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For those of you who still have grandparents alive! How old are you?

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Justsotirednow · 15/12/2021 13:11

Or how old were you when they passed?

I was 16 when my granparents from mom’s side died.

And somewhere in my 20’s when from dad’s side passed.
Although we weren’t in touch at all, not sure why.

I don’t know why I ask, I guess I just realised that I wasn’t around older generation much.

OP posts:
DixonD · 15/01/2023 23:35

I’m 40 and have three grandparents still going. One still goes on cruises!

Quinque · 15/01/2023 23:36

I only knew my maternal grandmother, she died when I was 27 in the month that my son was born.All the others died before I was born.

louderthan · 16/01/2023 00:33

I lost all mine in my early teens, all in their 80s. My family breed very late.

Cattenberg · 16/01/2023 00:53

Mine died when I was between 13 and 25. The last-born died first (aged 71) and the first-born died last (aged 95).

Glitterblue · 16/01/2023 00:56

I've JUST lost my last grandma at 46 😥She was 99. I know I was so lucky to gave her so long, but at the same time, when you have someone in your life for 46 years, they are a huge miss. When the others passed away, I was 33, 21 and 6.

Maytodecember · 16/01/2023 01:02

2 died before I was born. GM died when I was 11, my father then traced his father who he’d not seen since he was 5. He became grandad for a couple of years until he died suddenly in our house. Afterwards my father discovered he wasn’t in his Will ( my mother was not best pleased ) and his father had bigamously married. We were told we must tell anyone, it was shameful etc.., I just thought good on you, Grandad.

LemonTreeSkies · 16/01/2023 04:39

My last surviving grandparent - my grandad - died last month. I’m 52. And extremely lucky.

Lilyhop · 16/01/2023 05:17

Both my grandads had died before I was born (both my mum and dad lost their fathers as teenagers) my mums mum who I was very very close to died when I was 18. She was 79 and I think she would have probably been here longer had she not smoked 40 cigarettes a day. 🙈 my dads mum (not as close) died when I was 27. However, she had Alzheimer’s for ten years before her death and it had been 5 before her death that she recognised any of us anymore. Her death actually felt like it had dragged on cruelly for years. As she was only still there in body….
I had such an amazing relationship with the Nan that passed when I was 18, that I honestly still think of her often now even at 36. I wish she had been able to meet her great grandchildren. Recently went to the funeral of my best friends (also 36 ) grandad. He had been in very good health, and was in his early nineties, died of covid. My DH lost his last grandparent 2 years ago, he was 37.

Lilyhop · 16/01/2023 05:21

Thinking about it, one of my friends still has great grandparents alive, and she’s 36. The women in their family all had children young. My friends mum was only 14 when she had her so obviously very very young! Her mum was 20 when she had her, and I believe the same for the age the great grandma had her daughter too…! But that’s unusual I imagine!!

Comedycook · 16/01/2023 07:07

I wonder if future generations will have grandparents for more or less time than people have now. On the one hand people are living longer, but on the other hand, people are also having children later in life.

MrsHughesPinny · 16/01/2023 07:11

I’m 39 and still have both my Mum’s parents. They’re 82 and 84. My father’s parents both died in their early 70s when I was 16 and 17.

I met two of my great-grandmothers. One died when I was 14 and the other when I was 23. I consider myself very fortunate.

Tonsiltrouble · 16/01/2023 08:08

I lost my final grandparent last year when I was 36 and she was 96. The others went in 2012 (aged early eighties) and 2011 (mid eighties). I lost my first grandparent in 1995 when I was 9 and he was 89.

My children are 6&8 at the moment, they have grandparents aged 80, 75, 64, 63. The youngest has considerable health issues and has for my whole life, which I expect will have a degree of life limitation. The eldest is in reasonable health but I guess it’s possible/likely (but by no means certain) that my children will start to lose their grandparents in the next decade.

Weddi · 16/01/2023 08:11

I’m 29 and have three living grandparents. One died way too young when I was four (he was 56 and died from cancer).

Abraxan · 16/01/2023 08:38

One grandad died when I was about 16/17.

My other three grandparents all died much more recently, within a space of a year not too long ago.

My grandad died in summer 2019, my nana in May 2020 and my grandma in summer 2020. They were 90/91y.

I was 47/48y when they died.

DeepDown12 · 19/01/2023 10:58

Turning 41 in March - both grandmothers still alive - one 95, the other turning 100 in March as well :) Very lucky and very grateful for this. Grandfathers died when I was 10 and 24.

My husband's last grandparent died 2 months ago at 102.

Cinammonroll · 19/01/2023 11:00

I'm 31 and have my grandmother on my dad's side, she's late 80s. I'm thankful she's still with us. I lost my maternal grandad when I was 8, my maternal grandmother when I was 24, and I never met my Dad's father as he died before I was born, my Dad was only 26 :(

thefamous5 · 19/01/2023 11:00

I'm 37.

I have one grandparent alive, she's 89 in April.

My dad (her son) is 62 this year.

thefamous5 · 19/01/2023 11:02

To add to that, both my bio grandads died way before I was born. My dad was 11 when his dad died and my mom was 17.

My other grandma passed away about 17 years ago ( I was about 20).

OoooohMatron · 19/01/2023 11:03

2 of mine died before I was born and one when I was a baby (an abusive bastard by all accounts, my Nan was relieved). My nan died when I was 22 aged 93. I have a friend who is 43 who still has 2 grandparents in their 90s.

CornedBeef451 · 19/01/2023 11:17

It seems wild to me that grown ups still have grandparents.

Mine died between 35 and 70 years ago. They'd be between 110 and 120 if they were still alive.

I'm a late baby to late babies so I love that my DCs have a relationship with my parents although I do take a lot of photos of them together...just in case. (Morbid obsession with death after a run of bereavements last year).

Enjoy your old people!

Cinammonroll · 19/01/2023 11:27

It really depends. You can be 25 and have a grandparent in their early 60s if they had your mother young and your mother had you young.
My Mum's parents had her in late 30s/early 40s. But my Dad's nearly 60 and still has his Mum.

Spacie · 19/01/2023 11:35

3 grandparents and 3 great grandparents were alive when i was born
The greats died when I was 6, 7 and 16
The grandparents when I was 1, 8 and 20

housemaus · 19/01/2023 11:41

I'm 33 and have one grandad left. The others died when I was 28, 30, and 31. So I had a good amount of time with them, which I'm very grateful for!

SuzieBishop · 19/01/2023 12:24

I'm 39 (40 in November) and have 3 surviving grandparents!! My dad's mum are dad are 84 and 83 and my mums mum is 85. My mums dad died in 1993 so my grandma's been herself a long time.
People are always so surprised when I mention I have 3 grandparents left.

user1471548941 · 19/01/2023 12:32

30 with both female grandparents left- 84 and 87!

My grandad’s both died the week before I turned 21. I was amazed to get to 20 with all 4- I am close to both sets!