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Rude school Dad. AIBU to say something?

600 replies

NadjaofAntipaxos · 15/12/2021 17:52

When I'm picking DS up from reception, parents queue up down a narrow space between the school building and a fence and the teacher stands in the doorway calling each child out in order of parents in the queue. It's a long queue, 30 kids to be collected. You have to wait a while if you're at the back. I'm usually one of the last in the queue as I collect older DD first from another playground, so I've never noticed this before but today she had a playdate so I was maybe number six in the queue waiting before the classroom door opened.

Shortly before the door opened, one Dad just strolled past everyone and stood at the front of the queue. Right past about 20 other people and collected his kid third or fourth. Proceeded to also have lengthy "bants" with the teacher, delaying everyone else's child getting called and signalling he is in no hurry.

I was quite astonished and said to the mum behind me "I'm assuming he has a good reason for pushing past everyone else who's waiting". She just rolled her eyes and shook her head and said "every night".

Now I have encountered this man before on a couple of occasions and I took against him then. Spidey senses signalled the twat-horn. When a few parents took our children to the park across from school and I was part of a group standing chatting which included his wife who seems lovely, he barged in and took over the conversation. I learned they have older kids, so it's not like he has to dash off and collect other kids. He announced he is now retired (would guess he is late 40s early 50s) and his wife works part time and apparently he's a self-made business man who likes to boast about his money . So not rushing back after school to start work again (like me and lots of other parents). There was also a streak of sexism too, man barges into group of women and takes over.

So clearly I am being petty to let this piss me off enough to write a Mumsnet thread about it. But what would you do? I should just get over it I know. But ... So. Annoying. (His self proclaimed cheeky chappy persona gives me rage.) And our kids are likely to have another 14 years of school together.

Or shall I make sure I start getting to school early so I can address it with him if he does his entitled push-in job again? What do I say? He is an arrogant fucker clearly so would need to be well considered. Hence asking you wise people.
Do I even email school in a PA fashion to ask that they send out an email to all re queueing etiquette? I feel lovely teachers have enough to deal with, especially as I noticed CF dad being told by teacher at parents evening he was "cheeky". Didn't hear the comment he made but know the teacher and her tone suggested "back the fuck off".
Yes yabu - move on, get a life
No yanbu - take him down, or try to and get egg on face

OP posts:
Squeezita · 17/12/2021 20:50

Well done! Did you email the teacher? Email the head too.

Squeezita · 17/12/2021 20:50

X-post.

sonjadog · 17/12/2021 20:52

Even if he keeps on going, this will have been a huge bonding moment for all the other parents!

Justkeepleft · 17/12/2021 20:53

Your last line was brilliant. " I have nothing more to say, everyone can hear you." Absolutely perfect. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

He was probably waiting for someone to commiserate with about his shabby treatment.

TheBestofTimesTheWorstofTimes · 17/12/2021 20:55

Monday will be interesting! Unless your kids finished school today NOOOOOOOOOOO

RaoulDufysCat · 17/12/2021 21:00

Bravo.

BobbieT1999 · 17/12/2021 21:06

One dad bought me a drink and said I was immense

YOU ARE IMMENSE!

Bravo!! Star

tara66 · 17/12/2021 21:28

Someone still needs to bring him down -SAS - anyone?

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 17/12/2021 21:29

Think all your post was missing was a round of applause from all the other parents and teachers.

grandmashotdoodlebugs · 17/12/2021 21:35

Oh I have to find out what happens in January

Goodness me, that man sounds like a jerk OP

HopelesslyOptimistic · 17/12/2021 21:48

Well done you.

acupofteamakeseverythingbetter · 17/12/2021 21:48

Brilliant OP, well done 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

latetothefisting · 17/12/2021 21:52

I see you live up to your username OP. Brava!!!!

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/12/2021 21:52

Wonderful!

Ilikecheeseontoast · 17/12/2021 22:01

Well done! Please please update as to what he does at the next pick up!!! I sincerely hope it’s not January!

stonebrambleboy · 17/12/2021 22:15

Well done you!

WizbitsLeftEye · 17/12/2021 22:19

Love this so much. He sounds like the biggest most entitled male jerk

PainterMummy · 17/12/2021 22:22

Well done!

QueenLagertha · 17/12/2021 22:26

Amazing OP 👏

Lucycantdance · 17/12/2021 22:29

This has made my day. Well done OP! Look forward to further updates.

Giggorata · 17/12/2021 22:37

Brilliant! 🥇

PuntasticUsername · 17/12/2021 22:41

Omg EXCELLENT OP. Well done. You are now allowed to go and enjoy your Christmas. And update us in January Grin 😘

Tirediam · 17/12/2021 22:48

Excited to see how the toss pot behaves next term!
Well done OP

123MothergotafleA · 17/12/2021 22:52

Really well done that woman! Fair play!

mommydragonn · 17/12/2021 23:01

Have a quiet word with the teacher to politely point him to the back of the queue if he jumps it. I get annoyed at people jumping queues, but even more annoyed with the people who serve them even when they know that there are others waiting.