To ask where you meet professional men?

[InsideMyBed]

To people that have professional dh with high earning careers (over 100k salary ).

Where did you meet them and how did you get together?

Wondering because apart from consultant doctors and dentists that I interact with in clinical settings only, I don’t think I ever come across men who earn over 100k salary.

I feel like most people I know earn £18,000 - £55,000 at the most. I’m sure a few might be on £60k but £100,000 a year . That seems like so much money to me. I’m a university graduate and most jobs in my industry pay between £25,000 - £35,000 a year.

Where do you meet men who earn over £100k a year? Apart from doctors, dentists and barristers. I’m a bit jealous I will admit because these are the kinds of men I don’t even have access to much less share my life with one!

I met my husband at uni. We studied the same science and both went into industry, me remaining in science, him becoming a patent attorney. I can honestly say that hum getting his first 100k+ job was one of the worst things that ever happened to me, because suddenly he was bringing in so much more money than me that it almost felt pointless going to work. And when he got made redundant I didn't have much of an argument for staying where we were for me to keep my by that time 19k a year part time job, so I ended up giving it up so we could relocate, and it was 7 years before I got back in, and I was bloody lucky to do so . My husband thinks he was the good guy in that scenario. I don't think he would have felt the same if the roles had been reversed. I think he would have been hopping mad. Honestly there are easier ways to earn money than resigning yourself to playing second fiddle in your marriage.

Pre-pandemic in Canary Wharf, in the evenings hoards of glammed up girls with enormous hair, stilettos and lip filler would descend on the bars looking for Traders to mate with.

They were called 'Essex Husband Hunters' and traveled in from their day jobs as PAs, EAs and receptionists.

Presumably you want a high warning man to find and treat you?

How about you find yourself?

It's not the 1950s

These posts are so tedious. Earn your own money. I say that as a woman who does earn over 100k and works bloody hard for it. I’d be outraged if when I was single, men were targeting me solely because of my salary and I’m sure I would have sniffed this out at 40 paces! Years ago when I was online dating I was careful to downplay what I did and what I earned as I didn’t want to attract men like you! It’s sad that I’ve read a few posts this week about women wanting tips on where to snag a man with money. Put that energy into earning your own.

@sammylady37

I earn almost €250k per year. I am acutely aware that this makes me attractive to some men, and I have a finely-tuned radar to detect them, though tbh it’s never too hard as they’re not exactly subtle masterminds.

Anyone worth their salt who earns that much will spot a gold-digger a mile off.

I'm also on a very big salary, and ironically I was more worried about men finding it threatening and being deep down angry and feeling inadequate about it than hiding it from gold diggers. Sadly while most women are turned on by the success/ drive of a high earning man (even if not the actual money), I find men are often turned off by it in a woman. His hurt pride was definitely a factor in my ExH running off with a 23-year-old piece of fluff (he and I met early before I earned anything like that, and he couldn't cope with it when my salary went on to dwarf his.)

Just wanted to mention too that not all high salaries are madly stressed. I work around 30 hours a week and very flexibly. I can make it to 90% of my DD's stuff, because people will schedule thing for when I say I'm available. When I miss something it's normally because I wasn't organized enough to block it in my calendar then agreed to something else. Sometimes some days are very intense. Others are leisurely. I do not think that most high paid salaries the people work harder than, for example a nurse or carer or bin man. And the work, if in business, is infinitely easier physically and emotionally.

I think the whole "I work really hard- it's so stressful.. so I deserve every penny" is a lot about appeasing our guilt for the inequity of pay we benefit from.

I think men also sometimes use that as an excuse not to be home/ pull their weight in the relationship. And they think their salary gives them the status to be a crap partner or parent. This is accentuated if the other partner is not also contributing lots financially.

I don’t really get that she/he’s after me for my money idea …. do you know what if he makes me happy and he makes me cum you can have my Flippen money…. who cares can’t take it with you

@Jessie75

I don’t really get that she/he’s after me for my money idea …. do you know what if he makes me happy and he makes me cum you can have my Flippen money…. who cares can’t take it with you

😃 I think as long as you know that's the the equation, all power to you both!

@BraveGoldie I haven't done a scientific study of this or anything but it seems to be the middle earning men with SAHM wives that have the biggest egos.
To me high earning is when you can buy groceries without thinking about the cost, and can save. There's less work involved as you don't have to budget tightly, and you can throw money at problems. A lot of these people are aware of their workload but pay to make household life easier. Again people can block out time in their calendars for school events etc but the hard bit is the reliability ' always being there as some days can be long.

By contrast people earning just enough to afford a SAHM seem to think that they're enabling her life of leisure. They don't see that they're doing the bare minimum. They think they deserve hobbies etc after working so hard all day but not their wives who must have had 'plenty of leisure time'.

I remember an article in the paper ages ago where attractive female uni students were using the website www.seekingarrangementuk.co.uk/

The lady in question was seeing an older business man (in his 30s I think) and mentioned that they came to an arrangement of him giving her £800 a month after she said she was financially struggling. This was about ten years ago so would be even more now.

E-Harmony. DP was earning the same as me when we met but one child later and his salary has more than doubled and mine has basically halved. He realised he could be a big earner and wanted to support his family and whilst I want to work I don’t want the extra stress of being full time with a ‘big job.’ It works for us and as we are not married I have ensured that our family savings are all in my name only!

I posted earlier about my DP who is a bricklayer and earns way more than me. I've got a degree and a masters level professional qualification, but I will never earn anywhere near what he will because I work in the public sector, and equivalent jobs in the private sector don't really exist. People at director level in my profession earn 50k max, and that's after years of experience.
I don't consider myself to be a 'gold digger' but does his earning power make my life easier? You bet it does.

I meet my DH at university. Him Oxbridge and I was in London. And while he comes from a very wealthy background, we both started on low grad positions and by mid-30's he was on over £150k and way more now. And I was on something similar. But it took lots of hard work career-wise. Nobody started bang on £100k. I worked in Oil and gas with lots of men where 6-figures overseas was the norm but I wouldn't touch these men with a barge pole. Many were making most of their position and money to work their way through the 20-somethings of whatever poor (but oil rich) country we were working on.
DH's best friend, specialised in IT, is earning over £500k but he's working nonstop and planning to retire at 50. Problem is his lifestyle is non-conductive for family and he views many women with suspicion. He's still single but hardly a catch based on the way he views relationships.
My advice? "Invest" in a relationship with a hardworking, ambitious and kind person. The money will come if that's the drive you both have.

You need to meet my son OP, 300K + a year,own apartment on river,head to toe Tom Ford and luxury holidays and weekends away not a care in the world and can do more or less as he pleases when he likes. Just one small thing though,he is gay!

May help to re adjust your requirements a little.
Plenty older ricj men- may need some care in personal departments, but would give you what you are clearly looking for.

I don’t think this is good digging at all. Money can bring lifestyle and there is nothing wrong with someone making a conscious decision about the lifestyle they would like to aim for.

I’d ignore the judgemental comments OP.

Personally I think London or other places are high have a high proporuon of high earning demographic is the best place for this. And then on line dating ....

Go for intellect, drive and an agile mind or massively sought after within a niche if you are looking for a high earner — only in ‘certain ‘ careers will they be pretty high earners from the off. Many are this level through experience it performance and being a top guy in IT or sales or run strong businesses— at 25 they may well have been the office junior

@Toplowlight

The best way to meet high-earning men is to be a high-earning woman.

Yes!

To many women willing to settle for nothing, you get your high earner op and don’t feel no shame.
I gave a chance to a bum and he robbed me of my £40k savings.
Don’t settle for less life is to short for stress

@Toplowlight

The best way to meet high-earning men is to be a high-earning woman.

This.

@DogsandCatsB4u

To many women willing to settle for nothing, you get your high earner op and don’t feel no shame. I gave a chance to a bum and he robbed me of my £40k savings. Don’t settle for less life is to short for stress

Agreed, too many men bring nothing to the table but their cock, not good enough

I don’t think this is good digging at all. Money can bring lifestyle and there is nothing wrong with someone making a conscious decision about the lifestyle they would like to aim for.

Making a conscious decision not to earn "lifestyle" yourself, but instead snare a man to pay for you is the very definition of golddigging @KarmaLife, you clown!

To many women willing to settle for nothing
So gaining a financial 'something' should be the object of women's romantic relationships? Nice ...

I'm sorry you were robbed by a chancer @DogsandCatsB4u but that's no reason to set men up as your personal walking wallets.

Agreed, too many men bring nothing to the table but their cock, not good enough

& what are you bringing to the table apart from your own genitalia, @Jessie75? Are they so valuable you expect them to be paid for?

@InsideMyBed
I met DH when he wasn't a high earner when he first started out and then stuck with him for 20+ yrs
We are both now highly qualified professionals with lots of experience under our belts - time is a crucial factor, as we were weren't well off when we met.

@ChargingBuck

Agreed, too many men bring nothing to the table but their cock, not good enough

& what are you bringing to the table apart from your own genitalia, @Jessie75? Are they so valuable you expect them to be paid for?

Lol my ex had a damn good life with me, i worked full time, earnt in excess of £50,000 (disposalable income basically), whilst raising babies. But of course history has been rewritten, i sat on my arse for 10 years.
But to answer your question most men will pay just about anything for pu$$y, theyll tear your children’s lives apart for a rumble. If we have that much power i suggest young girl’s make the most of it, it does last.