To ask where you meet professional men?

[InsideMyBed]

To people that have professional dh with high earning careers (over 100k salary ).

Where did you meet them and how did you get together?

Wondering because apart from consultant doctors and dentists that I interact with in clinical settings only, I don’t think I ever come across men who earn over 100k salary.

I feel like most people I know earn £18,000 - £55,000 at the most. I’m sure a few might be on £60k but £100,000 a year . That seems like so much money to me. I’m a university graduate and most jobs in my industry pay between £25,000 - £35,000 a year.

Where do you meet men who earn over £100k a year? Apart from doctors, dentists and barristers. I’m a bit jealous I will admit because these are the kinds of men I don’t even have access to much less share my life with one!

Ok but where did you meet him? At work? Through friends? How did you start dating him?

Online dating. Alas.

My husband didn’t earn that when I met him. He has progressed in his career and has always been ambitious. But then that wasn’t one of the criteria I judged him on when I snogged him in a bar 🙈

Um - investment banks in London and city law firms? Uni, proms queue, friends’ party - mainly London. But costs like accommodation would be higher too so standard of living not necessarily better. Why is it important? Why not get in a career where u earn more? Then u can meet people similar?

I met DH when I worked as a receptionist in a factory and he was in the warehouse. Our first meeting was when he had to deliver a box of paper up to me. We just had loads in common and clicked straight away. The factory closed down not long afterwards but there were tons of marriages from there. Obviously there was more romancing than actual work happening 🤣🤣🤣🤣. People nowadays are very surprised when they come across DH in his current role as it's a million miles away from what he was doing back then.

Anyone in their mid-late 30's who's willing to date a woman with no aspirations and earns that kind of money will be a complete cock.

I'm actually mid 20s with a mid 30s, high earning DP but I don't give a shit about what he earns and I work hard myself.

If you're a graduate build yourself a career before you settle down. Don't rely on anyone else.

@PinkTonic

Surely most meet either at university or in the early career stage and although you aren’t high earners at that stage you know what your life goals are and that they align. It’s obviously going to be more difficult to meet people with a different social circle or on a different trajectory if you’ve already settled in a low paid job. The answer there is to focus on your own career path and development.

That’s exactly it. DH didn’t earn that sort of money when we met 25 years ago. We earned similar amounts but he was divorced with responsibilities and heaps of debt and I was single so had more disposable income than him at the time. My friends with high earning husbands are just as talented and hardworking as their husbands. I don’t suppose their husbands would have been attracted to them otherwise, because they were looking for a partnership of equals, not the chance to be somebody’s meal ticket.

Also to add that all of the high earning men I know (bar one) married similarly educated women who also had/have professional jobs in their 20s and 30s. The wives tend to be feisty and opinionated rather than Stepford Wife or pouting Insta model types.

My, BIL earns well over £100k. He met my sister at uni. He spends at least 2-3 nights a week away meaning she has to look after the three kids. He's also pretty stressed and has to be on call even at Xmas, although that's never actually happened.

They're happy but I often think they might be happier if he was in a good but not quite as stressful job.

*Pass your wife her phone back

I want to tell her I'm cringing for the pair of you...*

😂😂😂

OP - My brother is 26 and on way over 100K (more like 150K+) and has been for a few years (almost straight out of uni). He's in IT (coding). You need to date some coding nerds. They are on ridiculous money

100k is pocket change to some drug dealers so perhaps lingering around dark street corners might help?

But jokes aside I don't think wanting to be with a financially solvent man renders someone a gold digger. In my dating days I'm not sure I'd have wanted to be out on a date with a man who took out his coin purse to check if he had the 9p required for a £1.09 coffee.

I met exH at school #helpful

My brother is single as far as I know btw

Uni, work or living in London and filtering your online dating choices by likely profession.

I know many people who earn over 100k and I wouldn't want their lives AT ALL. I know several people who have taken massive (>30k) pay cuts to get some kind of life back.

Eww, OP.

Oh and this:

The best way to meet high-earning men is to be a high-earning woman.

In a queue in cafes
On the tube
On the street
In shops
In the park
In the supermarket
In the pub
On the stairs
By the river
But i live in London

It's probably a lot to do with where you live and the circles you move in. I live in an expensive town, where you can't get anything at all for under £500k. Therefore Most men I meet/know earn over that or pretty near. And the women. Often pro-rated.

@XelaM

OP - My brother is 26 and on way over 100K (more like 150K+) and has been for a few years (almost straight out of uni). He's in IT (coding). You need to date some coding nerds. They are on ridiculous money

Ah, I see. So, IT?

Oh and yes, bar one example every high earning man I know is with an equally high earning woman.

Chamber of Commerce Christmas do

‘ Professional, educated men tend to prefer professional, educated women.

This. To be honest, any professional educated man who wants a less well educated and less well earning woman is a bit suspect IMHO because they are probably looking for someone they can control and who won't outshine or challenge them in any way’

This is obviously fake news. High earning men fall in love with all women, not just ‘high earning, educated women’ 😂

@Frauhubert

In a queue in cafes On the tube On the street In shops In the park In the supermarket In the pub On the stairs By the river But i live in London

I don’t live far from London. I could go there for some Christmas shopping , check out the local restaurants, the pubs …

@InsideMyBed Well, ai don't know about all IT guys, but definitely those that are good at coding. But my brother is Cambridge/Harvard-educated, so maybe that has something to do with his salary prospects as well

Canary Wharf or the City, be prepared to meet some massive wankers though. Mind you it sounds like you don't care so long as they pay for you. Alternatively stop being so shallow and focus on earning your own money.

At Uni is the answer for most people I know, or mixing in the same social circles.

But most people work up to those salaries, they don't leap straight into them.