Who is being unreasonable?

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Friend A is self isolating after a positive PCR today. Friend A lives on their own.

Friend B is helping out by picking up shopping.

Friend A has written a list to pick up and will pay Friend B back. List includes cigarettes.

Friend B despises smoking and says she'll pick up food and medication but not cigarettes.

WIBU??

If you live near me I've got rolling baccy and papers that were delivered accidentally!

I’ve been friend B - I picked up cigs for another friend throughout the first lockdown. She had some friend As who refused to do so. I can see both sides but I just took my own judgement out of the situation.

Sorry I got my As and Bs a bit muddled there! It must be early! I’ve been in friend B’s position but did get the fags.

B is being way too judgmental- what next, friends not delivering chocolate because it’s fattening?

Order cigarettes and alcohol on Deliveroo/Uber eats or one of those ones

B can have her views, but she’s not going to stop you smoking I’m sure. In which case she should suck it up and let you have your pleasures

So, A has an illness which can cause serious breathing difficulties, potential lung damage, and lead to hospitalisation on the basis of these, and she wants to potentially worsen these conditions by smoking? There is a huge link between the severity of COVID symptoms and smoking. No way would I be buying cigarettes for someone in those circumstances, as much as I understand A’s position. Any more than I would go out and buy alcohol for an alcoholic in liver failure.

OP, presumably you have either deliveroo or Uber eats in your area/ in which case click on the grocery section and there are numerous outlets, including the drinks ones which sell cigarettes.

Can you ask a friendly neighbour if they’re passing a shop?

Your mate is being an arse.

Order an IQOS, there's a 2 week £10 trial offer on at the moment. I got one just to use in my car, but I haven't had a cigarette since it arrived a month ago. 30 years of (failed) planned quits then did it unintentionally.

Ex smoker here, I'd go get you cigarettes along with everything else you need because me being controlling and judgmental would not be part of our friendship.
If or when you said you were ready to stop smoking I'd support you every step of the way.

You can get a local taxi to do pick ups of cigarettes etc.

Just ring a taxi firm and ask.

If I was friend B I would probably unintentionally forget because you have to queue at the kiosk to buy them, and it isn't something I normally do.

Friend B is being a dick. Trying to police someone's choices is controlling and not very friend like at all. I'd be looking for a new friend if I were you.

I think B is a good friend with slightly misplaced intentions.

Basically she doesn't want OP to get seriously ill. Sounds like she just doesn't understand a smoking addiction.

OP you do have other viable options here so I'd prob try to be more forgiving Of B

I hate smoking, but I have bought cigarettes in the past for someone that wanted them and couldn’t leave the house (before Covid times). I think the cashier at Tesco’s could tell it wasn’t me that smoked because I read out exactly what my friend had written down!
Your ‘friend’ is being an arse!
Hope you are ok.

B is unreasonable. I'd be organising alternative delivery if possible and telling her she's not needed. I'm not sure how much of a friend she is, you're isolating over Christmas and she's being completely unreasonable and controlling.

how mean and judgemental not to buy cigarettes

I never buy meat as I'm a vegetarian but if a friend was in this position and wanted me to pick up a pork chop from the butchers, I'd do it.

Now if she wanted me to collect drugs from her dealer that would be a different matter...

If she was vegan, would she refuse to pick up milk and eggs if that's what A wanted?

To be fair, I do know a couple of vegans who probably wouldn’t want to buy meat.

I seem to be in the minority, I wouldn’t want to buy cigarettes. But I also don’t know anyone who smokes so it’s easy for me to view it as something very unnecessary and somewhat removed from me.

She's not much of a friend if she knows you're going to have a miserable Christmas isolating and still won't buy you cigarettes!
She can 'help' you to give up when you're in an easier situation to do so.

I stopped smoking cigarettes about a year ago, and switched to Heets - which are very close to normal cigarettes in taste/feel. You can do a 14 day trial from here uk.iqos.com/myiqos/try- might be worth a go? I switched very easily - stopped smoking normal cigarettes within a week, and haven't wanted one since.
They don't make you smell, and the tubes are a lot cheaper than cigarettes!

Just realised that sounded like stealth marketing! It's really not - I just thought it might be a way to get your fix without the hassle

I dont smoke but i would be fuming at my mate if they did this.

B is unreasonable. A needs to find another pal.

And I really dislike smoking.

I'd find it hard to buy someone cigarettes too

Not sure if I'd refuse to buy them though in this situation because it would probably mean friend A went to the shops.

I also wouldn’t buy cigarettes.