To ask where you meet professional men?

[InsideMyBed]

To people that have professional dh with high earning careers (over 100k salary ).

Where did you meet them and how did you get together?

Wondering because apart from consultant doctors and dentists that I interact with in clinical settings only, I don’t think I ever come across men who earn over 100k salary.

I feel like most people I know earn £18,000 - £55,000 at the most. I’m sure a few might be on £60k but £100,000 a year . That seems like so much money to me. I’m a university graduate and most jobs in my industry pay between £25,000 - £35,000 a year.

Where do you meet men who earn over £100k a year? Apart from doctors, dentists and barristers. I’m a bit jealous I will admit because these are the kinds of men I don’t even have access to much less share my life with one!

What if you fell in love with a lower earner would that out you off him?

Is your goal in life to be with a high earner?
Does pay really matter?

I made a point of asking for a certified copy of pay slip before meeting for a date. It''s much easier to exclude people first.

@Thedogscollar

What if you fell in love with a lower earner would that out you off him?

It depends what you would consider to be a low salary I guess

Why does it matter? 100k is way above what I earn. I am comfortable earning around 30k

I’m a bit jealous I will admit because these are the kinds of men I don’t even have access to much less share my life with one

I find it a little odd that you would focus on meeting a man who earns that, rather than your own career prospects to enable you to earn that kind of salary.

Most of my friends (women) and their husbands earn similar salaries, but I think it’s cos we all went to university and did similar degrees (law, business, maths etc) then pretty much all went down quite corporate routes. Once you’re in that sort of world then your network expands from there - lots of friends have met their husbands at work, or on dating apps where you meet similar types of people.

But focus on you and how you might achieve that earning potential, if that’s your goal

The best way to meet high-earning men is to be a high-earning woman.

@Justcannotbearsed

I made a point of asking for a certified copy of pay slip before meeting for a date. It''s much easier to exclude people first.

Lol I’m guessing this is a joke because I can’t imagine doing that and someone agreeing to it

There's a lot online. But online dating can really be quite tedious so brace yourself. And if getting with a high earner is important for you don't be put off the judgemental comments here, go get your 100k man!!

My husband earns over £100k working in IT. The high salary does not make him any easier to live with. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Would you really exclude someone for not earning enough
You sound a bit obsessed with money. I think you need to concentrate on your own earnings first.

@BeyondOurReef

My husband earns over £100k working in IT. The high salary does not make him any easier to live with. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ok but where did you meet him? At work? Through friends? How did you start dating him?

The people I know with high earning spouses met them at church - one of the big central London ones. Some of those guys are great but some of them were obnoxious (thankfully not the ones who've married friends, more the wider group).

Focus on the person, not the paycheque.

Accountants meet other accountants at work. £50-60k is reasonable a few years in. I think our graduates go on to £35kish on qualification, so at 24?

There are lots of jobs over £100k, a lot of these such as finance or city type jobs work in the city though.

I know a few people who earn that much and I don't think its particularly fun for their partners. They are expected to pull all nighters frequently, there is a culture of long hours fuelled by coke, and they are on call pretty much all the time including weekends and holidays when something major is going down. It's ok until they have kids and then their partners are basically forced to be stay at home parents or change their career to a more family friendly one, as the high earner can't guarantee doing their share of pick ups and drop offs etc.

That might have changed now with more working from home and doesn't apply to all careers but certainly common from people I know in finance and law

They tend to hang out in places where it's easy to hide from gold diggers.

I work at a tech company and a lot of people are on this kind of money. The men I know met their partners how anyone else did to be honest, uni, work, online dating, mutual friends, etc...

Why wouldn't you just make the money yourself?

And anyway if you do want to meet a man with a high salary you'd have to work in a similar industry/role. If you earn a lot less than him the relationship would be very unbalanced and unhealthy.

There’s probably more in London

Do you earn that sort of money OP? Because if not you’re coming g across as a bit of a gold digger.

I met him through work (the City) I took his role as he had been promoted.

At work, or friends of friends. But I agree that it is easiest to meet similar earning people by earning that amount yourself (whatever that amount is).

For example, lawyers tend to meet other lawyers at work. Ditto accountants. Or for example lawyers have friends who have accountants, and they date their friends’ friends.

Whilst I’m sure it happens a lot, it is more unusual, for example, for a lawyer to date a secretary in their workplace. I think it’s far more likely that they’ll date other lawyers in their workplace or friends’ workplaces.

sugardaddy.com

"Oh, you work for [insert tech company]?"

Boom! Probably earns over £100k as long as they're senior.

@Kisskiss

There’s probably more in London

Hmm so London? I don’t live far from London