bag, or something else/as well?

limitedperiodonly · 31/12/2021 14:06

@VanGoghsDog Er, no. I've read my post a few times and it still seems clear to me. I think the problem is at your end.

VanGoghsDog · 31/12/2021 14:43

[quote limitedperiodonly]@VanGoghsDog Er, no. I've read my post a few times and it still seems clear to me. I think the problem is at your end.[/quote]
You expect people with colostomy bags to bring their own looroll. That's what your post says:

Why would you not have loo roll in your house? Everyone shits. Though I'd expect those with colostomy bags to bring their own.

So, my questions stand. Is it only people with colostomy bags? Is it everyone with colostomy bags? Do you tell them in advance? Are there other conditions your guests may have that you refuse to be hospitable about?

wishtotravel · 31/12/2021 14:52

I'm pretty sure she means their own bags, not toilet roll

wishtotravel · 31/12/2021 14:53

In the sense that they are necessary for them, but not in general use.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/12/2021 15:19

Even I got it and a lot goes over my head! @limitedperiodonly I'm now waiting for someone to tell you how inconsiderate you are for not having a spare stash of colostomy bags just in case a guest needs one!

The folk who have San pro in a cupboard for female guests,do you announce that to them all as they arrive,or do people go through other people's cupboard automatically.

I wondered that! Am I supposed to shout 'san pro's in then cupboard on your left' as they go in the bathroom?

Anordinarymum · 31/12/2021 15:24

@Veeveeoxox

If you are at relatives house with no bathroom bins where do you put your used sanitary stuff? I've been wrapping my tampons putting in handbag and putting them in the outside bin. I would always empty the bathroom bin and my periods are very heavy so need changing frequently., SIL isnt menopausal even my dad who lives alone has bathroom bins ??!!
So you would put your used tampons in someone else's bin? Gross
Woodlandwater · 31/12/2021 16:23

I find it fascinating that so many people have guests so often. I don't think I've had a guest in my house long enough to use the loo in about 20 years. Just meet these people in a restaurant/pub/park/theatre and then you won't have to host, cook, clean or provide a bathroom bin, colostomy bag supplies or sanpro. It's the future.

RampantIvy · 31/12/2021 17:27

So you would put your used tampons in someone else's bin? Gross

Erm, where else would you put it?

@Woodlandwater not everyone lives near enough family and friends to just meet them for a coffee/lunch. Some of us leave home and live hundreds of miles away from our families.

I had a house full before Christmas. I hadn't seen some of the family members for nearly 2 years, and it was lovely to see them.

RoyalFamilyFan · 31/12/2021 18:40

@Woodlandwater I see friends a couple of times a week. It would get very expensive to always meet at restaurants.

mathanxiety · 31/12/2021 18:58

So you would put your used tampons in someone else's bin? Gross

Why is it gross?

Would you put a tissue you had blown your nose in in someone else's bin?

mathanxiety · 31/12/2021 19:02

Why would you not have loo roll in your house? Everyone shits.

It's a relief to know you don't consider it 'wifework' to supply loo roll.

Can I infer from your statement that 'everyone shits' that it's only items women might need on a regular basis that you refuse to supply? That you're quite happy to provide for needs of women as long as they're also needed by men?

mathanxiety · 31/12/2021 19:06

Am I supposed to shout 'san pro's in then cupboard on your left' as they go in the bathroom?

Sure, why not? Or you could say 'Help yourself to anything you need in there'.

I have also directed guests to the (very obvious) location of the spare TP just in case they were running short.

Woodlandwater · 31/12/2021 19:23

@RampantIvy my closest family live 4 hours away. I cannot stand people staying with me so if they want to stay they get a b&b or don't visit.

VanGoghsDog · 01/01/2022 01:18

@wishtotravel

I'm pretty sure she means their own bags, not toilet roll
Oh well, my autism is showing again! I read it as it was written and I hadn't seen colostomy bags come up before so had no reason to think that was a separate comment.
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