Is this wierd or is it me?

[Luckyducky75]

I'm really cross and not sure why to be honest. My DH and I have a 3 year old who can be a bit challenging but nothing out of the ordinary. A friend is staying with us for Christmas so she's in our DS room and he's in with us. In the early hours of the morning he decided it was time to get up and had a tantrum when told he couldn't go downstairs. DH and I were trying to comfort him in bed when my friend opened the door and stuck her head round to 'see if everything is ok'.

Of course it bloody was, he's just doing what kids do sometimes and what does she think she could have done to help the situation? I was a bit rude, I don't know why it's annoyed me so much, it felt like such an intrusion. Would you do that? Am I just overtired and being a bitch?

@CriminalOrator

The totally polarity in views on here is fascinating.

Agreed, kind of illustrates how the situation can have happened!!

Would I do it? No, but I have children so know it wouldn’t be useful me getting involved

Would I for one nanosecond be pissed off with a friend over who doesn’t have children, so close that staying for Christmas

Hell. No

@CriminalOrator

The totally polarity in views on here is fascinating.

If that is of particular interest to you Go to the stepparent board,

The debate about whether it is weird/rude or not to offer help with a crying child….I cannot BELIEVE that it is not a huge no-no for some of you that someone would put their heads round a bedroom door at night?!
People are undressed!
I wouldn’t even open my own sisters bedroom door without knocking - she would probably tell me to come in even if she were naked, but to just out my head round the door would be as rude as opening the bathroom door on someone. Bedrooms are private, no?

The fact she then said “oh sorry were you naked last night?” just blows my mind. Err, yes, I was naked in my bedroom at 1am, did that surprise you?

Yes it a bit weird.
Unless it sounded like someone was being murdered she should have stayed in bed

Personally I'd never go into anyone else's bedroom like that but if she was genuinely asking in a concerned way then I'd be OK with her doing that. It may have been passive aggressive though and she was trying to tell you he'd woken her!

I don't think anyones being U here.
I think its a mixture of being stressed at 1am, and having boundaries crossed- I'd definitely not want a friend- however close! In me and DHs room in the middle of the night, but can also see that if I was a guest in someone's house, if I thought I could help, I would.

It's just something that needs to be made clear for future with your friend.

Hope you all have a lovely Christmas.

You're being unreasonable