Who is being unreasonable?

[RedSquirrel111]

Friend A is self isolating after a positive PCR today. Friend A lives on their own.

Friend B is helping out by picking up shopping.

Friend A has written a list to pick up and will pay Friend B back. List includes cigarettes.

Friend B despises smoking and says she'll pick up food and medication but not cigarettes.

WIBU??

B is unreasonable

B is unreasonable.

B ibu

Can anyone elaborate?

Neither?

In an ideal world Friend B wouldn’t make her help conditional on her moral principles, recognising that isolating is fucking bad enough without withdrawal, but if there’s no one else to ask then Friend A doesn’t have much choice, or the right to insist.

B is being unreasonable- its not her place to judge and if A has a nicotine addiction then now is not the time to quit and it may be unsafe. If she's happy to get a requested list, then she should do it. If she's not able to help, then don't.
Didn't know which one to click so I didn't.

Friend B is unreasonable.

I despise smoking too. But friend A CAN’T go shopping. It’s not on friend B to moralise at this point. Friend A is an addict that will need help to quit as and when they are ready. Friend B is being an arse.

@RedSquirrel111

Can anyone elaborate?

B is playing God with A. B is not really a friend is she?

B isn’t going to ‘cure’ A of her filthy habit, just make her isolation more miserable.

Obviously A would ideally not be addicted to smoking whilst having a respiratory illness. But life’s not ideal, is it?

B risks A saying ‘Fuck it’ and going out for fags anyway, spreading the virus.

B is VVU - she doesn't get to make moral judgements about A's smoking ... plus I'd she doesn't buy the cigarettes (and A doesn't have anyone else who can buy them) then not only is she stuck at home with Covid, she's also being forced to go cold turkey and deal with the cravings/stress of not smoking

If she was vegan, would she refuse to pick up milk and eggs if that's what A wanted?

B is unreasonable to try and leverage her friend's vulnerable position into pushing her own agenda.

Is Friend B the perfect weight?
Imagine if Friend A went shopping for Friend B but refused to buy her a bar of chocolate under the same moralism.

I'm Friend A, just wanted an unbiased opinion!

I know I can't insist, but the thought of isolating over Christmas, whilst also going through withdrawal is making me want to chew off my own arm.

B is being unreasonable and controlling in trying to force A to go cold turkey.

Agree with @NoSquirrels
Also voting is impossible as unclear which perspective is the being unreasonable from.

Sorry, should have turned voting off. However unable to concentrate due to obsessively trying to work out how to ration one packet of cigarettes over 10 days....
What a miserable Christmas

No one else you can ask?

I think B should at the very least pick you up nicotine patches and gum.

Don't you have deliveroo or uber or getir?

Oh I'm surprised your A, sounded like you were B.

I think you should give up smoking, especially with Covid, but that's not B's decision!! Is B always do controlling?
Do you have other friends that could bring you cigarettes? Delivery company? Neighbour?
Supermarket delivery? Taxi? (My mate is a taxi driver & a bloody smoker - he'd do it for you)

Hope you get what you 'need', get better, then consider stopping!! Think of the money you'd save!!

Could she get you some patches then?

Is friend b going to buy you a vape or some nicorette instead then, the inconsiderate arsehole.

Remind them of this next time they want something. Sure you'll give them a lift, but you can only drop them half way.

Not without massively inconveniencing them.
Obviously no supermarket deliveries either at the moment.
I'll suggest patches -and save my remaining pack for Christmas day- but I'm a little doubtful she'll agree.
She's very much of the if you want to quit then you just don't have a cigarette thinking.

Very unfair of B.

I was going to suggest paying B in advance as cigarettes are so expensive but I don’t think this is B’s issue, is it?

Oh, think I might get uber eats.
Do they deliver cigarettes? and wine

Tell her if she’ll buy the cigarettes alongside the Allen Carr Quit Smoking book you’ll give it a go - he recommends you smoke as much as you like alongside reading it and don’t quit before you’ve read it completely.

I expect it’s coming from a place of love/fear - smoking whilst suffering from Covid doesn’t sound great, honestly, so whilst really fucking annoying I think you need to put up with whatever solution you can persuade her into.